“Drop Dead Alive”: Setting Your Promise Given Agenda for 2023

Drop Dead Alive in 2023. Hello, good people. And Welcome to the Beyond adversity podcast with Dr. Brad Miller. That's me Dr. Brad Miller from Dr. Brad miller.com. A pleasure and a privilege to have you to join me. As we talk a little bit about the transition into year 2023. A lot of people talk about resolutions and goal setting and new directions as they we prepare for the new year. I'm coming to you today on December 29 2022. From the loft offices outside of beautiful Indianapolis, Indiana. And I just got a few things I want to share with you today that's on my heart. Last week on our Christmas episode, we talked about defining moments. And I shared with you a couple of defining moments regarding my health and my future. And some things I want to share about how to set your agenda and the way that I like to do it called the X button plan to help you to set an agenda set your promised direction for 2023. And one of the things that have may have slipped by you perhaps but not for me. It caught my attention. On December the 20th 2022. There is an item that came out in the news that really caught my attention when I was growing up. I'm 64 years old and my one on my football teams was when I was growing up in my teenage years and that it was one of my favorites was the Pittsburgh Steelers but the Pittsburgh Steelers back in the 70s. When I was in school, they were the team world champions on several occasions. They run Super Bowl many times they won like four or five Super Bowls. In the 70s. One of my favorite players that they had back then was a guy named Franco Harris. And this past week in fact, this past weekend, they were celebrating on one of the football games one of the broadcasts that Pittsburgh Steelers, the play they call the Immaculate Reception which happened 50 years ago this week, which is where Franco Harris played running back caught this amazing pass on his shoe tops that was tipped by another player and he ran for a touchdown and started this series of winning events for the Pittsburgh Steelers. And that was amazing thing and he died this past week at age 72. I want to share with you two things about Franco Harris that are important to Mary to be important to me as we dive into this whole area of transitions and living a full life. One of the reasons that Franco Harris has a meaningfulness to my life is that is an obscure thing that most people would not pay attention to. But if you were in my particular circumstance, in 1977 and 78 then you would remember Franco Harrison the Pittsburgh Steelers for interesting reason. They'd won the Super Bowl, they were world champions and so on. But in December of 1977 at the school, I went to University of Evansville Indiana, with a terrible tragedy where a plane crashed, which had our entire University of Evansville purple laces basketball team on board, and they all die. They all perished. On December 13 1977. In some of those guys, I was 19 years old at the time, they were classmates of mine at a small college, one of the guys who got in my same high school guy named Tony and it was devastating to deal with, for me and for my classmates and for all the people that committed to deal with credible tragedy of death of young people at such a young age. Of course at age 19 You feel pretty invincible as I did, but what happened without the relation with the Franco Harris and the Steelers is that after this terrible tragedy in February of 1978, the Pittsburgh Steelers basketball team came to Evansville. And this is just you know, not too long after the Super Bowl. They came to Evansville and they played a charity basketball game the players did get some alumni of the College to raise some money for all the expenses and all the tragedy of the moment. And Franco Harris was there and I sat near the front row and watched him and his teammates and he was the center of attention. He was the star of the team and I'm so appreciative that they came to my little University and my little our little town to help us out and be there for us in our hour of need. And I will always be a Pittsburgh Steeler fan because of that for for many reasons, but that's one of them. And he was definitely the you know the star everything back then fast forward to what happened. This recently where they were doing special reports about Franco Harris getting ready for the 50th anniversary of the Immaculate Reception. Some film crews were doing a report of what Franco Harris did that week. On the day he died. He would had made the during the day before he died that night on December 20. He did a public appearance at some shopping mall or something there in Pittsburgh and it showed Franco Harris having a good time with young people signing autographs cutting up with little kids taking pictures. is engaged. In fact his wife was with him was trying to pull them along, get away, but he really was engaged with the people around him. And he loved it. You could tell he was loving it, he was loving the attention. He was also loving, getting me back to the community and he's loving, living life. He was fully alive. Here hear me on that fully alive. On the day he died. He died that night. And then he was celebrated a couple days later, with all the accolades around the whole country, really, but especially football fans, about the Immaculate Reception and so on. And I'm always thankful about what he offered to me and my classmates and others back in 1978, but also what he offered to those kids and some Marlins Pittsburgh, and the day he died, he lived a life of fully life and the words he dropped dead fully alive. And I love that reminds me a little bit I'll speak more about him in the future. But a good friend of mine named Bob who was a missionary, I'm a pastor I profession, one of my buddies was a missionary in the Democratic Republic of Congo. And the many things he did there is he rode his bicycle, and he brought bicycles to the villagers there and the various places he went, you're on his bicycle across the Congo 1000s of miles to various places his bicycle. And he dealt with malaria. And he dealt with civil wars and all kinds of stuff. He retired in a year or so after he retired in his, in his hometown, not too far away from where I live, doing what he loved it he was a was a just a fully engaged cyclist, he loved the cycle hundreds of miles, every summer and all year round, really. But on his bicycle, he had a massive heart attack and died. And he died doing what he loved doing. He was even though it's a tragic loss, of course, he died doing what he loved doing serving other people, and on his bicycle, in the saddle, so to speak. So I want to talk a little bit today about my life and some things going on with me and what day they have impact for you. Moving forward, and how you two, as you prepare and get ready for 2023 can live life fully alive till the very end, and drop dead alive. One of my key Bible verses that I love to kind of base my life on is a John 1010. And that goes that I came, Jesus said he came that you might life to the fullest, or life abundant. But thinking about that verse a lot, and a lot of things about my life, about how can I change in order to be fully alive? Around the New Year's time, think about what kind of changes can we do to be better if we think about resolutions and goal setting and things we can do or losing weight or your you know, being better husband or a better spouse or better parent or whatever it would be or to make more money or whatever the case would be. We want to get things better. And to get things better. We have to change. I was interested to see that Google every year they put out video called the Year in Search in the urine search kind of lays out what Google saw, were some of the the greatest search terms, the most search terms that they have they all these different categories, of course, but the overall theme of the year. And if there's back in 2001, the main key search term was how can I heal coming out of COVID, and so on in this year of 2022, their key search term that Google have and have a great video on I'll put links in the show notes for this are how can I change? How can I change? And I've been thinking about that a lot. Because last week some of you may have listened to my special Christmas episode I talked about defining moments, and how there's certain events that happen to us. And certainly here on the beyond adversity podcast, we talk about adversity, we talk about events that happen to all of us, that change us or force us to change or they impact us and we choose and how to react to them. We like to talk about the five ds of adversity, they are depression, anything to do with our mental health or divorce anything have to do with our relationships, disease, health related matters, debt, financial matters, and then death end of life matters. And we talk about those a lot. And how'd you get through those Phaedra theme here on Beyond diversity is we like to help you to grow through what you go through in order to overcome adversity to achieve your life of peace and prosperity and purpose. But there are events that happened to us and kind of wake us up and give us a different perspective. And I mentioned to you and the Christmas up Christmas episode of Christmas is kind of a defining moment you know between before Christ and after Christ and the winter solstice be been the longest the longest night to begin to see some of light and decision making that we make. And I had a defining moment for me recently, I've mentioned a couple have mentioned to you in our last episode that I had a diagnosis which was confirmed just two days ago that I have cancer. And that's a malignant cancer. And then I also have the complication of heart disease that goes with that, that got my attention, as you might expect, my own health is suddenly come front and center with me. I'm going to talk about that and how that's changing my perspective what I'm about moving forward by also thought about this in the context of Christmas time celebrations with family one of the things what Christmas time celebrations means for me is getting together with my three adult children, and my two grandchildren. And just a great family celebration, of course, one part of the Christmas celebration when my one son was home from Oregon for several days, we took him out with my two grandchildren who are ages, my granddaughters are ages five and two. So it's a great day with my wife and my adult son. And my two grand daughters who are from my adult daughter,

we went out bowling and did an arcade and when the McDonald's do stuff you do for five year olds, a two year olds giggly, little girls who had a great, great time. But here's what I noticed here. And what cut me thinking about one way to talk to you about here today, I'm watching them, watching my two granddaughters, five into just vivacious little girls having a great time. And I'm looking at their faces, where they're giggling and laughing and talking to grandpa and grandma and uncle Bolin and Fab and fun the arcade and french fries. And but also bet, I'm looking at your faces, and I'm trying to imagine, what are these little girls gonna look like? When they're 1819 20 into their 20s when they're making, when they're having those decisions in their life, those adult type decisions, those defining moments in their life of graduating from high school and go into prom and get married. And babies, whatever will be whatever it will be, I tried to imagine seeing their faces as young women. And I was forming that image in my mind that image in my mind, I'm thinking man, that's gonna be awesome. And how I really, really, really want to be there and be a part of that, and want to be a part of that. I've got to be alive, and want to be a part of that I only want to be alive, I don't want to be just existing, I want to be alive. So I want to take a cue in my life from people like Franco Harris and my friend Bob, who lived their life fully till they were dead. So that's why I've kind of theming this talk here today. And a lot about mine, we're gonna be all about in 2023, with what I'm calling the phrase drop dead alive. If you think about it, who in your life really wants to die at any life lingering along lingering illness or something like that. Now, we don't want to die most most people don't want to die by tragic accident or at a young age. Most of us like to live to a good age and be vibrant and vigorous till till the day we die. That's what I want to do. And I particularly am motivated then by my relationship to my grand daughters, and my adult children, and by you, because I just feel a compulsion here in 2023 to serve you for listeners of the Beyond adversity podcast, and the people who consume my content. And who think I have something to say, because I do I do. I come to you from a background in ministry, 42 years in pastoral ministry, where I dealt with people, all kinds of circumstances, diseases, and all the other things I've talked about here. And I dealt from a pastoral perspective. And that's important. And I love being a part of people's lives in transformative transitional times. In those tough times. I feel privileged when I'm there, when I would be privileged to be part of your life and some of the transitions in your life because I think that I can be helpful. I cared so much about it, that I went on to this whole area of transformation and change that takes place I went and got a doctoral degree in transformational leadership, which helps me that's what my doctorate is in transformational leadership. It's called the Doctor of Ministry. And using that background and that teaching and leading, I think it's been helpful to be working with people individually in coaching and other things like that in the past, but I feel the need then to share more of that with you, including my own processes that I go through to help me now to deal with my new defining moments that are helping me to rethink my direction and purpose and, and my promises moving forward. So let's talk about that very common in December of every A year for this kind of thing to happen for you to hear lots of things on television and books and on podcast, and on YouTube channels about, Okay, what's your goals? What are your resolutions for 2023. And then we also hear some of the things that put a damper on all that about a year, all your resolutions will be broken. By time, February rolls around, there will be, they'll all be broken. And that's kind of depressing in a lot of ways. But I want to talk to you about the process that I use to help me help me a little bit of this defining moment for me moving forward. And I think it might be helpful to you. And as a part of the teaching that I do here on Beyond adversity, that I think may be helpful for you, we're going to take those defining moments and use those I talked about some eye health issues. For you, it might be a marital issue, it might be something to do with the death of a loved one, it might be to do with a new job situation, whatever it is, we got to take those defining moments. So those things we want to change about ourselves. Remember, 2023, according to Google is the year of change. So let's talk about that. You got to want to change, so you got to understand what you want. So I'm going to share with you now what I use is make a list of what I want to need moving forward plan a process to help me refine and define and to gain clarity about what I really want to actually do actually do I call it the big button x method, a CTS, the big button x method, first thing you're doing, but it's just to make a list of all the things that you want. Okay, I'm going to suggest 50 Put 50 things on the list. Everything you want just could be health goals, it could be financial goals could be work related things that you want in your life, it could be all those things that you want in your life, they can be big ag, B hags, big, hairy, audacious goals, they should be things that are have meaningfulness to you, whatever it is make a long list. And this is kind of your starting point. And we'll define those down a little bit. Maybe categorize them, I'm encourage you to categorize them in like financial goals, and to emotional, you know, spiritual goals, mental related, or cognitive goals, or writing or relationship goals with your spouse or your kids career goals. And you might want to put them out that way, put them out that way. But I'm really not going to talk to you about goal setting here so much I really want you to categorize, I want you to think this more about you what do you want to see happen? Okay? What do you want to see happen in your life, but you got to write them down, and you write them down on a piece of paper or line it up, categorize it, however you want to, there's several categories, I'd say there is at least four categories you want, write them down, it then let's talk about how to look at it here. Now. Many people would say at this point, okay, now you gotta put your resolution together. For the new year about what you're going to do about these set of wants and needs. I'm not the biggest believer in that word. Resolution. To me, resolution is kind of set up for failure type of word brings kind of a pressure or an order type of vibe to it, there's the legal easement as a be it resolved that such and such and such a such a such a this will happen. It's an order, it's a decree. To me, that kind of sets things up for failure, because we know New Year's resolutions are often not resolved. Because of that pressure, I believe there. Because what's involved with that is guilt and failure. And we don't want to go through that cycle of guilt and failure. Every January, February, I've lost the same five pounds for 30 years. But then again, a back and forth to long, joined the gym, whatever it is, then you when you break that resolution, you go into a cycle of guilt, and failure. And it's a setup for failure. I'm not big on that word. However, I would say that the application of decision making and be have a personal resolve to do things is important. It's a part of the process. But it's not the whole thing. If you set yourself up with resolutions, it's kind of a recipe for failure. There's also the word goals. A lot of people say hey, this is a great time for goal setting, a goal setting and I do believe in that, as I mentioned that you want to write down 50 or so things that you want and need, and they can be goals in your life. And a goal is an accomplishment of a desired outcome. You're going to football games or how about football earlier, you have the goal of getting the football across the goal line and you've accomplished that and you have a goal of having more points at the end of the game. Then then the other team and yet a goal is a finite accomplishment. And I we believe we got a string along a lot of finite accomplishments, and it's time bound and that's good but the motion that I feel with goals is kind of a temporary thing. It is a part of the overall process,

the temptation. I hate to see that because I'm just really speaking myself is

after you achieve the goal is to relax, to let up because I've achieved that, while I'm there. I remember, several years ago, I lost about 50 pounds, and I got my weight, just my certain goal, which was to be under 200 pounds. And I got to 199. And I'm there, I'm there. But guess what, it just as a matter of days, for ticked right back over 200. And be honest with I've gained a lot more than since then. Maybe you've been here, maybe you've achieved a golden relaxed too much. Or maybe you heard about, you know, maybe it was 14, that has achieved their goal of getting a big lead on a team. And then there's a team, then they relax, the other team comes back out into my team, the Colts, couple of weeks ago, they lost they got a 33 point lead and lost the game. And overtime, I still can't believe that happened. And so that's what happens with goals. Now you got to have goals, don't get me wrong. But it's a part of the process. It's not the complete thing, because A goal is a finite thing to do. I want to talk to you about promise, I want to talk to you about how we need to have resolution and goals as a part of part of making a promise and living with the promise. Because to me when you make a promise to yourself or to another person that is a source of satisfaction and contentment, because when you keep the promise, you are not only doing something for you, you're doing something for someone else. It's the emotional covenant, the emotional relationship between you and another person, which is which is important here. When a wave was the one two waves of promises comes into play. When people get married, they make a promise to each other to live in this relationship. That's a mutual choice. Or we talk in the in the in the spiritual realm in the religious world, about a covenant between God and people. Moses talked about Jesus talked about that. Other religions, religious traditions, talk about the covenant between the spiritual realm and the in the, in the Mortal Realm. And that is a place of mutual contentment and satisfaction and feeding of one another, which makes all the difference is is an emotional connection. And I would call an eight directional change in your life, it means you change your direction from wherever you're going. And because you make a new promise or promise moving forward, it changes your direction and you keep going. And you grow in this process. It's a growing process. It's a dynamic, you know, an organic type of process. The idea here friends is to use things like resolutions and commitments, goals, but don't really live out of your promise. And I want to make a few promises to myself and to you for 2023 then detai the process where I teach you how you can have a promised life, a directional life moving forward. And how you can do it, I call it the big button X process. Big button, X process. This is kind of a personality driven thing. So let's get into it right now what I mean by that, you know, many of you familiar with personality exams, you know, you got MMPI, and you've got Myers Briggs, and disc process to help test your personality, those are all helpful things, I've probably taken all of them multiple times, but I'm going to try to simplify the process of understanding your personality and my personality, out of relation with others and help you to help you make some decision making. It's basically based on the three processes that we have in our personalities. And that's the cognitive, what we do with our mind, that's the emotional or the affective, what are we feeling. And then there's the behavior, how we act, and how those things affect how we are going to act of action. Here's how it goes, you want to write these down, I'm gonna put some notes on our show notes at Dr. Brad miller.com/ 231. That you may want to take a look at those there. But the idea is here is we take one of those things that is on your list. They're the things that you want. And I think you can go through this process or this process. I'm going to describe to you through just about anything you want to put there. But let's say take your top thing 10, top five to 10 things that you want to accomplish, and you apply this process and see how it goes. It's a basically a four question process. And if you remember these four questions that I'm going to get Have you in a moment here and apply the process here? It's going to be helpful to you. It really is. It really is. Here's the questions that you need to ask yourself, let's just take this take your issue, you're defining your defining moment issue your, your thing that you want, I'm gonna use myself as the guinea pig here, because that's what I want to do. I've mentioned to you that I've had this matter that's come up with a diagnosis of a malignant cancer and heart disease, and that's on my mind a lot. What am I going to do about it? The question, I'm going to ask myself, the cognitive question, is this. What do I want? What I want? That's the question. I'm quite sure everyone is what do I want? What I really want? And my answer is, I want good health. Okay. The second question is, my answer is I want good health, you know, I want to overcome this disease. The second question is, how do I feel about it? How do you feel about your issue? How do I feel about being in good health? Well, I feel my emotional part of this. My emotional part of this is I just don't feel very healthy right now. I feel DivX little bit defeated by the situation that I'm in. So that's the emotional piece. What do I want? Is the cognitive piece. The emotional, or affective piece is how do I feel my exercise, I want good health. And I don't feel very healthy, I feel defeated. And the third question is, what are you doing about it right now? What are you doing right about it by right now? My answer to that is I'm going to the doctors, and I'm assessing where I'm at. Okay, that's the three questions that we asked to ask herself. What do you want? How do you feel? What are you doing? Okay. Now, the key to this process here, friends, is repetition of those three questions. Those three questions. And it's important, this is important part of the process, you have to give yourself a different answer. Every time you ask the question. Okay. So let's do that process here with myself. What do I want? What I want is to resolve my cancer and heart disease issues. How do I feel about that? I feel a little guilty and depressed, that I let my health go to this point. And I'll let it get a whole get ahead of me for several years now. What am I doing about it? I've been walking and going to the gym three times a week, but I've not been watching my diet very well. So did you hear that friends, I gave a different answer. That's so important, you must give a different answer. Because it's kind of like peeling back the layers of an onion, you go a little deeper here every time. And you got to do this process at least three times a day probably be honest with you more than that probably about five to eight times to really get deep, deep, deep into where you're at in this. So let's do one more time. And I gotta give myself a different answer this so what do I want to? You know, I originally said, I want good health, but my what do I really want? And my third answer is I want to see my granddaughter's graduate and get married and have children and to live a life that their life with have some energy, I want to see that. That's what I want. How do I feel about it? How to feel about it. I feel motivated and energized by visualizing hugging my granddaughters at these defining young adult moments of their life, graduation, marriage, children, things like that. What am I doing about it? The third question, I'm listening with new ears, to my doctors and my wife and my kids regarding my health. They see where I did their friends, I go a little deeper. Okay. The overall writing question is I want good health. But that's too broad. That's too vague. You gotta go deeper. And you gotta get to the emotional level, and what are you going to do about it? So that the three questions, the free three questions you got to repeat are? What do I want? How do I feel about it? And what am I doing right now about it? Okay, repeat those three questions at least three times. Then you got to hit the big button. And this is the big button is we're going to go as we make our plan for 2023 and forward. The big button question is after you've done this at least three times is what do you need to do now? What do I Dr. Brad Miller need to do now? Moving forward here. This whole process, when what am I going to do about

it? Well, that's the question I asked myself moving forward. And this says sets as a part of setting the agenda for 2023. And beyond for me. And so what I said for myself, when he hit the big button, the big button x plan issue is the big button is, I'm going to be the 2020, the 2023, I'm going to be the Drop Dead Alive guy that has, I'm going to be the guy to kind of be the research, and guinea pig and encyclopedia and the resource person for longevity, and health, and emotional vitality. For men in their 60s, I'm 64 years old. And I want to speak to men of their 60s, and I'm sure it will help other people as well. And the goal here, where I want to accomplish here is to live a long, good healthy life, and a productive life, and a prosperous life. To the very last day of my life. I indeed, literally want to drop dead alive, on be laughing and hugging and have a great time with my wife and my kids and my grandkids, and hopefully grandkids. And hopefully it's I hope to be past 100 years old when that happens. Are you with me on this friends? We'll repeat the process one more time very quickly. Three questions. The cognitive one, what do you want? The affective or emotional one? How do you feel about it? The third one is the behavioral one. What am I doing about it? What are you doing now? And the big button question is, what are you going to do about it moving forward? What do you need to do now, that's what you write down for the list of what you're going to do it 23 Do that in 23. Make a list of several things in those categories we talked about earlier. And then and apply that to your life, you use the X plan AC T s plan. And that's is the one I've taught for some time, I'll just give it to you. Right now, when you hit the button, the button should activate you in these areas. The A and is the word x the acronym for a CTS, the word X The A stands for action, what actual physical action are you going to do? That means exercising great, if it means diet great, it means read the book or write in a book, great if it means date night with your wife, whatever. For me, my action is to start the Drop Dead Alive program podcast process for you. And for me. I'll say more about that in a minute. And then to see in the word X is to connect with a higher power. And this focus is on mindset and prayer. And for me, it means a daily time of mind in prayer and journaling. For me, I believe you cannot have true transformation in your life. If you don't have a connection to something higher than itself. It cannot be just personally intrinsically motivated. It has to be from a great source greater than self. And to connect to that and be intentional and connected, then I'm going to do it through prayer meditation. And journaling. The T in the word x a CTS is to think strategically. This is the plan you're putting together. And this is what I'm going to help you to do as well. But my plea my tea or my is to connect with leaders, and the health and longevity community, and to write about this, the podcast about this and to create content for people who want to live life and drop dead alive. If you're one of those men, or one of those people or loved one of those men like that, get on my mailing list go to get other Dr. Brad miller.com. Let's get on the mailing list. Let's start this process and the s of the process here of x a CTS is to serve others with love. And I want to serve others with love by coaching and membership and leadership of men in their 60s who do want to drop dead alive. And provide podcasts are resources and courses, writing a book about all this type of thing, things like that. That's what I'm gonna be about. That's my commitment to myself and to you moving forward in 2023. And I invite you to find your own process to do something similar to what I'm talking about here. Now, I know I've said a lot already but let me just say a couple of words about where we are moving forward. And what the beyond that versity podcast is going to be about I'm going to be what I've done here. This process has helped me to clarify and define and refine where I'm at. I was coached a little bit recently that my podcast beyond adversities, little too broad. I've got these five, the five DS and I'm going to really narrow that down right now moving to basically as in the five D process stuff the DEA of disease, and of death, you know, having longevity. So I will do to kind of focus on that area of my life moving forward. In 2023. For the beyond adversity podcast, I'm going to be excited about this so much because it means there's a bit of shift and I'm going to really focus in on issues of health and longevity, particularly with a focus towards men in their 60s. Okay, that's me, I'm going to increase the publication of the podcast to about three times a week, and that's going to involve interviews with great leaders. We got some great interviews coming up by the way, we've got Cliff Ravenscraft, Chris is gonna be one of our guests in 2023. The mindset answer man got some great insights for us, Scott Johnson from what was that like going to tell us stories of people who have overcome adversity in their life. So for other great guests lined up, we're going to talk to people who have overcome adversity, we're also going to do some teaching out of my life. And on my experience at a my focus it how important myself in this area of longevity, I'm going to have you know, special editions of the beyond the first few podcasts, which are going to be called Drop Dead Alive may even be a whole separate podcast called Drop Dead Alive, but we're going to focus on on that, and I'll do some other bonus episodes. One or two episodes a week will be interview process and learning from those folks have an episode of my teaching each week, then maybe a bonus episode, I'll be doing some episodes that will focus in on spiritual life, and on prayer and on fasting and on leadership, development, some of those areas that are important in transforming your life, I'll be connecting that also with a blog post at Dr. Brad miller.com. Based on that weekly content, we have a weekly blog post, and a newsletter focusing on that. So we're creating a course 40 days to live talk about 40 day process in order to get healthy and to get alive and things like this and be creating a coaching program. It's all about serving you, my friends, serving you because that's what's so bad. I'm just not, I fit this defining moment myself, but I want to learn and be kind of the guinea pig of this process to help serve You. You. So I'm going to pour myself into that, well, I have a YouTube channel. I'm going to put everything on video and it's all up on YouTube, as well as at the beyond adversity podcast with Dr. Brad Miller, you'll find everything that Dr. Brad miller.com Because I indeed I am devoted to helping you to grow through what you go through whatever adversity it is. But particularly this year, we're going to focus in on longevity issues, and health and vitality and overcoming that to drop dead alive. If you want to be with me on that. Come join me at Dr. Brad miller.com and get on my get on my mailing list. I'd love to have you there. Let me share with you just one last thought I mentioned about my granddaughters and seeing the tribe to see the image of them as when they were young adults. One of the reasons I do that is because they are such incredible spitting images of their mother, my daughter, and they have a personality and they have her looks and her vibe and their inner her energy and all that. But I can't help but think about the time when I told my daughter a terrible lie. And it's kind of stuck with me ever since. When my daughter was about four years old, her mother and I had gone through a pretty devastating divorced and fought a custody battle and some some unhappy memories. In one weekend when she was home about four years old. We were having just a great time together. And she and I and it was those moments that I remember just as clearly now as when it happened 35 or so years ago. She crawled on my lap and she smells like snuggled up to me only a daughter four year old daughter can and she looked up to me with those gorgeous blue eyes. And she said Daddy, I don't want to grow up.

I don't want to grow up daddy. And you might have said to her I told her a lie. And I said oh honey you don't have to grow up. Just stay the way you are.