How You Can Learn the Systems and Skills needed to lose 100 pounds with Fitness and Weight Loss Coach David Falco
David is the founder of the Inner Anthem Academy.
His mission is to nurture people who see their circumstances as blessings rather than burdens. He assists people in developing the confidence to pursue their goals and reshape their attitudes by identifying limiting beliefs and self-sabotage.
In this episode, David shared how he overcame the business problem he had during the pandemic that made his financial status unstable.
David talks about the time when Covid came and shook the world to its core. Countless businesses fall, and so do his.
Because of different restrictions, his gym is forced to close, affecting him and his family financially. At the same time, his wife also loses his job, leaving David in a situation where he needs to think of a plan and survive this challenge he faces.
But this challenge cannot bring David down, as he uses his skills and creativity to be still on top of his game, despite the massive loss that the pandemic brings.
David talks about that in life we will face numerous transitions in life. And the key to overcoming these transitions is to not focus on the problem but to start troubleshooting and think of a particular solution.
Furthermore, David shares how it is crucial to gain help from other people, those who have the means to help you tackle a problem in a particular situation.
David Falcon’s story is a powerful example of how in life, we will face different challenges that can bring us down. We just need to learn to adapt and not focus on the problem.
This episode of The Beyond Adversity Podcast is a must-listen for anyone who is suffering from different challenges — those who are drowning and cannot find the way up. David’s story is proof that we can win any obstacles that life throws upon us, no matter what.
“The Beyond Adversity Podcast with Dr. Brad Miller is published weekly with the mission of helping people “Grow Through What They Go Through” as they navigate adversity and discover their promised life of peace, prosperity, and purpose.
Dr. Brad Miller 0:00
Welcome to Beyond diversity. David Falco, David, welcome.
David Falco 0:03
Good afternoon. How are you?
Dr. Brad Miller 0:05
And we're talking a little bit about your present status, a bad Munich successful businessman. We know you've had a number of things you've had to deal with in your life. We could talk about a number of them. But for many of us, we have the commonality of a pivotal year, which was a challenge. For many of us, that was the year 2023, years ago from our work. But 2020 was a pivotal and difficult year for many of us because of COVID. But in your life, you have a number of challenges to deal with. So let's just hear your story a little bit, David, about some of the things that you dealt with in 2020.
David Falco 0:39
2020 was a hard year for many people, obviously, of the pandemic. I also had my first son that year, too, as well. And then, we had some professional transitions. So that was actually the year and what I kind of labelled 2020 as like just a year of transitions, okay. Transitions with my family transition, with my career transitions with many, many things. And there was a lot of stress that was going on, a lot of, like we said, even for here, some adversity that was thrown our way. And a lot of questions and concerns that were raised during that 12 months, 15 months, however long, you know, it may be, so just getting right into it. So just like many of us, when this was all going down in February of that year, is kind of like when things started to get more around here in the United States. People were starting to become, you know, mainstream media. People were curious about it. We'd been hearing about it across, obviously, in other countries.
Dr. Brad Miller 1:40
It was well uneasy time, but no one really knew exactly what was going on what it was, until probably March of that year. Yeah,
David Falco 1:47
exactly. And so I actually remember, we were at dinner with a handful of friends, there's about eight of us. And we were joking around about it. They just being extremely light-hearted. Haha, Corona this Corona that and obviously wasn't taking it any serious by any means. And we actually took a photo, it was interesting at the at the Knights end, we all got out in front of the restaurant, we all took a group photo. And then even when I posted that it online, the caption that I use was The Last Supper. Okay? And lo and behold a really foreboding there,
Dr. Brad Miller 2:23
wasn't it. My goodness, yeah, it was crazy. And
David Falco 2:25
so it is, like, just going forward. Like that was the last supper that we'd had, you know, with that even that particular group of friends now even reflecting back on it that was actually true is almost like a self-fulfilling prophecy. That was February and March, and this is what's interesting too, as well, just from a geographical standpoint. The end of February, beginning of March, when it actually got really serious here in the States. I've lived in Oklahoma City. And when things just like became just crazy, it was actually during the thunders game against, I believe it was Utah at that time. And if you guys all remember if you guys are all sports fans, they were literally about to tip-off. This was on a random I think just like during the week, they were about to tip off every bit that the teams had all warmed up and everything. And all of a sudden, nothing was happening. There was this commotion on the core people were like you could see this even looking concerned and they put up on the huge billboard, and they made the announcement the game has been postponed. Everybody needs to you know, exit the building, go home, etc, etc. And it was on SportsCenter and it was on all the other media outlets so right like they're here in the city to
Dr. Brad Miller 3:35
Kind of be somewhat symbolic of the whole world shut down including the NBA game, it crazy that everything shut down. All the big huge events, you know, the big event, I live in Indianapolis, so they shut down the Indy 500 That year, which is unbelievable. You know, that's unbelievable. So go ahead, please.
David Falco 3:54
all of the things right. And so that was kind of like the beginning of like, oh, this is here. And this is real. Fast forward to march, just like much of the United States, they shut down all non-essential. I'm in the fitness industry. At the time, I had a brick-and-mortar facility that I'd had for several years. And so I was not allowed essentially to work, provide for my family provide a service for my community, etc. It's like, so, adversity, that's number one is like okay, so how do I what am I supposed to do? How do I what do we do? So we a lot like that's transitioned now even fast forward to 2023 is like there are so many things that are online. And so we had to get creative. We had to get creative with Okay, how are we going to talk to the clientele, what our class is going to look like just like how are we going to pivot to this online? Essentially this platform into helping people with their fitness, how are we going to run classes, etc, etc, etc, etc. So we had this trial and error using you know, Facebook, zoom, all that stuff, just like many other people, right? But had gotten to the point where people would not use that particular service. You know, it's like they didn't find it either enjoyable or they just had their own challenges because just like everybody else and everything else, even from hairstylists and massage therapists to anybody that actually has to be in charge, right? Oh, yeah, kids, you
Dr. Brad Miller 5:15
know, I was a pastor at the time and everything had to shut down, you know, for Yes, close to two years and everything went online. Seems to be in a fit for the fitness industry, are you tell me now, because I don't know much about it. But a lot of that's kind of face-to-face, you know, belly to belly, so to speak, a lot of coaching that way. Is that a fair assessment of how you do? You did business at that time? Yeah.
David Falco 5:39
100% accurate. So I had been doing online coaching for five years prior to that, but nothing just a little bit, just a little bit here and there. And then so this happened. And so we had to, like really get creative on how we were going to communicate and what the service was going to look like. In 2020 33%. And probably even higher than that, I think 33% of the entire brick-and-mortar fitness industry went up, went belly up, closed down to never to never reopen.
Dr. Brad Miller 6:12
We even my own personal gym a couple blocks from where I live, closed and ended up transitioning to a school and things like that. You never come back as what it was. Yeah,
David Falco 6:22
correct. And so we were part of that statistic. I had saw how it affected us, obviously, from a business aspect. And at the point is like this is obviously this isn't working. And so we have to we have to transition and so say should I this was a really, really hard time because the reason why is like we had just had Zaman, our first son in in May of that year. So let's go over the timeline. February is kind of when it became mainstream, I believe March is when all non-essential, were shutting down. And then eight weeks later, we have our very first son. He was a COVID, baby. And so now we're like, Okay, well, we're having to pivot, we don't know what this is going to look like, we just had our first son, how am I going to, you know, prenup provides for the family, etc, etc. And then added to as well, Sasha, so my partner, she ended up getting fired from her job. So from a professional standpoint, not many people know this, but from a professional standpoint, the entire family was having to make these transitions. And so with her company, too, as well, they were downsizing, they were hit effective, like they were hit hard to as well. So they had to downsize, she was part of the downsize. So with the gym with her former position, having the new baby and then also being isolated in a pandemic. This was obviously a very challenging time, not only for myself, but for many Americans and the whole world from a mental standpoint, from a financial standpoint. But just from a just a just a living standpoint as a human being. I'm 40 I do remember the swine flu, if the listeners remember that, but it was nothing. It was nothing like this No,
Dr. Brad Miller 8:03
nothing like this. We had never seen anything like this. And if I remember correctly, David, if I go somewhere, you don't want to go, that's okay, too. But he has some health issues with your son as well.
David Falco 8:12
Yes, so my son is on the autism spectrum, too. So we didn't discover that until later. But it's just we have, yes, we have these, we had a bunch of us thrown up at us all at once. And so trying to figure out to be creative. And this is one thing that I want the listeners to understand too, as well as like in your life, you're going to have these major transitions. And these transitions could be from a professional standpoint, these transitions can be from a relocation like whether you're moving cities, moving states, whatever it may be, it could be divorce, it could be starting a family, it could be a number of those all together, you're going to be met with a ton of challenges and adversity. And my key and what I teach our students is number one is not to focus on the problem but to start to really troubleshoot and think of the particular solution. So simply just we never in our program, we never let people use the word can't. If we ever hear that we stop them in their tracks, we recalibrate and it's like okay, let's not we're not going to use extreme. So we're just going to say instead, ask yourself, How can I
Dr. Brad Miller 9:21
let me push back with you there just a little bit, David, because there's the other side of it is that? Maybe you can't but there is the but you know what I mean by that is, but David, I lost my job. But David, I had to, you know, my business moved out of the state. But David, my child was born in my case. I had a granddaughter born in year 2000. I'm a year 2020. And, and I happen to know from that perspective as a grandfather, there were certain dynamics alone about having a child or into COVID crisis which were amazing. But David, I had to have a child. But David, there's that. But there's these realities of what I'm trying to get at David. And in some cases like the year 2020, they cascade, they come one after another, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom. So But David, it's not that I can't do it. But there is so much happening to me, how do you respond to those who give you an buts you know, those type of things,David Falco:
I would immediately says like, well, we need to get started, there's no time to waste, we need to have a sense of urgency, we need to put a plan together, we needed to come up with the options that are available. And then we need to move as fast as possible. Because again, it's like if we sit here and worry, rather than taking action forward, like nothing's going to happen either way, or the situation will actually even get worse. So I'm a solution-oriented type of individual,Dr. Brad Miller:
because stress comes when adversity comes, a significant number of people react poorly to it, including, you know, all the good intentions of our physical health. How many people I've, I'm included in this group, right behind me, if I dug it out, I've got a weight bench and of kettlebells, and all kinds of things in my home office here, which is stuff I got, when my gym closed during the pandemic, I got some help equipment stuff, and I was gonna use it. So but some people let their physical health slide, do they not during appstore time to stress?David Falco:
Yes, absolutely. I think that's one of the things that always goes on the back. say always, it's one of the things that the first thing that goes on the back burner for many people. And that's even one thing in the process of this program is like we we identify different personality types, with our students by actually having them take specific personality tests to identify what their tendencies are, with a lot of our females, which is the majority of our clientele, not all of them, but the majority of them, they tend to be very nurturing, very caring, very loyal, and always attending to everybody and everything else, they're making sure that their kids are good, they're making sure that their spouse is good, they're making sure that everybody's good at work, you know, just everybody, everybody, everybody else. And they themselves, their needs, their wants, tend to typically go to the back seat. And what we see happen when you compound that over time, is not only does it affect them physically, but it also affects them very much mentally, too, as well. And they get to a point of this chasm of despair. And they're just like, they just do not like the wet they hate themselves. I mean, I've tried to put it lightly, I would, but it's the truth. And what I've seen is that they're, they're at a point where they goDr. Brad Miller:
to depression and yes, anxiety Yes, yeah. The exterior effects, whether it's COVID, or having a child or your financial situation crashing and whatever our exterior factors, but our internal, emotional and our physical health, and all those things are the implications of those things which can happen to us. But here's the question for David, what did you've met, you've indicated your situation and in 2020, you had a financial collapse, your wife, your, partner lost her, your job, and your business was in trouble. You had a new child, you had all these other factors going on? What were some of the factors? What are the things that you did and what you teach others? You just said, Okay, we need to get started right away. If you to that person who's giving you excuses. What do you say to yourself? What did you do yourself? What are some actions that you took as an advocate to help people get off the Schneid to get going,David Falco:
I went and found help. I did the exact opposite of what some people would think would be the smart thing to do in a financial situation, where they would either fall back and collapse and tighten up, I went the complete opposite. I went full force like no and I went in investing, I went invested in additional specialists and coaches for online. And so the same thing with weight loss wherever it is like you could be in a dire situation. But again, looking for a solution. And if you don't know how, whatever this is, is that if you don't know how to find help, if you don't know how to do it by yourself, or if you struggle doing it by yourself. The best advice that I could give is to find somebody who could be a quality reference and support and support for you to accomplish or move closer towards what it is that you're wanting to accomplish. Trying to do it on your own is an option. Is it the best option? Probably not. You could expedite the process simply by finding people who have gone there and done that. So that's what I didDr. Brad Miller:
was okay, so you sought out a business coach or something like this to help you.David Falco:
Yeah, absolutely. Yeah, I invest that year, particularly I invested $30,000 in coaching for myself, to help me transition into For online, so that's what we did, we ended up shutting down the brick-and-mortar gym. We converted everybody and everybody converted, who was interested from in live to the online clients. And then we sought out additional clients too, as well. But simply just getting into that type of model getting into that type of route was is like, I don't know how to do this effectively. I've done a little bit of it, but not effectively. So I need to talk to people who have what was their experience. What did they do? What were their pitfalls, so that I don't have to, you know, go through that too, as well? So that would beDr. Brad Miller:
just accurate. Did you focus on a business coach who specialized for instance, and in health clubs, or this type of thing? Or did you seek some sort of our little broader scope?David Falco:
Specifically for this particular No, for being online coaching? So that yeah, that aspect of online, online coaching, and online business, okay,Dr. Brad Miller:
within so yeah,David Falco:
so it wasn't just like, from a physical? I mean, it's like, yeah, okay. It's like, well, you help people online, but actually, it's like, how do you grow a bit? How do you grow an online business? That was, that was one of the things so one of my coaches in San Diego, helped grow an online business so very, very few people would know, the name of the company, especially, especially females. But anyways, that's what I did, I went downhill, I invested in the process, I didn't fall back and get scared, we just had to be bold and like, move forward, and maybe into an area that was very uncomfortable, which obviously, at that time was,Dr. Brad Miller:
well, let's just understand the kind of this kind of high-risk, high-reward thing that some of you were going, Whoa, wait a minute, that's kind of deep, as what you're telling us here is that you had some financial losses in your company. And you know, in your, in your, in your family unit here, instead of backing down, you invested a significant amount of money to go forward. That's high-risk, high-reward stuff.David Falco:
I would agree. It's Aisha at the time, says she at the time was like, she was very reluctant. She was very, very reluctant. Like, we'd seen this occurring. We had seen the account, start to bleed, start to bleed, start to bleed, start to bleed, start to bleed sweat to bleed and then we ended up shutting down saying now we want to go spin more, it was a very different idea of what probably she had in mind. Yeah. But we had to have that discussion.Dr. Brad Miller:
Set of a fortress mentality or drawing in, you went for it you took I'm just going to put it this terminology, you took significant massive action, kind of out of your comfort zone in order to achieve some different results. Also, based on dramatic and significant circumstances that you found yourself in that many, many people did, that many people aren't going to build, you can always dig yourself out of what you're doing. By just digging the hole deeper, you know, you just can't keep digging, digging. It's not going to work that way. So so that's one thing you did you took massive action at something different here was anything else that you did that you think was helpful to you, I'm talking about maybe an inner life process, you're talking about the kind of the business coaching, there was anything you did you uncover in your psyche, your inner psyche, or your emotional life, or your spiritual life or anything along that line, which is a part of the transformation for you.David Falco:
One thing I wouldn't say necessarily one thing in particular, but definitely just sticking to my, productive habits that I had. So a lot of people in 2020 have their habits so as I say, somebody had to transition from working in the office to now working at home. Well, they had difficulty with that transition, always working at home, you know, all on board, they spend more time you know, either just flipping through the internet or on TV or in their kitchen when they should actually be working on the computer. Right? And so it was more of was there one particular thing from a spiritual standpoint? No, it was more of identifying what does work and what is working. And like keep doing that and as we grow with these other types of skill sets, okay,Dr. Brad Miller:
let's talk let's get let's talk about skill sets then that you learned about you had to learn a whole new set of skills or at least you had to adjust your skills to meet this situation here now. And let's talk about how the skill sets that you learned are applicable now to the business you're in now and you've it you've come to a place of success you have your inner sanctum Academy, what are some of the skills that you teach and, and are helpful to people maybe not only their physical health but also in terms of there being able to overcome some of the things that they they face?David Falco:
emotional control is definitely one of them. Communication is a high pillar, of time management. And then definitely prioritization Those are probably the things that are definitely holding people back from accomplishing any goal in their life they either have poor time management, they have poor communication, they have a lack of prioritization. So those are definitely some things that we focus on Oh, and then again, emotional control. So, the things that we focus on in a lot of this is like I can't use, I'm not going to use the word therapy, I'm not going to use the word counselling, but just understanding them themselves. So as a student comes in, as I said, we identify what type of personality they are based on a series of tests that we give them. We unveil that to them like, Okay, listen. So this is typically what you tend to do in high emotional states when you're stressed out, or when you're worried or when you're upset, or here's what you do. Well, here's what you do. Well, you need to understand that and how that also reflects on a day-to-day basis. Yeah,Dr. Brad Miller:
well, just to use the context of the physical health realm of which you've what you are known for. The physical health of a person, their body weight, and their physical health are not just about a matter of being 100 pounds overweight, it is also integrated into their emotional state a little bit about their upbringing, the habits that they developed, you know, consuming, consuming a whole pizza at a frat party, instead of six beers, instead of one beer and one slice of pizza, just use one example out of my life, you know, yep, that people have that they have. But you're teaching here, then if I'm understanding you correctly, the integration of all these factors here. So let's take, let's break it down a little bit further here. If a person is coming to you, and they all just use my own self as a guinea pig here, I'm going to have, it looks like I'm going to have cancer surgery about six weeks from now. And my doc, I just met with us this morning and said, hey, it's going to serve you well if you lose a significant amount of weight in the next six weeks, and I'm about 75 pounds overweight, more or less, where I'm at, and I've, in the past, I've lost significant amounts of weight, a way to 40s what I weigh. And so if you're going to work with me in terms of some of these areas, in terms of least getting me on that pathway towards getting ready for surgery or getting ready for major life deal. What are some of the forensics, some of them you mentioned communication? What are some of the communication pieces? You would work with me? Or what are your clients with about in terms of changing patterns?David Falco:
Who in your life has a lot of influence in your day to day.Dr. Brad Miller:
my case is my wife.David Falco:
Okay, so that is one person that we would have to like, get on board. And when I say get on board is like that she needs to understand the urgency of this situation, you need to be able to convey that to her and understand and you guys can collaborate, all of us would be able to collaborate as like, Okay, you have your surgery, it would be your surgeries here. So can time management in chronological order. Your surgery is here, and the doctor said it'd be completely beneficial if you lost weight, I would ask the doctor if communication was like, What can we expect to lose between now and the surgery? And then also from their office? Like, where do I need to be? Where would you like to be what would be optimal? What's my timeline, start laying things out and mapping it out on a timeline. That's number one. So you need to communicate with your doctor, how much and by when finding.Dr. Brad Miller:
So be specific with the people to communicate with and kind of the parameters of the communication, you know.David Falco:
We got to get a game plan. So just the idea ideas are nothing, I need to lose weight, I need to make more money, I want to find love, I want to find God. Like these are ideas. And like it and that's all it is when IDr. Brad Miller:
Say you gotta measure it, you got to put some timelines on it, you gotta put a framework on it. So let's go to the next at least one of the things I heard you mentioned is a timeline or time management, perhaps that's what you said. So apply that either to my situation or to one of your clients. You've worked with a lot of people I know who've lost significant amounts of weight, apply the time management model that you would advocate.David Falco:
Number one, establish the goal. What is the goal? So same thing first communicating with your doctor, your doctor says, okay, Brad, you need to lose X. Okay, based on where he would like to see you be and where you would like to see UB, we can simply break this down into a mathematical equation and set expectations. That's the key thing a lot of times in this. So same thing as like, I'll use the I use this from a spiritual standpoint. It's like I want to grow spiritually. Okay, well, what does that mean? is very subjective, right? You want to be able to determine as you said, put some framework is like what does that mean and what does that mean for you? I want to be healthy. It's very subjective. I want to Be healthy, you want to be healthy, my neighbour and his dog, want to be everybody wants to be healthy. But we need to actually define what is. What does that mean? What does that mean for you? Right? Because what it means for you is different from me.Dr. Brad Miller:
So you're talking it from would it be even more granular about this you're talking about? If I'm understanding you correctly, you're setting a goal to lose, let's just say it's 40 pounds, you know, my overall goal for many years has been to be under 200, I'm at 240. So let's just say it's 40 pounds. And to get under that, and you So the expectation would be to set a goal of whatever it'd be a pound and a half a week or something like that, or, you know, to be to work out three times a week for 30 minutes, or to drink a glass of water, whatever it is, is this, this the type of thing you're talking about here, David? You know, actual goals of these types of things. regimented these days?David Falco:
Yeah, absolutely. So it's like, we want to put numbers behind things, again, formulate an action plan. So when you want to lose 40 pounds, so in, in our system, because that's what it is, it's a system. Okay. We anticipate you guys with for compliance to lose 1.7 to 2.3 pounds per week. Now, where do we get these numbers from, from the empirical evidence from prior students over the last 16 years, I've been doing this professionally for 16 years. So it's like when you follow this system, and you're fully compliant, you can expect to lose 1.7 to 2.3 pounds per week, and you now just become a math equation, you want to lose 40 pounds, we divide that by 1.7. At the slow end, it'll take X amount of weeks, you want to lose it faster, get 2.3, it'll take X amount of weeks, we have to establish what I what a normal rate would look like, what a slip, what slow would look like, what accelerated would look like, you want to grow spiritually. Okay? You can't just sit at home and just say like, Okay, how often are you reading your Bible? How often are you going to serve? Who are you collaborating with? Who how much like, like, let's put, let's actually put some feelers on this and like, what's the action behind it to grow?Dr. Brad Miller:
So you talk about accountability people in your life, this type of thing is what you're talking about, or some sort of accountability system.David Falco:
Not an accountability system, I'm talking about everything, a nutritional system, an exercise, the whole thing, we cover everything from the workouts that you do to the foods that you eat, again, from the time management that you have in your calendar, we collaborate with you and help you build this out. And again, that's one of the big things about this as a communication, be time management, the emotional control, that's the thing that takes the most time.Dr. Brad Miller:
All right, let's go there for a second. What is the emotional control aspect? Because that goes the integration of your mental and emotional state, to how it's manifested in your physical body? Is that not? Is that correct?David Falco:
So from an emotional state, the two biggest things that we see, boredom, especially, especially on must be working from boredom, or stress or boredom, or stress. So this is really simple. From a boredom standpoint, again, this goes back down to like your calendar, show me your calendar, show me your calendar, I'll show you your future. If you have somebody who has whitespace everywhere, and they have a bunch of downtimes, we will of course, they're going to be more up to go to their coping mechanisms. For a lot of people, it's food, I'm bored, what's in the fridge? I'm bored, what's in the pantry? So we actually go and look at what time you go to work. What time is your this to this, what time is your this, this, we established this from a 10,000-foot view, we see where these gaps are. And we need to work on an again, an action plan to fill those gaps so that you're not just sitting around, doing nothing productive. And that because that boredom will lead to your vices, stress will lead to your vices. So we come from a practical application is like, Okay, how do we alleviate that? And so whether we're battling addiction, or if I can keep you busy, and obviously, I said, busy, if I can keep you productive, simply just by like giving you more tasks to do throughout the day, we can lower the price, we can lower the probability of you eating, overeating, or copingDr. Brad Miller:
with such a lot of people end up in front of the TV, watching prices, writing stuff on their face with, you know, tater tots, or whatever it is. Yeah, and you know, been there, done that. But so let's get you to let's get practical, pragmatic. You say fill their life with productive things to do to be not bored. What is the sort of some of the things that you suggest, in particular, that some people are used to or there's some part of their social life to fill the boredom with unhealthy habits? What are some of the habits that you advocate for people that filled our lives?David Falco:
Situational, some people have kids, and some people don't have kids. Some people work. Some people work 40 hours a week, some people work 80 hours a week. Some people live in the metro, some people live in rural. There's that particular stance of it. There's more of a customization I'm sure on the individual so same thing even like maybe even like for your stand for your position when we're looking at this as like, again, where are those downtimes? How long are those downtimes? And then what can we do that would actually move you forward to where you want to be? Whatever that is, we're from a physical standpoint, from a spiritual standpoint, from a, from a family man standpoint, like there are other things that will always move you forward into the man that you want to become. So I wouldDr. Brad Miller:
say what you're looking at is for what is the particular situation for each individual person? Yes, to fill their life with meaning fullness, over meaning less Ness, is just a fair categorization or characterization of what we're talking about here. DavidDavid Falco:
1,000%, you asked me is like, what would I have people do like to fill that space, I would communicate with them and understand them, like what's important for you.Dr. Brad Miller:
So you want to just go to your prioritization aspect of what you're all about here.David Falco:
1,000%. So even in our cloud, so even in our mastering our calendar, it's like, we'll have categories for this. It could be social, it could be spiritual, it's like, we actually literally have categories, categories, and categories for whatever it is for the individual deems important. And then from there, we can map out a seven day, literally a seven day plan, from the time you wake up to the time you go to bed so that we limit the amount of time where you're doing nothing productive.Dr. Brad Miller:
Yeah. So if I'm understanding you correctly, if you said, you know, you're trying to look, you said, look at your calendar, you can figure out somebody's life, I think, got a lot of whitespace. There, you basically indicated That's trouble, that's not according to your plan. So what you're looking at is after a person working with your coaching program, in our anthem Academy, those white spaces are going to be filled up with other stuff, there's going to be you know, green, and red and blue, or whatever it is, maybe the greens for family and the reds for business. And the yellow is for working out or whatever it is, whatever system that you use, but basically, someone's life is going to be filled and not be bored. Is it Mike? Am I anywhere close to what you work with in terms when you work with people,David Falco:
You're on it, some people would refer to this, if you just even Googled, like time blocking. I think that is a term that some people have called this but it's essentially that that is time blocking and loaded again, is like what we're trying to do is to limit and eliminate any just downtime as much as possible and use that as as productive as something productive to whatever it is that you want. If you're trying to pass that class, if you want to grow your relationship with your spouse, if you want more family time with your kids, like,Dr. Brad Miller:
I've also heard a term kind of mapping out your week, and try and an alpha also described as designed your perfect week, and then you'll make adjustments as you need to, but you design it to ahead of time. And it includes put it in your blocks your times, not just you know, need to go to work. And these hours are not just I need to put in there, I'm going to read a book, you know, for 30 minutes and put that in there. I'm going to call my grandkids a certain amount a certain time or whatever it would be put in those emotional those spiritual, those emotional those family aspects, unblock them into your calendar. Is that a fair way of share of understanding what you teach?David Falco:
There are reoccurring events that happen every single week. So we start there. So we're gonna I've actually categories out to like the first like seven right? So number one is we start off with your sleep. We created an expectation for when you go to sleep and when you wake up, right? We should we shoot for seven hours. Okay? So that's the first that's there's seven hours in your day. Boom.Dr. Brad Miller:
You literally block off the end use an example from like 10pm to six 6am or whatever it is. Yep. So you put that in your if you just color code you got your your Korean or whatever is for that. Is that? Is that one of the ways you do this help? Yes.David Falco:
Yes, absolutely. It's very, some people might use the word militant. I just did I'm just it's more organized and intentional. So yes, sleep and then your work. Okay. Does the person worked 40 hours a week does the person work? 5060 Whatever. Okay, when is that from here to here? Okay, that's number two. So sleep and work are the first two they're obviously going to be the ones that always reoccur period. So we start with sleep then we go to work then from there is where I come in is like okay, now your your workouts are going to be number three. And so all I'm asking all I'm asking people is anywhere from 30 to 45 minutes per day. That's it.Dr. Brad Miller:
For those people who say David but I don't have time to work out I don't have time for others. Are you helping them find that time and to also to prioritize their life? You know, their what their big why is one way of looking at it over being a slave to their to their past?David Falco:
This drill, this specific drill eradicates that excuse 90% of humans don't even know how much time they have. They don't realize that there's 168 hours in a week. They don't realize that, you know, their work in their sleep is not even a fraction of their week. And so it's like we were literally categorize it from here to here. Winter kids stuff wins, your stuff wins, your work wins your sleep, bang, bang moment, every time. Every time. I have done this drill, we have found hours, and hours and hours of open white space. Now what are they doing now? Currently to fill those? They're on their phone? They're distracted by their distract? Yeah. So all they have a monitor typically, yes.Dr. Brad Miller:
Yeah. Okay. Awesome. So you've got this process here. If I'm hearing you correctly, you've had your own adversities to deal with. And if we dug deeper, we'd find stuff in your childhood and other aspects of your life where you were in a bad state. And you've have used essentially, more or less this process here to recover from them yourself. And you just kind of went through, basically what happened to your 2020 20. For you. Yeah, but everybody has their times to get through. And not everybody does it, they stay stuck in a state of meaning less pneus. And they need that pathway to get to meaning fullness. And you know, and one of the manifest manifestations of that is your physical health. So I'd like to hear a little bit about how this has actually played out. In your program. You've mentioned your the physical health of world. Tell me about a person or a situation where if someone has gone undergone your process here, David, and you have seen and been a part of and able to witness and be able to celebrate some significant transformation. Tell me a story.David Falco:
Even currently, she hasn't updated it this morning. I am point two, I am point two pounds away from having my 10 to 100 pound loser. If you if you don't understand like what that would mean to somebody. Like like, Well, what do you mean? It's like that you can imagine? I mean, 2020 pounds, 30 pounds. 40 pounds is significant for an individual but having somebody lose that significant amount of weight is life changing?Dr. Brad Miller:
Well, I'm one of those people I lost. Yes. 100 100 pounds about? I remember you told me yes. 15 617 years ago, 2007 is when it happened for me. And I had bypass surgery is what I did. But you know, but it is still super significant when that happens. But so I didn't mean to interrupt your story. I apologize. But please, oh, no. Yeah, you've coached now 10 people to be 100 pound losers. So tell me about that. Tell me about this particular person you're working with right now about this? I think it was a woman you said, Tell me about her about what you've seen in her. What from the time you began to working with her to where she's at. Now. Tell me a little bit about that story.David Falco:
Yeah, absolutely. And I'll tell you about her. And I'll tell you about all of them, honestly. So of these 10 people. So I've been doing this professionally for 16 years, we're creating a 100 pound loser approximately every 24 months. Why every 24 months well on the chronologically that's about how long it was take anywhere between nine to 18. But every two years, I'm having a I'm just adding another person who's lost 100 pounds, like clockwork, basically every other year. So the this current lady, she's a mother of two she works in the office. She started this is week. This is a she's in her 15th month, she's in her 15th month. Again, timeline wise number one is it doesn't matter about an age, gender or whatever. We got to set down the timeline. We have a system behind this, it's going to be 1.7 to 2.3 pounds per week. So if you want to lose 100 pounds, we're looking somewhere in between. Like I said, that timeline is somewhere between like 52 weeks to as quickly as the fastest I've ever had anybody do it was nine months. My very first one. This is great. I'll actually talk about her first. Her name was Leila. I love her to death. At the time she was 64 years young. I say young. She was 64 years young. She cameDr. Brad Miller:
I am 64 myself.David Falco:
She was 64 years young. She was 240 pounds. She was on seven different medications. one, maybe two knee replacements. She also suffered from vertigo. So I'm obviously not the poster child for health and she came to me. She was getting close to retirement. And obviously she had these aspirations to go and travel and you know you know that everything that people talk about during their retirement? Well, her body obviously was a failing her. I mean, she could move she couldn't. I mean, everything was everything is complicated. Everything is complicated having that much extra weight. So we started her very first workout. This is so funny, I remember this was back when I had my one on one studio. So this was actually a live client. And that's a point that I wanted to make as all these people, these 10 people, some of them were in person. Some of them were online, some of them, some of them were one on one. Some of them were in a group style, so there is no right or wrong. There is no right or wrong like path. It's just the path. Right? So even think even thing with religion. It's like there's some universal truths. But everybody has their opinions on how to get there. Long story anyways, get off talk, but it with Lita, she did it a nine months, we set some boundaries and expectations. And then even with her on what she decided to do, I'm not going to share on how we did it. But she decided that she was going to execute in this type of manner. And she did now she did not she only deviated from our protocol, twice in the entire nine months, two times. One of them was on Thanksgiving. And one of them was on Christmas. But that in an entire nine months, she had only deviated two times.Dr. Brad Miller:
Discipline was a huge part of her process.David Falco:
Discipline. But yeah, but then again, having a system behind us. So she only worked. So she worked out three times a week, for 45 minutes that she met with me. So two hours and 15 minutes total. You guys got to understand this. Two hours and 15 minutes total out of 168 hours. She didn't do anything extra. The foundation was her nutrition. And what we modified with that and how she behaved out side of the gym was more important than what she was doing inside the gym. She threw up on her first very first session, She lasted probably not even five minutes before she actually had to excuse herself to go throw up. She came back. I looked at her I said Are you okay, you're gonna make it? She says, Yeah, I think I said, All right, let's keep going. And we continued on with the session.Dr. Brad Miller:
A lot of people would give up right then because there's Yeah, after all the throw up, you know, that kind of stuff like people would say, forget it.David Falco:
My favorite thing about Lila and like I said is I don't know where she got this from. But she was she was an extremely hard worker. She was very disciplined and consistent. My favorite thing about her is like when she showed up to that session that day, I said, Alright, this is what we're going to do. She had zero complaining, she had zero. Questioning, she said two words. Okay, let's get it actually is three. That's one two hours. But yeah, so the two things that she said, Okay, I said, this is what we're gonna do today. She goes, okay, and not once did she question it not once she had faith, she had faith in me.Dr. Brad Miller:
Yeah, faith issue, and probably some hitter stuff going on as well. And I'm a believer, and that they just don't have true transformation, it does take you, you got to take the physical part of the action, you got to connect with a higher power, you got to connect with your inner life, you got to have some self understanding of something greater than yourself. You gotta have a process, which is where you come in with your system. And then you need to serve others, you know, with love and care and you need that bigger, your bigger why? You know it for me, for instance, I have two little grandchildren five and two, who I really want to see grow up and things like that, you got to have a motivating factor there. So so that's that's good. So it just to just to understand that these women, these cases to them, you mentioned here have been inspiration inspirational to you as well have a need to affirm and confirm that your process. It works. It works for some at least right?David Falco:
It works. It works. It doesn't work. It doesn't work. For some it will work if you put in like I said it's like a basic thing is it's not based off of opinion. This is based off of numbers and facts. Men, men lie women lie numbers don't. Yeah, we have. And we can't say prove that's even a thing in research. You can't say prove, which says research has shown that when you do when you do this, the higher compliance with when you do this, this is the outcome that happens.Dr. Brad Miller:
It goes back to your aspect about control and about your time timelines and so on. So you know what you're sharing here, David, Falco has a lot to do with transformations that you make personally, that you've applied to others, and then you're sharing it through your coaching. So I bet there may be people who are listening to us now and who are thinking okay, I'm ready and what you're Teaching here is going to be helpful to me whether it's a bit of a physical transformation or may apply to other aspects of life. But if people want to find out more about you, David, or about what you offer, and what you're all about, how can how can they find out more about what you're about?David Falco:
The fastest way is through Instagram. My handle is at free Falco, underscore fitness, that's the fastest way that's the platform I'm the most active on I am on Facebook, David Williams, but I'm most, the fastest way to get a hold of me would be through Instagram is the easiest way to find a correspond with me. A couple key points, though, want to talk about and just the weather, you guys all need to understand this. And whether it's you're trying to lose weight, it's whether you're trying to grow spiritually, whether it's you're trying to improve your relationships with your spouse, or your kids, whether it's you're trying to grow financially, whatever it is that you're wanting to accomplish. The key points that I guys that I want you guys to understand is number one is don't go at it alone, find support, this will be the biggest thing. So when we're talking about adverse situations, it's like you have the option to go alone, it's not going to be the best, you want to find people who have been there that have done that, that can show you on what to do, but also show you on things not to do so that you avoid those pitfalls, and that you can expedite the process. That'd be number one. Number two, you need to establish a system, it's not what we're going to do, but it's like how we're going to do it, there needs to be action behind that if you don't have that, and we're just spinning our wheels, it's the same thing. You could possibly stumble upon your your objective, but I've never found anybody successful. And either sobriety, in weight loss in financial, I have never found anybody who's successful, who's happened accidentally.Dr. Brad Miller:
So you've got to do it, you can't do it alone, you got to be a humidity and you got to have a system, you said one more thing wasn't.David Falco:
In the system. And then number two is like there needs to be consistent. There needs to be consistency and accountability for that. Again, I think that's also with with the support too, as well. Trying to do it up trying to do it on your own is an option. But again, if we're all left, or our own vices, the majority.Dr. Brad Miller:
And that's where coaching and having a process of which you provide can be part of that. And we're gonna we're gonna put connections to what you're all about in our show notes at Dr. Brad miller.com. And it's fascinating thing, it's a needed thing. And it's, you know, the physical health aspect. I do. It's a drip, basically, oftentimes, it's a symptomatic result of a person's stress and other areas of life. And it's pretty well known, and yet it's a reality. We have to deal with it and you've done it and you're dealing you're dealing with it and you have the you know, you got the receipts, you've got people who've lost that lost 200 pounds, who you have that going for you and most importantly if you got the result of receipts from your own life to show for it. So a fascinating story. David, appreciate you been with us and our guest today on beyond adversity. He is from the founder of the inner hantam Academy. His name is David Falco, thank you for being our guest today on beyond adversity. Thank you, David.