From Dancing with Michael Jackson to Relationship Coach Helping Men and Women to Understand One Another through Gender Intelligence with Andre Paradis
Andre is a relationship coach and is the president of Project Equinox.
Project Equinox’s mission is to clear the misunderstanding between men and women by teaching the concept of gender intelligence. When both parties understand each other’s perspective, that is the only time respect and understanding communication form, a vital component in any relationship.
In this episode, Andre shared the journey to finding himself, the three phases of his life, and how he eventually arrived at the career he loves.
Andre talks about how he was born into the wrong family and felt different from his childhood.
But eventually, his life started rolling as he discovered his talent for dancing. And soon, his first career began in the dance entertainment industry.
As time goes by, Andre realizes the toxic environment he was living in in the entertainment industry and switches to having an auto repair shop business.
Andre’s automotive business is a success. However, because of his curiosity about everything, he finds another thing he is passionate about being a relationship coach.
Andre also discusses the issue of men and women not understanding each other, which becomes the underlying problem in a relationship. However, when men and women understand each other, there will be polarity in the relationship because they will now complement each other and cover the weaknesses of one another.
Andre Paradis’s story shows that no matter our circumstances, we will eventually discover our path to finding ourselves and have a passionate life doing what we love.
Episode 271 of The Beyond Adversity Podcast is a must-listen for anybody on the path to discovering themselves and pursuing the things they love—those looking for a story of a man who went on a long trip before finding his passion.
“The Beyond Adversity Podcast with Dr. Brad Miller is published weekly with the mission of helping people “Grow Through What They Go Through” as they navigate adversity and discover their promised life of peace, prosperity and purpose.
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Transcript
Dr. Brad Miller 0:00
You say you have a calling in your life to serve other people.
Dr. Brad Miller 0:03
But in order to get to that calling, you've had to go through a
Dr. Brad Miller 0:05
few things. So to give us a bit of your story about how you came
Dr. Brad Miller 0:12
up, to find yourself where you're at now, through facing some
Dr. Brad Miller 0:16
challenges in your life.
Andre Paradis 0:18
Oh, yes, try to make that concise. This three phase in my life,
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this is number three phase of my life. started when I was born
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in the wrong family was something I believed that I got to
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when I was five years old, it was disconnect with I was a
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black sheep. But it was beyond that. It was like not fitting in,
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like somebody had made a mistake was very interesting, very
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strange. So at five years old, I kind of put my feelings and my
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thoughts together and realized, I don't belong here. This is not
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my people, you know, kind of weird, very scary, how's that
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possible? feeling completely. I was on my own. And so off, I
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went with life taking care of myself that way. But what
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happened to me is that at that very young age, I became
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super aware and pay attention to the world people. How is
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it possible right turn to understand my circumstances. By
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watching I started observing the world at work, especially
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people, I became fascinated with people like the human
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condition and how do you turn out like this? Why do you turn
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like this and explaining my so that was sort of my radar. My
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by beat my brain has been like this since then I'm
Andre Paradis 1:28
watching people behave. Life. What does it mean? How does
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it work? Why does this person is successful, this one's not.
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So that was sort of how I started. That'll be the way my brain is
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wired and what it's looking for. So fast forward a little bit. Sad,
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little kid, confused, loner, I get to high school, I went to a private
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high school and for physical education program, they had yet
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options, you could sign up for different things. And I'm almost 16
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years old, and this cute little girl comes up to me and said, Oh, my
Andre Paradis 2:03
God, I'm glad you're here. I want to take ballroom for PE but we have
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to sign as a couple. You want to sign up as a member? What?
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And I didn't know she knew existed. I was like I said, the invisible
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person, right? With this cute little thing, you know, asking me to
Andre Paradis 2:18
dance, but I'm gonna hold it in my arms. But yeah,
Dr. Brad Miller 2:22
Sounds good. Sounded pretty good. And yeah,
Andre Paradis 2:24
it was fantastic. Hey, like, if he was dorable, a little thing.
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So a week later, we signed up a week later, we're in class.
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And I remember this, like, I'm looking at you right now. And
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it was so it's so still vivid. I have her in my arms, just the
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bottom class, I think we're learning the Cha Cha, the teachers
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on my right. And what, as he starts teaching us the steps, I
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like he copy everything instantly. I just almost like I knew this
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already. And I just remembered. And I just
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remember it was really quite
Dr. Brad Miller 2:55
come to dance, you were a bit of a natural then it was completely,
Andre Paradis 2:58
you know, like, like I said, I felt like I knew all of this. And it just
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got to be called and it was instantly. So I will go from the geek
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and informants because I'm the guy who hit dance with all the
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girls and they all want to dance with me because I'm instantly
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sort of know how to whatever. So I go from Geek to star. And
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obviously, I'm visible and popular word. So even with a program
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to school, we started doing performance in school, every quarter
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special events, we were actually outside the school to perform
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we still had a small troupe. And I can tell you is that's the only
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thing I wanted to do. It lifted my spirit it made me smile the
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sad kid was now smiling because that sort of there's something
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about moving your body to music, the vibrations of both, like
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singers will tell you this they'll sing and hit it no and they start
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crying because the you know, like the physiology and the sound
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coming together just like it moves the spirit moves the heart
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and I experienced that dancing was like coming together
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super powerful. So that's all I wanted to do. Like from that
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moment on all I want to do is dance because they made
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me smile made me happy. It took the depression off my brain.
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My parents thought it was insane. I mean, I'm in Montreal,
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there's you can make a living at dancing. Okay, how can you
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I'm supposed to go to school to be become an architect, but
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that none of that will became relevant. I just wanted to breathe
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and smile. I just wanted to breathe and feel alive. So I had 19
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So I did this for almost four years and 19 and moved to the
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West Coast getting away from everyone really, my family first.
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And I get to the West Coast Vancouver there's no borough
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is everyone on the East Coast. There's none of none other West
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Coast is Arthur Murray, which is not what I do. Right. So I
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ended up searching some kind of way to incorporate dancing back
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in my life and ended up in a jazz class Jazzercise, jazz hands,
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which is what I've done for years. Okay. It's very, very different
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than conditioning for an hour right? The stretching the conditioning,
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the strength building the alignment all this Before you get to dance,
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not what I was into, but okay. And so I took class twice a week, and
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within three months to get an assistant saying, they gave
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me a scholarship where you get to train for free. They see talent in me.
Dr. Brad Miller 5:17
at this dance studio, right? So we're talking about, all right.
Andre Paradis 5:21
Yes. So now become part of the system where I'm one of the
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upcoming, whatever potential, you know, okay, that was, again,
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it was odd. So in from that moment on, I never paid for any
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training. It was studio artist studio after studio, I even ended up
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in a ballet studio, because you had to go back to linear base,
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the base of ballet is very, very straight, linear, right? The structure
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of dancing and your bodies. So I end up in ballet studio, just because
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it was a layer that was not quite in place. I got a scholarship there.
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It was like, it's ridiculous. So and then within this, again, my brain was
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still have to go to school becomes something, even though all I was
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wanting to do is dance, and has the door opening up in front of me.
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I remember thinking, I think this is what I'm supposed to do. And, well, I thought
Dr. Brad Miller 6:15
You thought you were also the direction this is I'm on track for my life.
Andre Paradis 6:20
Like things kept happening to show me that path. Like, despite
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me crying, really, which is interesting. So after a while thinking
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like, I love this, it's all I want to do. Financially, I don't know
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where it's going to take me. So I'm not able to go to school
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at this point. I'm just working as a construction worker. And
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I just thought I go to work or go dance or go to work or go
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dance and like I said eventually was like, like, I think I should
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give this a shot. Everything is lining up to push me in that
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direction. And I thought okay, well, let me just try it a couple
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of years. And if there's something here, it'll show up, and then
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I'll go back to school or something, right, like that's just needed
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to try it out. Somehow. It was calling me okay. Well, long
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story short, I find myself in Los Angeles on a vacation a couple
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of years from there. And I get discovered in a studio, a dance
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party with all local dancers, people who do what I want to do for
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living in Los Angeles and my girlfriend for two weeks. And either
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we get discovered like my own Hollywood story, the guy came
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up to me and said You know, I don't know who you are. I've
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never seen you before. But you know, I love this national
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we're doing and loss of dancer four months ago so
Dr. Brad Miller 7:34
this was this was not an audition where you were purposely going
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to some
Andre Paradis 7:38
absolutely not
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call out to some Viva show or something like this. You're at a party
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somebody says you, boom you're on your way.
Andre Paradis 7:45
Yep. So it gives me the job. And that was my first professional
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job and again, I ended up you know, literally staying and
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going on the road with that job
Dr. Brad Miller 7:58
when you went on the road unit go on the road with
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some pretty big name people eventually did you?
Andre Paradis 8:03
Well that first job was Chippendale so I was actually a
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backup dancers for the strippers so I wasn't a stripper though.
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I was part of the Shogun service can dance. So there was
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four dancers or six strippers, and we actually got on stage
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and kind of pumped the shows the show was incredible.
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By the way, it was incredible. 2000 women at age 22 shows
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and I five days a week, making money making tips. It was
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absolutely wild and fun. And it's my first paying job, which
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kind of confirm, hey, there's a money here's some money
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doing this right so I did this for about a little bit less than a
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year and a half in life on the road is not sound glamorous,
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but it's not. And also as a dancer, professional dancer, you
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have to keep training, you know, being on the road dancing.
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I don't for the same show every night kind of numbs you.
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Your strength slips your timing slips naturally. And then, you
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know, sex, drugs, rock and roll. That's life on the road. So I
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remember thinking is this really fun, but after a year, plus a little
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bit over a year and a half. And I'm like, I need to go back home.
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I need to get back in my life. This is just a job. It's gonna be
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nowhere. I'm making money, but it doesn't this doesn't build
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anything. Right. I'm gonna get off the road and see what you've
Andre Paradis 9:09
been with tripping nails for five years. How does it help me right?
Dr. Brad Miller 9:14
yeah, that was you kind of hit a wall there. You were not really.
Dr. Brad Miller 9:18
You first was going pretty good. And that while you realize, okay,
Dr. Brad Miller 9:21
is this all there is? Is that what I'm picking up on?
Andre Paradis 9:24
Absolutely. Absolutely. I actually realized how dangerous it
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was. Because when you only had the responsibilities, hotels, a
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big for salaries, food, right? We made money, put it in our pockets,
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and party. That's all we did. We had fun. We dance. We partied.
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We worked out with 10 and we play with the ladies like all day long.
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So it was here. There's something really interesting about that.
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And that's when I discovered this very traditional. I have I didn't
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realize how traditional I was until then. So I have to getting
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over all the fun it becomes perverted. So And this is a lot of
Andre Paradis:reason why celebrities lose their stuff. Because when life is
Andre Paradis:easy when life is just fun, in order to continue having fun,
Andre Paradis:fun becomes normal. So in order to have fun, you have to up it.
Andre Paradis:And then a couple of months later, yeah.
Dr. Brad Miller:And that's part of the that's part of the addictive nature of it
Dr. Brad Miller:that isn't, you know, you have to keep getting bigger and
Dr. Brad Miller:bigger, stronger, push, and whatever it is, it could be
Dr. Brad Miller:money, alcohol, drugs, any number of things.
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All of it lifestyle. Yeah. So you know, like that could get, like,
Andre Paradis:the audit, you don't have to have fun. You have to have it.
Andre Paradis:It was one of the guys that have been doing the show for
Andre Paradis:five years. And I remember looking at him, and I started
Andre Paradis:sounding like him. You know, they say stuff like that, like,
Andre Paradis:I'm totally into Kevin. And I knew he was good. I knew he
Andre Paradis:was screwed for life. This guy was never going
Andre Paradis:to be normal again, his reality was
Dr. Brad Miller:this epiphany moment, okay, I see myself in
Dr. Brad Miller:this guy. I don't like what I see.
Andre Paradis:And it turns out that look a more traditional, they thought,
Andre Paradis:I want a family and a wife, eventually, if I don't get out of
Andre Paradis:here, this will all be impossible, because it will never be able
Andre Paradis:to respect a woman again. Because all we see is the same
Andre Paradis:type, you know, so I quit. So now I have money. I go, I move.
Andre Paradis:I make my way to Los Angeles. I get settled, I get an agent.
Andre Paradis:And I'd start auditioning for music videos and movies and
Andre Paradis:commercials. That's the business. That's what we do. There's
Andre Paradis:a big debt that if you're going to do this for a living, you
Andre Paradis:have to be Los Angeles. So I got settle. I started auditioning
Andre Paradis:and like I worked in we did this you organize and stuff.
Andre Paradis:But this is when within about two years, I got to work with
Andre Paradis:Michael Jackson. I got to work with Prince I got to work with Paula Abdul. Two years Apollo with Julio Iglesias and a bunch of people that attended an hour
Dr. Brad Miller:Were talking abouth the elite, the biggest days of the biggest
Dr. Brad Miller:names. I mean, say that Michael Jackson, do Oh my goodness. Wow.
Andre Paradis:Yeah. And then traveled the world because within this in
Andre Paradis:that business, you perform and you teach. So if I'm
Andre Paradis:going, you know, I was in Thailand for four months,
Andre Paradis:I produce and choreograph a show for the biggest pop
Andre Paradis:star. That was another channel.
Dr. Brad Miller:So you were teaching other dancers, other professional dancers?
Dr. Brad Miller:Yeah. Like in Thailand and other places? Is that what I'm understanding.
Andre Paradis:around the world, but also when you come back to Los Angeles
Andre Paradis:after being on the road with the biggest, you know, Thai
Andre Paradis:pop star, like our Janet Jackson here, like this credit to that,
Andre Paradis:right? There's this there was with social proof come back
Andre Paradis:from working with Michael Jackson, and your class is full,
Andre Paradis:because people want to be with a guy who's gonna go to
Andre Paradis:Michael Jackson right there. Sure. So the business supplies,
Andre Paradis:performing and then teaching, always performing and
Andre Paradis:teaching and traveling to perform and or teach.
Dr. Brad Miller:and the whole thing is pretty lucrative. And it's
Dr. Brad Miller:the high of the lifestyle and if
Andre Paradis:Yeah, fantastic. Yeah. I came back in Los Angeles.
Andre Paradis:When I was in town. I was I had my own studio demo studio.
Andre Paradis:I was I was hired. I was, I was teaching in a few
Andre Paradis:studios I've seen like, at one point 14 classes a week,
Andre Paradis:which is a lot physically. And I was really quickly
Andre Paradis:after I got settled within a few months, I was actually
Andre Paradis:looking for my woman. I was done all the crazy stuff.
Andre Paradis:I'm 27 years old in empathy for my woman. Okay,
Andre Paradis:Radar is going we are going I'm a male teacher are
Andre Paradis:surrounded with 45 young beautiful women all day
Andre Paradis:long. And they're like, like, I'm the leader. I'm the
Andre Paradis:teacher right? There's so options open. So the radar
Andre Paradis:just doo doo doo doo doo doo doo looking
Andre Paradis:for the one on top of my head.
Dr. Brad Miller:I gotcha. Yeah.
Andre Paradis:And eventually, my wife walked in the studio. And that was it.
Andre Paradis:She came into my class a little bit late and I remember seeing
Andre Paradis:her from the corner of my eye and I looked in the mirror I don't
Andre Paradis:know who that is. She came around the space stood on my
Andre Paradis:right behind a little bit mid room and I turned around
Andre Paradis:and that was it. I mean, I can't explain it to you
Dr. Brad Miller:so it's something hits you and she has a similar vibe at the moment
Andre Paradis:she did not you know and my experience now doing this
Andre Paradis:work is men typically know pretty much instantly the marry
Andre Paradis:the woman they're going to marry we have a knowing of
Andre Paradis:that this intuition like this is her I found her like a vibration I
Andre Paradis:don't know how to explain it. Women take typically longer to
Andre Paradis:get there because the question differently so I've a lot of lot
Andre Paradis:of data on this men know first, this is my wife. This is like ahead
Andre Paradis:of time, like meeting her the first time so that's what
Andre Paradis:happened to me. And sure enough, this is my woman. I have
Andre Paradis:married her. We're still together today. We have two kids and
Dr. Brad Miller:Wow. That's awesome. How long have you been
Dr. Brad Miller:married at this point? Just give me
Andre Paradis:30 years together.
Dr. Brad Miller:Wow, that's awesome. That's awesome. That's awesome.
Dr. Brad Miller:In particular, given the circumstance you came from, I'm
Dr. Brad Miller:sure there's lots of folks that you were of your contemporaries
Dr. Brad Miller:in the dance world in the entertainment world, whose
Dr. Brad Miller:marriages and everything else fell apart? Is that a fair assessment?
Andre Paradis:Well, because the business makes you crazy, and the
Andre Paradis:business and then the this the amount of space and play
Andre Paradis:time, you know, twist your mind, like, if you consider
Andre Paradis:syllabaries, the world famous Michael Jackson, Prince
Andre Paradis:Paul Abdul, or anybody who's, you know, Whitney Houston,
Andre Paradis:you know, all those famous people, they can go anywhere,
Andre Paradis:yeah, they can go to the store, they can go to the mall,
Andre Paradis:they can go to the amusement park, they can go to nothing.
Andre Paradis:So they have to hide in their houses, or go to their friend's
Andre Paradis:houses and play pool all day. But that isn't, you know,
Andre Paradis:they don't they work twice a year, depending on the kind of,
Andre Paradis:you know, if they're doing movies, as opposed to whatever,
Andre Paradis:most of them don't work enough to fill up their space.
Andre Paradis:So they're standing around having nothing to do with their rich,
Andre Paradis:so they're bored, but they can go anywhere. So they go.
Andre Paradis:And it's, you know, so I mean, I've seen the males where the
Andre Paradis:past is, they go to somebody's house, they start partying,
Andre Paradis:they bring the hookers and then it all goes to hell, like
Andre Paradis:that's the sort of the lifestyle is dangerous.
Dr. Brad Miller:And we know the stories are very, very evident of those big
Dr. Brad Miller:names who have crashed and burned. Michael Jackson,
Dr. Brad Miller:Whitney Houston, two names you mentioned that are very
Dr. Brad Miller:prominently, you know, their lives were crashed. So you found
Dr. Brad Miller:you So you found yourself Adria in this world here. And just
Dr. Brad Miller:world of entertainment and dancing and all of what this is all about.
Dr. Brad Miller:Something must have snapped with you because you ended up
Dr. Brad Miller:getting out of that completely and going into a field. You I want
Dr. Brad Miller:you to tell the story of how did you end up going from this
Dr. Brad Miller:world of a Edson entertainment to automotive, helped me out
Dr. Brad Miller:with this. It'll still seem to go together. You ready? You owned
Dr. Brad Miller:a auto repair shop or something like that. But let's let's
Dr. Brad Miller:take this twist a little bit here.
Andre Paradis:nearby. So what happened is my wife, we're married when
Andre Paradis:we're both traveling the world because she's a ballerina. So
Andre Paradis:she's teaching and dancing as well, you know, different different
Andre Paradis:lineup, you know, because she's a ballerina, but so we're both
Andre Paradis:traveling, and she's her career and her daughter. She's tall
Andre Paradis:and thin and a ballerina, right? That's right. So but eventually
Andre Paradis:I want to start a family again, so traditional, didn't know this.
Andre Paradis:So when a sort of family and it took us a little while because
Andre Paradis:she didn't want to ruin her body, her career, whatever, cool.
Andre Paradis:But when we decided to get pregnant and start a family,
Andre Paradis:I was not because, again, I raised myself, my family was in there
Andre Paradis:and I was not going to be absent. The absence of dad, I was
Andre Paradis:not not going to be I was going to be in Europe, when my kids
Andre Paradis:are, I'm not, you know, I mean, that was it became it became
Andre Paradis:the trigger where I'm not doing this anymore,
Andre Paradis:like 15 years of traveling the world.
Dr. Brad Miller:So you had a bigger perspective, you could see you could project
Dr. Brad Miller:out maybe not everybody can but you could project out family
Dr. Brad Miller:kids lifestyle was, what you were doing was not conducive
Dr. Brad Miller:to this bigger vision. And I think that's important piece here.
Dr. Brad Miller:Your bigger vision is what helped you then to make some
Dr. Brad Miller:decisions based on your present circumstances.
Dr. Brad Miller:So is that a fair assessment of where you're at?
Andre Paradis:That's exactly it, like 15 years when this this stuff is amazing,
Andre Paradis:you know, but it sounds glamorous, that it's that you know it
Andre Paradis:and so the idea of having children of not gonna be absent
Andre Paradis:was gonna be in their in their lives. And by design because my
Andre Paradis:own man and my own boss always been so I've just had
Andre Paradis:design my life to make that work. And that's where the body
Andre Paradis:shop came in. Because I literally, we decided to start
Andre Paradis:having, you know, kids, I call my agent, this is okay, so I'm
Andre Paradis:not traveling anymore. If you want to, you know, do the work
Andre Paradis:in Los Angeles, or I don't like I'm not traveling. I'm not getting
Andre Paradis:on the plane. I do local work. Work that out. But and she's like,
Andre Paradis:What, are you crazy? I'm like, No, I'm having a baby.
Andre Paradis:So now because so my family, one of the things that my
Andre Paradis:family passed on to me is there's I have four of three brothers
Andre Paradis:is four men in my family. My dad was a car guy, so we were cars.
Dr. Brad Miller:All right. So that's part of your background. Okay. I gotcha.
Andre Paradis:So especially in Canada, all cars don't exist anymore because
Andre Paradis:they rusted out in Los Angeles or everywhere. So I used to
Andre Paradis:drool over classic cars everywhere. So the idea of and I had
Andre Paradis:a few plastics myself, I started collecting cars when I was
Andre Paradis:dancing, and had two maybe three at the time, and that's
Andre Paradis:just they just love that stuff. So I decided to open an auto
Andre Paradis:body shop to kind of like as a fix for my need to be around
Andre Paradis:classic cars and restore them and say, Okay, I saw it. It
Andre Paradis:started with the classic cars and it turned out to be there's
Andre Paradis:no money in restoring cars. So in a big collision repair shop
Andre Paradis:and it'll be a parent that exploded by the way, like,
Andre Paradis:as soon as I open the shop like it's loaded.
Dr. Brad Miller:So just to clear your bid you you had success and the
Dr. Brad Miller:entertainment dance world, now you kind of take a really a
Dr. Brad Miller:90 degree or 180 degree turn and go into auto body work and
Dr. Brad Miller:restoration. And that succeeds as well. Is that right? And so
Dr. Brad Miller:you're sure you're going you're succeeding in both these tracks? Right? Yep. Yep,
Andre Paradis:and so much that within a few months, like I forgot
Andre Paradis:dancing altogether, there was still time and space for that
Andre Paradis:it was not part of my new reality. It was interesting because
Andre Paradis:I used to travel the world and go out to work. Now I'm sitting
Andre Paradis:in my business before come into me, I don't have to go anywhere.
Andre Paradis:Wow. Like what a switch like that was cool. I like that idea
Andre Paradis:of traveling again or even doing so and again, we got so busy
Andre Paradis:so quick, that I got sucked in and then the machine of it has
Andre Paradis:to you know, I had to be present so instantly like what ad
Andre Paradis:in a few months. Okay, and that was my new life.
Dr. Brad Miller:So your succeeded there. And then you ended up and I just
Dr. Brad Miller:needed to get one is to start to move towards what you're
Dr. Brad Miller:doing now. And then you you said success as a dancer now
Dr. Brad Miller:you've had success as a businessman and automotive repair
Dr. Brad Miller:place. And now you are relationship coach. So tell me about
Dr. Brad Miller:the shift then from you know, from the car world being a you
Dr. Brad Miller:know, a local business owner to now being a relationship coach,
Dr. Brad Miller:something had to snap there to something had to shift there as well.
Andre Paradis:It's so did it was funny, again, seemingly random, like my life was
Andre Paradis:people things lined up in front of me. And without this silly me
Andre Paradis:planning it, which is, I still, you know, that's what I call like fate,
Andre Paradis:like, it was just the way it was gonna happen and had to
Andre Paradis:develop that ways. So because of my brain and my
Andre Paradis:curiosity with the human condition, and my own condition,
Andre Paradis:I was, since I was 23 years old, I was taking personal
Andre Paradis:development workshops. Personally, one after the other
Andre Paradis:after the other after the other, like that was the guy in
Andre Paradis:a workshop on the weekend. And my friends were like,
Andre Paradis:What are you doing? You know, even the beginning? Like
Andre Paradis:it was even considered weird. When you mean to get to
Andre Paradis:sit in the workshop all weekend. It's so weird, you know,
Andre Paradis:money workshops, personal development workshop, like,
Andre Paradis:oh, you name it. So that was that's my radar with this.
Andre Paradis:This a lot of relationship stuff. Like anything personal
Andre Paradis:development always goes back to your relationship with
Andre Paradis:whatever it is that you're struggling with, with yourself.
Andre Paradis:Anyway, so in 2006, that had the business for six or seven
Andre Paradis:years at the time. Still, that guy still that brain
Andre Paradis:always inquiring, I ended up in Northern California in
Andre Paradis:a 3d workshop about a business workshop networking
Andre Paradis:workshop to raise the ceiling on the profit that it was
Andre Paradis:making my business. I took it as far as I could.
Andre Paradis:I wanted more. Let's go learn. So in San Jose, three days,
Andre Paradis:come back on the plane and I met a couple in the workshop.
Andre Paradis:So we're sitting again, talking about random or faith and
Andre Paradis:there was random was not the girls. The lady says to be
Andre Paradis:shoes. What are you doing next weekend? I go next
Andre Paradis:weekend I'm off why, she goes, I want to invite you to a workshop. It's on me.
Dr. Brad Miller:Of course, that's where you weren't.
Andre Paradis:where I went, you know, it's, those can be expensive.
Andre Paradis:She's copying me. She's inviting me. It's local, by the airport,
Andre Paradis:of course. And then I go away after I agree. I go
Andre Paradis:what's the workshop? She goes, it's called understanding women.
Dr. Brad Miller:Understanding women all right, right. You've had this
Dr. Brad Miller:history of having in intense and a little bit of experience
Dr. Brad Miller:with women. That wouldn't have been a common experience
Dr. Brad Miller:for a lot of men. Let me put it that way.
Andre Paradis:Right. And an ease with this. I always attract it sweet with
Andre Paradis:my wife, my wife. Okay, right. So I always attract a sweet
Andre Paradis:women that didn't do the crazy stuff. My friends did the yelling,
Andre Paradis:screaming the misunderstanding that, you know, like,
Andre Paradis:I didn't do any of that I attracted sweet women. And I thought
Andre Paradis:I do something. I thought it was me my artistic personality,
Andre Paradis:whatever. So now I'm going to spend my weekend in a
Andre Paradis:workshop on the same women going, oh, like, what are you
Andre Paradis:gonna teach me like, this is right, by the way. So I went into
Andre Paradis:a little bit backwards, thinking it was gonna be cute. When I
Andre Paradis:walked in, it was foreign to people in the space. And the energy
Andre Paradis:I remember thinking, oh, let's not keep this something's going
Andre Paradis:on here. Something like intense is going on here. And sure enough,
Andre Paradis:sat down. This half half half women, half men which is interesting.
Andre Paradis:And the girl next to me the whole time. And at the end of the
Andre Paradis:workshop, my brains over the walls completely exploded. I realized
Andre Paradis:I knew nothing, nothing. Nothing about women with men.
Andre Paradis:I knew nothing about my wife. As a Steinway have two little kids,
Andre Paradis:a toddler and a baby. And the realization that I knew nothing
Andre Paradis:about how she processed things, how she operates how I wish she
Andre Paradis:would motivate her with why she thinks personally all this stuff
Andre Paradis:that I could we all have a sense of that, but we don't know why.
Andre Paradis:And so when I realized the danger of not knowing that
Andre Paradis:I lost my mind, like, all my friends, all my siblings are married
Andre Paradis:and divorced twice, three times. One is four times,
Andre Paradis:I have my angel, my baby girl, right? My angel with my two kids,
Andre Paradis:I'm not going to mess this up, because I didn't know.
Andre Paradis:Right for my brain is unthinkable. So this is how I was started, I ended up taking the entire two.
Dr. Brad Miller:So you took all these classes, and it's kind of transform
Dr. Brad Miller:you and how you view women and, and how that's a big
Dr. Brad Miller:part of what you're all about now on your relationship
Dr. Brad Miller:coaching Project equinox.net. And so, I want to get a couple
Dr. Brad Miller:of things out of you here in terms of what you do now
Dr. Brad Miller:and how it relates to our audience, and what their needs
Dr. Brad Miller:are. Because we have a lot of people who have messed
Dr. Brad Miller:up lives in one way or another divorces or self sabotage
Dr. Brad Miller:all kinds of things that go on when you have adversity
Dr. Brad Miller:in your life. And I find that there's some things that are
Dr. Brad Miller:kind of common that, in your experience, what do you
Dr. Brad Miller:think, are some of the actions that you took, I think
Dr. Brad Miller:you've named them that helped you to move from a lifestyle
Dr. Brad Miller:of destructiveness to one where you're now feel like you're
Dr. Brad Miller:doing something that is beneficial to others,
Dr. Brad Miller:what are a couple of actions that you took?
Andre Paradis:Well, I just, I was always curious, that was just something, I
Andre Paradis:was curious. I'm curious about everything. And that kind
Andre Paradis:of like, ended up putting me in a position where I discovered
Andre Paradis:stuff that was I was passionate about. So when I started doing
Andre Paradis:the relationship stuff I used to start it for, make sure that me
Andre Paradis:and my wife were going to be okay, that's, that was my only
Andre Paradis:reason to do this. Like, I was not gonna be statistic,
Andre Paradis:I didn't know, I needed to understand all of this, I didn't
Andre Paradis:understand me within this, the reaction, the stuff, we don't
Andre Paradis:know this, well, we don't know this really dangerous, I
Andre Paradis:can tell you this. Now this all I do for a living like this
Andre Paradis:dangerous, what we don't know about each other, and
Andre Paradis:how we function in whatever. So that's how that was the
Andre Paradis:beginning of it. I became a worship leader for that company
Andre Paradis:with a teacher. So that was, Oh, wow. And I've always
Andre Paradis:wanted at the back of my head when I was doing personal
Andre Paradis:development stuff, I would always look at this, the
Andre Paradis:person would find going, you know, I could do this.
Andre Paradis:I'd be really good at this. Like I had it, almost like
Andre Paradis:a premonition of what was coming.
Dr. Brad Miller:So I think you pick up on two actions right now that you did
Dr. Brad Miller:here. You were curious, which means you're asking questions,
Dr. Brad Miller:you're gonna have a learning mode, about yourself.
Dr. Brad Miller:So the curiosity learning mode, and then you also taught,
Dr. Brad Miller:you mentioned teaching, and you're dancing and the other
Dr. Brad Miller:things in life, and you taught in these workshop areas.
Dr. Brad Miller:So you did did those things as well learning and getting back
Dr. Brad Miller:or, you know, relearn and return. Some people call that
Dr. Brad Miller:and that, that's awesome. Also, it seems to me that when
Dr. Brad Miller:the moment came, you, you jump, you actually did something
Dr. Brad Miller:about it did let the moment pass by, you know, you moved
Dr. Brad Miller:from Canada to the west coast to do some things. You
Dr. Brad Miller:had this opportunity to play a lot of people if somebody
Dr. Brad Miller:invited you to a workshop, and the plane didn't take, oh,
Dr. Brad Miller:who is this weirdo or whatever not do it. You've you did it,
Dr. Brad Miller:you did it. So that's, that's awesome. So let's talk a bit
Dr. Brad Miller:about kind of go let's go to spiritual level here for a second,
Dr. Brad Miller:I've heard you say, in some of our conversations that
Dr. Brad Miller:you feel like you have a God sent calling. And so let's
Dr. Brad Miller:talk about that for a second. I'd like to think about what do
Dr. Brad Miller:you see about what you're doing now in terms of your relationship
Dr. Brad Miller:coaching? How does that connect to something bigger than
Dr. Brad Miller:itself? Is there any spiritual element to this as any, any
Dr. Brad Miller:thing on kind of a metaphysical plane here we're talking about?
Andre Paradis:So thank you. Good question. So I was raised Catholic, and
Andre Paradis:my parents took it to a level of demandingness like it was
Andre Paradis:not even as a kid and all of us had the same thought like
Andre Paradis:what the hell is wrong with them? You know, in the name
Andre Paradis:of God, they create a lot of destruction within the
Andre Paradis:family in the name.
Dr. Brad Miller:by all of us you made your brothers and sisters
Dr. Brad Miller:have a similar experience is what I'm Understand. Yes. Okay.
Andre Paradis:Yeah. All right. Yes, parents were insane with this so religion
Andre Paradis:was crazy was dangerous was hurtful was evil in the pain
Andre Paradis:that he created, the name of God was insane. Like in the name
Andre Paradis:of God, I want to hurt you, because you need to live. And
Andre Paradis:so I rejected all of this earlier like the rest of my siblings had.
Andre Paradis:So I'm operating through all I can tell you is that we're always
Andre Paradis:operating to the good side. Did I mean like the good side
Andre Paradis:always pull me like if I don't necessarily believe in God, I
Andre Paradis:believe in good and bad. And I'm going to step into the
Andre Paradis:side of being good, but myself, the way I operate in the
Andre Paradis:world, the way I treat people the way I'm service and
Andre Paradis:helpful, just because it resonates with me as the right
Andre Paradis:thing to do without any spiritual guidance. However, what
Andre Paradis:happened is, the more I trained and the more so when I
Andre Paradis:started teaching these people again, same thing people came
Andre Paradis:at me at I have a car business, and I'm helping my clients, I
Andre Paradis:closed the office door because people are crying in my
Andre Paradis:office. I'm the guy that people open up to again. So
Dr. Brad Miller:not many people do that with their car guy.
Andre Paradis:It's so weird. And they were like the employees so much the
Andre Paradis:employees, we know that when the doors closed, somebody's
Andre Paradis:crying don't open don't come in, right. So again, so that was,
Andre Paradis:again, the opening up of the challenge of like, people need this,
Andre Paradis:you're good at this, you have information this and they're
Andre Paradis:asking you, you don't have to offer now, and then my
Andre Paradis:friends at the same thing. And all of a sudden this machine.
Andre Paradis:So the calling was my dad, my dad dies, God within
Andre Paradis:this, that was years ago, years, he like over 13 years ago.
Andre Paradis:So 14 years ago. Anyway, I'm in Montreal, on on with my
Andre Paradis:sister driving to the funeral. And my sister is struggling
Andre Paradis:with a marriage. And so here I am. And she's asking questions,
Andre Paradis:as she says to be, by the way, at that time, I didn't really
Andre Paradis:want to do with this if it was compelled to keep digging and
Andre Paradis:learning. And she says to me, this was like a God moment.
Andre Paradis:And she says, she was my God, you're
Andre Paradis:amazing at this, you should teach this.
Dr. Brad Miller:Okay.
Andre Paradis:All right. So then it became that moment, sort of a, this that cute,
Andre Paradis:I want to do I want to be the workshop leader, I want to teach
Andre Paradis:this to the masses. And that was the beginning of probably going off.
Andre Paradis:That's how it started. So I had two businesses for a long time
Andre Paradis:building this business. As the body shop is flying. So your head,
Dr. Brad Miller:you're so you had your aha moment, then you're thinking,
Dr. Brad Miller:Okay, this is bigger than my self. Now, your sister kind of
Dr. Brad Miller:pushed her button in the sense of, Okay, put her finger on it.
Dr. Brad Miller:And now you're doing it, you're teaching it. So let's talk for a
Dr. Brad Miller:minute about your, what you did to change what you teach.
Dr. Brad Miller:Now, what are some of the things that you teach? I'm talking
Dr. Brad Miller:about process now? What are some things you teach in the
Dr. Brad Miller:process to be helpful to people? What are? What can people expect to find? If they call upon you to help them?
Andre Paradis:Well, what we're like what I said earlier, is, it's where you don't
Andre Paradis:know this dangerous is where you don't know this messing you
Andre Paradis:up, it's where you don't know, that is a problem. You don't know,
Andre Paradis:you know, if you're a man, you don't understand women, you
Andre Paradis:don't know why they take things personally, why they're so sensitive,
Andre Paradis:why, you know, they they go from being okay, one second
Andre Paradis:and not okay, in a second and back to Okay, back to dinner,
Andre Paradis:in this way, the cheese gear, and we don't understand that.
Andre Paradis:And we get frustrated with that, which makes it a bit worse.
Andre Paradis:So it's, again, it's not understanding the mechanism, the operating
Andre Paradis:of a female and a male because we're completely different creatures.
Andre Paradis:And, and none understanding this, we know we're different,
Andre Paradis:but we think we're just a little different. But like, you know,
Andre Paradis:John Gray, Mars and Venus, which is one of the guys I've trained
Andre Paradis:with, that's the bit that's more like two different freaking
Andre Paradis:galaxies with that the same in any way. It's actually we're
Andre Paradis:completely will be completely in opposition, but we'll need to
Andre Paradis:complement it fit together. So until you understand that we're not
Andre Paradis:supposed to be the same. And the beauty of it all is that we're
Andre Paradis:not the same, but what I bring to my wife is something I don't,
Andre Paradis:she doesn't have and what she brings to me is the part that I
Andre Paradis:don't have masculine, feminine, ying yang, right? Leader
Andre Paradis:supportive kind of thing. There's, there's a, there's a, there's
Andre Paradis:a complimentary of each other's natural essence as
Andre Paradis:masculine, feminine. There's a polarity, that is natural,
Andre Paradis:like everything in nature is polarized,
Andre Paradis:ying yang, black, white magnets, right, positive, negative.
Dr. Brad Miller:And so what's so what's your about if I'm understanding that
Dr. Brad Miller:Andre is helping men to understand this a little better women,
Dr. Brad Miller:women vice versa, and for them to understand each other?
Dr. Brad Miller:Because there's a lack of understanding in all these areas,
Dr. Brad Miller:people not understanding themselves, historically, not understanding
Dr. Brad Miller:each other not understanding or having an appreciation of
Dr. Brad Miller:the other gender. And so what's, what's an exercise?
Dr. Brad Miller:Or what is something that you do for women, for instance,
Dr. Brad Miller:that's helpful to them? What is one thing?
Dr. Brad Miller:You help them to find a problem? What do you do to help them?
Andre Paradis:So I called it this is a term that was created by Dr. John Gray.
Andre Paradis:It's called Gender intelligence. Right? We have like intellectual
Andre Paradis:intelligence we have you know, I mean, there's different like,
Andre Paradis:emotional intelligence that we do this big. There are popular
Andre Paradis:terms. Gender intelligence, I tell I teach both men and women
Andre Paradis:if you're a woman, and want to be in a relationship with a
Andre Paradis:man, you have to cross the bridge into man world and try
Andre Paradis:to understand and really learn what motivates men. Why
Andre Paradis:they do what they do, why they tend to be stoic. They'll
Andre Paradis:share their feelings. It's not because they're jerks. And because
Andre Paradis:they're cold does that because we have no feelings. It's quite
Andre Paradis:the opposite. But there's a mechanism and instinctual mechanism
Andre Paradis:in place there for protection provision to handle my stuff
Andre Paradis:quietly to not be emotional, because emotionally you know, if I'm
Andre Paradis:emotional, I lose, I lose myself. So I'm gonna stay on track,
Andre Paradis:right? So there's all these instinctual pieces it just the way men
Andre Paradis:are wired naturally and to not understand that creates a lot
Andre Paradis:of confusion for athletes. So same thing with a man I go if
Andre Paradis:you want to be in relationship with a woman, right? Cross the
Andre Paradis:bridge to a woman world and go learn why women say I
Andre Paradis:need so little I can get it. Why they take everything personally,
Andre Paradis:why they get their fingers hurt so easily. Like why is that?
Andre Paradis:Again, it's all anthropological work. It's all based in our
Andre Paradis:caveman cavewoman in a hunter gatherer with a we
Andre Paradis:think we're beyond this, that we're educated evolved and
Dr. Brad Miller:Okay, you've used the metaphor of crossing the bridge here,
Dr. Brad Miller:go into man world for a woman for him, man go into a
Dr. Brad Miller:woman world. What's What's one of those ways that you actually
Dr. Brad Miller:take the steps for a man, woman world, for instance,
Andre Paradis:I teach them the operating system and a woman what
Andre Paradis:instinctively a woman needs to feel safe now, because if
Andre Paradis:you're just men don't know this, because we don't have ever
Andre Paradis:an awareness of feeling safe in the world needing to be
Andre Paradis:safe in the world, need to be connected to each other. Right?
Andre Paradis:Men are stoic, and they do well on their own. Women
Andre Paradis:need to feel safe in the world and feeling safe awareness,
Andre Paradis:connection, connection for me just talking, you know,
Andre Paradis:community relationships, that that's what they're looking
Andre Paradis:for all the time. So, if if we are stoic and tend to be aloof with this, it hurts their feelings.
Dr. Brad Miller:Okay, so, so talking communication is a key to this. So if
Dr. Brad Miller:the man is used to being a little bit on the stoic or aloof side,
Dr. Brad Miller:to be very intentional about talking, even if he didn't like it that
Dr. Brad Miller:much to do it is so part of your hair and you say, What's one
Dr. Brad Miller:thing that the woman could do if she was going to man world
Dr. Brad Miller:if she wants to try to break through those barriers or get across that bridge?
Andre Paradis:Beautiful question, what happens is because we're stalling
Andre Paradis:because we don't talk so much, because we can tend to hold
Andre Paradis:our feelings back and sort of bury them really just added protection.
Andre Paradis:Women think we're shallow women think we don't have feelings
Andre Paradis:when we think we're cold. When we think we're disconnected
Andre Paradis:when we think we're selfish. That's what it looks like, to a being
Andre Paradis:with us to connection to feel safe. We don't need that.
Andre Paradis:So not understanding that, you know, women of judgment,
Andre Paradis:get frustrated, and they're trying to change him. And that's
Andre Paradis:a terrible mistake as he was trying to change the man, you
Andre Paradis:don't get the man you don't respect the man, and he's
Dr. Brad Miller:just kind of a trigger issue for a lot of men.
Dr. Brad Miller:Anyhow, try to change me. You're right.
Andre Paradis:You can't it's disrespectful man. No self.
Dr. Brad Miller:self respecting, maybe
Andre Paradis:Thank you, No self respecting man will stand for being control
Andre Paradis:or try somebody to change him. And if you don't get him,
Andre Paradis:you know, as women if you don't get him, which means
Andre Paradis:you don't understand why he's doing what he's doing and
Andre Paradis:decide he's going to have to do it your way, as a woman,
Andre Paradis:where you're more comfortable, it falls apart, and men just
Andre Paradis:jump off, and she thinks he's a jerk. But you can't do it.
Andre Paradis:That's not how it works. This is how you bring him into
Andre Paradis:adjusting for you. So that's what I'm teaching, understanding
Andre Paradis:the instinctual mechanism in place that how it works,
Andre Paradis:and how do you bring out the best in him. So you feel safe
Andre Paradis:and connected, he understands why, and you have to
Andre Paradis:meet in the middle I call the sweet spot
Andre Paradis:where you meet somewhere in the middle.
Dr. Brad Miller:So the sweet spots where we're going so Andre,
Dr. Brad Miller:who do you serve, and give me an example of a
Dr. Brad Miller:person that you've that you have served.
Andre Paradis:So both men and women, I have a men's group and my
Andre Paradis:women's group, but I, the big world, like life changing
Andre Paradis:work is one on one clients, where women come at me
Andre Paradis:with injuries and both men and women who have injuries,
Andre Paradis:most of us nobody gets out of childhood unscathed.
Andre Paradis:So they between the age of five and 11 the formative
Andre Paradis:years as you know, this is where we make decision about
Andre Paradis:the world, ourselves life and people. And a lot of people
Andre Paradis:walk out of childhood with feelings of neglect, abandonment
Andre Paradis:and abuse on some level sometimes some people have
Andre Paradis:all three all the way up to sexual and you know, whatever.
Andre Paradis:So people to hurt people to insure it and we know that
Andre Paradis:if a little girl doesn't feel safe in the world, and there's all
Andre Paradis:the you know, something even abandonment even
Andre Paradis:though there's no physical trauma but abandonment is a
Andre Paradis:trauma so little girls who felt abandoned had to man up
Andre Paradis:and their feminine gets neglected as they grow up. That's
Andre Paradis:just one of the natural again, it's a defense mechanism.
Andre Paradis:Young men who don't get to man up No daddy, no role
Andre Paradis:model raised by a woman, Mama Bear. Be our cat castrated
Andre Paradis:and don't aren't aren't able to step into being masculine,
Andre Paradis:which destroys the quality of the license both sides so my
Andre Paradis:clients are people who realize the codon loop, right women
Andre Paradis:wants relationship but they can't even get a man to date
Andre Paradis:them a second time. They can't they can't get in relationship.
Andre Paradis:They can't sustain leadership is always the same disaster.
Andre Paradis:Then you realize, well, it's always me, right? I'm the
Andre Paradis:common denominator. Like I need to find out and that's those of my clients.
Dr. Brad Miller:Yeah, this one As they come to you give you an
Dr. Brad Miller:example of someone who's come to you, and they're
Dr. Brad Miller:in your testimony, give me someone who has had some
Dr. Brad Miller:good thing happen out of being going.
Andre Paradis:I have a bunch. So one thing you may not know is I officiate
Andre Paradis:weddings as well. So before COVID, I made I made for my
Andre Paradis:couples. I remember in one and I'm doing one in the end of
Andre Paradis:March, march 31. In Vegas, I'm flying to marry one of my
Andre Paradis:couples, I'm going to Texas in April, to marry another couple.
Andre Paradis:So I have one couple that just got married. So this Candace
Andre Paradis:is on the east coast. And she started with me, 14 months
Andre Paradis:ago, within four months, she found her husband, understanding
Andre Paradis:this whole thing, opening the channel, being feminine,
Andre Paradis:being willing to be in a relationship, understanding that
Andre Paradis:whole dance for herself for him, you know, bringing the
Andre Paradis:best out of each other. He was looking for a wife, you can
Andre Paradis:find anybody who was respectful, until she came along
Andre Paradis:and understood respect for men, and how to be cherishing
Andre Paradis:him was fantastic. So within a year, they got
Andre Paradis:married, and now she's pregnant.
Dr. Brad Miller:Awesome, awesome. Good news there. So Andre, if
Dr. Brad Miller:somebody if there's people out there who are women,
Dr. Brad Miller:particularly but women in men and women event who
Dr. Brad Miller:resonate with your story, and with what you have touched
Dr. Brad Miller:on here about this dynamic between women and men,
Dr. Brad Miller:and they want to get on that bridge, at least take a step
Dr. Brad Miller:on that bridge that you talked about there.
Dr. Brad Miller:What are they going to find if they go to Project Equinox?
Dr. Brad Miller:So how can you be helpful to them?
Andre Paradis:So I have a gift for you listeners, if you want. Absolutely.
Andre Paradis:So so it's kind of twofold give depending on who's listening,
Andre Paradis:who wants whatever. So it typically, in podcasts, people
Andre Paradis:who show up in podcasts are looking for information.
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Andre Paradis:I will send them for free. There's a book that I sell called the
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Andre Paradis:Awesome, he's an ebook, you have a paperback and you
Andre Paradis:could have it like digitally. And I'll just send you for free.
Andre Paradis:It's something everybody else has to buy. If somebody is
Andre Paradis:more with action driven, wants to actually step in. In the
Andre Paradis:topic, again, email me Andre coaching, one at Gmail and
Andre Paradis:in in a subject matter just so just right talk now. And I will
Andre Paradis:send them a link to my calendar where they can put a
Andre Paradis:exploratory call with me for an hour, and we'll talk about
Andre Paradis:what's working with the challenge, where they see
Andre Paradis:themselves stuck, figure out what they want dream,
Andre Paradis:I called it, and then I'll discuss, you know how
Andre Paradis:I can help them. That call alone is super.
Dr. Brad Miller:Great. Well, that sounds awesome. But the and we'll put
Dr. Brad Miller:links to all of this. So your website, Projectequinox.net.
Dr. Brad Miller:And the emails are such that you mentioned all that our
Dr. Brad Miller:website, DrBradmiller.com. Fascinating story, Andre, just the
Dr. Brad Miller:we'd like to talk here on Beyond diversity about kind of the
Dr. Brad Miller:wilderness pathway that people go on in order to get to their
Dr. Brad Miller:promised life. And that always has its ups and downs, and
Dr. Brad Miller:it's highs and lows, but you have a fascinating one to go from
Dr. Brad Miller:a difficult childhood and the things that had there and,
Dr. Brad Miller:and then to the world of dance and entertainment and
Dr. Brad Miller:wild living and that kind of thing, to have an automotive
Dr. Brad Miller:shop. And now being a relationship coach in helping to
Dr. Brad Miller:kind of nail this or really put some framework on this
Dr. Brad Miller:nebulous area of the relationship between men and women
Dr. Brad Miller:and understanding the other side. I love that metaphor
Dr. Brad Miller:of the bridge, maybe we get more people on that bridge
Dr. Brad Miller:to the other side. That can be a helpful thing. So great.
Dr. Brad Miller:Well, we appreciate that's that's the mission as you say
Dr. Brad Miller:you have a God set calling to do such and we do know this.
Dr. Brad Miller:There's a lot of misunderstanding between men and women,
Dr. Brad Miller:which leads to all kinds of other stuff. And we want to do
Dr. Brad Miller:what we can be do to be helpful in that. Appreciate you
Dr. Brad Miller:being with us, my friend. His name is Andre parody. That's
Dr. Brad Miller:a P R A D I S. His website is projectequinox.net And he's
Dr. Brad Miller:all about coaching and relationship coaching. And he's
Dr. Brad Miller:been our guest today on the beyond adversity podcast
Dr. Brad Miller:with Dr. Brad Miller. Andre, thank you for being our guest.