145. Murder to Millions – How to Succeed in Six Months Through Choosing a Few Key Ingredients in Goal Setting with Nelson Tressler the Author of “The Unlucky Sperm Club”
Nelson Tressler is Dr. Brad Miller’s guest on Episode 145 of The Beyond Adversity Podcast.
Nelson Tressler’s life was sent into a tailspin when in a fit of rage his grandfather murdered a police officer. This was among many adverse life events which devastated Nelson’s personal, professional, and business life.
He talks to Dr. Brad about hitting the bottom in his life and then choosing to make a series of life-altering decisions that transformed his life and led to success in his personal life with a successful marriage and to achieve profound professional success in the world of Real Estate.
His process of choosing not to be defeated by circumstances and instead become a product of your choices.
He outlined his story in his book “The Unlucky Sperm Club: You are Not a Victim of Your Circumstances but a Product of Your Choices.”
He reveals to Dr. Brad the decisions and the process that he now teaches in his process “6 Months 2 Success.” The 6 Months 2 Success Program instills the belief that most people are only a few key ingredients away from being able to fulfill their goals and live the life of their dreams. The I.G.O.T.S.M.A.R.T.E.R.™ Goal Achievement Program gives goal-setters those missing ingredients – making ALL THE DIFFERENCE. The I.G.O.T.S.M.A.R.T.E.R.™ Program not only allows you to know what you truly want, but it gives you the tools, knowledge, and support to actually achieve your goals.
Furthermore, Nelson has created a mobile phone app “The I Got Smarter” app
https://igotsmarter.com/ which implements the goal elevation process taught in the “6 Months 2 Success” program https://www.6months2success.com/
This is a fascinating story of one of many who was able to navigate personal adversity and achieve success who now offers his experience and teaching to help others achieve their goals in life.
It’s all about taking consistent positive action and seek to persistently make progress. Don’t ever give up. Nelson shared this quote with Dr. Brad “Never be ashamed of a scar. It simply means you were stronger than whatever tried to hurt you.”
The Beyond Adversity Podcast is Published weekly by Dr. Brad Miller at DrBradMiller.com for the purpose of helping people navigate adverse life events (death, disease, divorce, depression, debt) and emerge to a life of peace prosperity, and purpose.
Dr. Brad Miller
April 2021
https://www.6months2success.com/
Transcript
Dr. Brad Miller here on beyond adversity, where
Brad Miller:the podcast is helpful to you to overcome adverse conditions in
Brad Miller:your life. And to come out to a better place a place of peace,
Brad Miller:prosperity, and purpose. And it's my privilege to have folks
Brad Miller:to join me on this podcast who have had their own share of
Brad Miller:overcoming and dealing with navigating adverse conditions in
Brad Miller:their life. And to come out to a better place and then to be able
Brad Miller:to teach you how you could do do likewise such as the case with
Brad Miller:Nelson Tressler, our guest here today he has the process or the
Brad Miller:course, six months to success, calm the numeral six months,
Brad Miller:numeral to success, calm and the app the I got smarter.com app
Brad Miller:and in this process, he is going to share with us the the really
Brad Miller:devastating many ways background that he comes from and his
Brad Miller:family life and personal life to develop a process where he's
Brad Miller:been successful in the business world and other aspects of life,
Brad Miller:and can teach us some things to help you to navigate adverse
Brad Miller:conditions in your life. And are we Welcome to Beyond adversity.
Brad Miller:Now. So Tresor, welcome.
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Thanks for having me, Brad. I appreciate
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it.
Brad Miller:Well, it is awesome to have you and just look in
Brad Miller:your background, you've developed several successful
Brad Miller:businesses and a process here that folks can connect up with
Brad Miller:and but it's my observation and reading your story that you
Brad Miller:really come from just some really, some difficult
Brad Miller:circumstances in your life. And if you don't mind, I just like
Brad Miller:for you to take the floor for a few minutes. Nelson to share a
Brad Miller:little bit of your life story a little bit. What got you to this
Brad Miller:place today?
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Sure. Yeah, I've got quite the origin story.
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My mom became pregnant with me when she was 15 years old. And
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while she was pregnant with me, her father, who was the local
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trash collector in a small town, drove into the town square,
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spotted two police officers stuck a gun out the window and
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open fire on those police officers killing one and
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critically wounding another. And eventually, my grandfather was
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captured and brought to stand trial where he was facing the
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death penalty. And during his trial, my mom got up and
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testified to the jury, that the reason that her father had shot
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and killed that police officer was that that police officer had
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raped her. And she was now pregnant with his baby, who was
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me. And my mom's testimony work. My grandfather's first trial
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ended in a first in a hung jury. The second trial, they took the
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death penalty off the table. And my grandfather was found guilty
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and sentenced to life in prison without the possibility of
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parole, which he ended up spending 40 years in prison. And
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essentially, you know, went to prison leaving behind his family
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of 15 children, and including my mom, and now me to kind of live
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in the wake of, of those consequences. And then, you
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know,
Brad Miller:that takes your breath away, right there. Your
Brad Miller:story, but that there is just like, devastating My goodness.
Brad Miller:But please continue.
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Yeah, I mean, my life didn't get any
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easier from that, you know, of course, being, you know, having
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a 15 year old mother. But eventually my mom turned 21. And
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she met a man who eventually would become my stepfather. But
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come to find out he was an alcoholic, very emotionally and
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physically abusive to me and my mom, almost on a daily basis.
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Eventually, my mom had four more children with my stepfather. And
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because of the lifestyle that they're, they were living a lot
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of the basic needs, and my siblings fell upon me as the
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oldest. My mom would, would rather me stay home and help
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with the kids instead of go to school and, and I hated school.
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You know, and I remember it my fourth grade year of looking
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down at my report card and seeing that I had strayed F's
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and that I would be repeating the fourth grade. And I probably
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missed 50 or 60 days of school that year. I couldn't read, I
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couldn't write, I can't spell. And the following year, they
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placed me into special ed to try to get the help that I needed.
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And so that's kind of where my schooling went. And then
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eventually, one day my stepfather was walking home
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drunk from a bar. There was somebody else who was driving
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home drunk from that bar and ended up hitting and killing
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him. And it was at this time that my mom, she has five kids
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now. My youngest sister was just born. I think she's three or
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four months at this at time, but as hard as my mom's life has
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been to this point, you know, losing my stepfather no matter
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how abusive he was left my mom, really with no hope. My mom had
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dropped out of school in the eighth grade, she had never
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worked outside of the home. And here she is left alone to raise
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five small children. And it's at this time that she decides that
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she can't do it, and that she attempt suicide. And
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fortunately, she was not successful. But whenever she was
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released from the hospital, it was at this time that she
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decided she couldn't care for all five of us on our own. And
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that's when I went to go live with my grandmother who is the
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wife of the man who shot and killed the police officer. And
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as I said, she has 15 children, some of those children are still
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living at home, when I go to live with her. And because my
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grandma was a saint, she was also raising four or five other
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grandchildren at the time for various reasons. And so I go to
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live with her. And for the first time, I don't have to worry
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about somebody coming home drunk and beating me or my mom, I
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don't have to worry about waking up to take care of babies and
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2am feedings. And the one role that my grandma did have is she,
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she wasn't high on education. But the one thing that she did
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expect was that you were going to go to school, and and that
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was probably for her own sake, you know, having 15 kids, that's
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probably your only break is when your kids go to school. So I
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started to go to school on a regular basis. And I started to
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kind of reflect upon my life and the direction that it was going.
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And then one day, a counselor from the local university came
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to our school, and we had an assembly and she kind of talked
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about the things that you needed to do to get into college. And
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for the first time, I started to think, you know, what, what if I
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can go to college, and, you know, I thought at the time that
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would solve all of my problems. And you know, what it's like,
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whenever you set a goal, or you start to think of something
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that's going to be hard, that voice in the back of your head,
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starts to scream at you all the reasons that you shouldn't even
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think about doing that. And I remember thinking, you know,
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Nelson, you're in special ed, you can't read, you can't write,
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you can't spell of my mom's family of those 15 children,
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only two had ever graduated from high school. And, you know, I
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started thinking to myself, Nelson, you're gonna be lucky to
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graduate high school, let alone go to college. But, you know, I
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saw where my life was heading. And this was the one thing that
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I could kind of focus on to see a better future for myself. So
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from that day on, I started to kind of do the things that I
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thought I needed to do, that would get me to college, and 12
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years after that, four different universities, fours in, in the
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Air Force to get money to go to school, eventually became that
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first person in my family to graduate from college, and get
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that college degree.
Brad Miller:What a powerful witness to a devastating life
Brad Miller:growing up, and then making the influence of a person in your
Brad Miller:life and then making a really life changing decision about
Brad Miller:college. And given your background, a lot of people get
Brad Miller:stuck there. Nelson, you know, people get stuck into
Brad Miller:circumstances you were talking about and don't make it out. And
Brad Miller:you did. And you've had some success in the business world.
Brad Miller:And before we go a little bit further and your, your story,
Brad Miller:just tell us a little bit about what types of businesses you've
Brad Miller:been involved with, and how, what what the point I want to
Brad Miller:make is that you've evolved out of college into having some
Brad Miller:success in your life. So tell us a bit about what type of things
Brad Miller:you've been involved with.
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Yeah, so I was fortunate enough to get a
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job right out of college in the commercial in commercial real
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estate industry. And I've done that for the last 20 years. And
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it was fortunate enough to become the top salesman in the
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in the retail division worldwide for a top five firm, multiple
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times. So I've had some great success there. I've also started
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other businesses, I've started children's daycare center in Las
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Vegas and built that to one of the largest chains in Las Vegas.
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And then was also fortunate enough to build one of the
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largest pet resort chains in the country, you know, privately
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held pet resort chains in the country, and was able to sell
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both of those businesses. And you get to that point in your
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life. You know, I don't ever envision myself propping my feet
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up and and watching sunsets. That's just not in my DNA. And
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so I was thinking, Okay, what do I want to do with the rest of my
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life? And for the longest time, that story that I just told the
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only person who knew that story Was my wife, I ran from that
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story, I joined the Air Force to get out of that small town I
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never, you know, went back, I've gone back to that small town,
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but I never went back there to live because of everything that
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kinda I had to go through. And I talk a lot about that in my book
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beyond lucky sperm club. And now that you guys know my story, you
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kind of know where that title came from. But nobody knew about
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that. Those circumstances, none of my friends not even like my
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children, because I had run from it, it weaken me to think about
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that. And I started to kind of reflect Why did I live that type
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of life? Why was I placed into those circumstances. And I came
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up with, you know, the reason that I was there, I made it out
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of that. I've been able to overcome those circumstances.
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And I became obsessed with goals and personal development after
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that first big goal of graduating from college. And I
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determined at that time that I was wanted to spend the rest of
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my life to help other people realize that they're not a
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victim of their circumstances, that they're a product of their
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choices. And I started the new business, I got smarter, which
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is an app. And it's the program that I've kind of perfected over
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the last 20 years, as I've, you know, worked on goals and worked
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on personal development and becoming a better version of
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myself, I saw where I failed at goals and where I needed to a
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little bit of help. And the program that's out there with I
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got smarter. Essentially, patches, all those holes in
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helps people fulfill their their dreams and their goals. Because
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the one thing I realize is we don't have a knowledge problem.
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When it comes to fulfilling our goals. We know what we need to
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do, we have an execution problem, we just don't do what
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we know we need to do. And that's what I got smarter does
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is it helps you do the things that you know you need to do
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when you need to do them. Yeah,
Brad Miller:very good. Because what you said to them, I think
Brad Miller:is so key there, you've you made some choices that led to some
Brad Miller:new directions in your life. And now you're looking to make some
Brad Miller:choices to view contributor to other persons to help them to
Brad Miller:implement these areas. And we're bombarded by knowledge all the
Brad Miller:time. And most people have at least a sensibility about, about
Brad Miller:what it takes, you know, for instance, are you given when
Brad Miller:people talk about New Year's resolutions and so on goal
Brad Miller:setting above the basic ones are weight loss, and you know, make
Brad Miller:more money and to have better relationships. And yet, many
Brad Miller:people, you know, by the time February rolls around, they have
Brad Miller:fallen off and all those things are overeating, their
Brad Miller:relationships are still messed up and then move deeper in debt.
Brad Miller:And yet, so they know what to do, but they don't do it. So
Brad Miller:what you're sharing with is, is the actions to take and has to
Brad Miller:go with those choices. And, and I'm curious here for out of your
Brad Miller:own life, and then what you teach in your, in your in your
Brad Miller:courses, and in your app and your your application process.
Brad Miller:Let's talk a bit more about this area of choices. I like to call
Brad Miller:it bold actions, because I think they have to break a pattern,
Brad Miller:you know, we have to break our pattern of where we are kind of
Brad Miller:stuck in some areas, people People often use that
Brad Miller:terminology of being stuck on kind of stuck on my life on the
Brad Miller:grid, we're spinning my wheels and so on. What would you say
Brad Miller:are some of the dramatic bold choices that you took and that
Brad Miller:you advocate people take to break these patterns?
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Yeah, I think it all comes down to
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choice. And in my book, The on lucky sperm club, I talk about
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kind of the hand that worked out and I look at that is a lot of
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people feel like they've been dealt Erol hand whether it be at
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birth, or whether they what circumstances they find
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themselves in now. And what I talk about is the one the one
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way, you know, in poker, you only get you know, to discard
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your cards one time, and then that's the hand you're stuck
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with. But life is just like that. The only difference is is
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life, you get to discard your hand as many times as you want
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if you don't like your hand and the way that you do that is
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through the choices that you make. If you want different
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circumstances, what you need to do is start making different
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choices. And the problem I think that a lot of people have when
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it comes to choices is they want everything to be perfect before
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they make that choice. They want all those traffic lights to be
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green before they head down there, you know on their journey
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and and that almost never happens. So what we advocate is
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take that first step don't wait for all the lights to turn
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green. Chances are you know what one choice you need to start
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making today. That will get you closer to where you want to be.
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And what whether that's weight loss, whether that's your
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relationship, whether it's financial, those three key
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points that you touched on, we all know what that first step
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can be. In a lot of times what it's like is it's like walking
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through fog is you can't see but maybe two or three feet in front
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of you and thick fog, but when you take that first step you You
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can see two or three feet further, and you take another
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step you can see. And that's what happens when you act now
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and you make those choices is you might not know exactly what
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needs to happen next week or next month. But as you continue
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to make those choices, that vision opens up to you. And all
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you have to do is keep making those correct choices. And, you
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know, your life will drastically go in the direction that you're
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making those correct choices to do.
Brad Miller:But nothing happens if we stay still. And we have to
Brad Miller:choose a direction and take some steps forward. Even if we have
Brad Miller:to alter the direction you got to keep moving. That's part of
Brad Miller:what I think in my life, you got to keep moving, keep going. So
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yeah, and we also need to realize that
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we're not looking for perfection here, none of us are going to
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live a perfect life. We're looking for progress. And if we
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have that mindset, that you know what I know, I'm going to fail,
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I know I'm not going to be perfect. I know I'm not going
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to, you know, do absolutely everything that I can do. But,
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you know, tomorrow, I'm going to be a little bit further ahead or
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a little bit closer to where I want to be. And next week, I'm
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going to be even closer next month, I'm going to be closer,
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is it going to be a perfect month? Probably not. But we need
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to have that long term perspective, we kind of talked
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about goals, and we talked about that in our program is those
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people who are successful in life, they have that long term
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perspective, they see where they want to be next month, next year
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and five years and 10 years, and they realize that it is a
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process. And they realize that there's going to be abin flows
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and peaks and valleys, but they know where they want to be in
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that long term. Yeah,
Brad Miller:progress over perfection is a part of what I
Brad Miller:teach as well, I love that it's a part of your of your process
Brad Miller:as well. And you you did mention something there Nelson, I found
Brad Miller:very interesting, you talked about you know about the fog and
Brad Miller:about the putting one step in front of another and how you're
Brad Miller:not going to have airbelt you're not every, every brick of yellow
Brad Miller:brick road is always going to be lined up in front of you never
Brad Miller:signed it in front of you. But we have to take a step. And I'd
Brad Miller:like to stones call that a step of faith or you know, going out
Brad Miller:into the unknown, taking a risk risk, and you kind of get your
Brad Miller:ROI involved, what your what your I mean, your your your risk
Brad Miller:reward is what I'm trying to say not so much ROI. But let's talk
Brad Miller:a little bit about about that process is any part of your
Brad Miller:process you're dealing with, you're talking about here
Brad Miller:involves some sort of a sense of drawing on a power higher than
Brad Miller:yourself, you know, that sometimes we have the inner
Brad Miller:life, which helps drives us with tons of we need to draw
Brad Miller:resources. And for some folks, that's religion, some folks
Brad Miller:that's meditation, some folks that some other form of
Brad Miller:emotional support, is any part of your process involves a
Brad Miller:calling upon a greater power to empower you.
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Yeah, I'm a very spiritual person and have a
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strong faith. But I allow people you know, in that program, you
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know, that's a hot button. And some people want that in their
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lives, and some people don't, I wanted in my life, I have it in
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my life, I feel like it's a huge impact in my life. And I again,
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I talk about my conversion story in my book, The on lucky sperm
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club. But in our program, what we allow you to do, and I think
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this is one thing that's very unique, and helps tons of people
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is we allow people to invite what we call a success partner
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through the app. And in that app, you see real time what your
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success partner is doing. In the program, we have what we call a
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morning ritual, and a more a morning routine. And that's
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going through and we give gratitude every single day, we
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review our goals every day, we learn success principles every
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day. And then we kind of figure out what we need to do every day
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for our three goals that we're working on. And when you finish
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that morning routine, your success partner gets an alert
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that says, hey, Nelson finished his morning routine. And Brad,
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if you and I are partners. Now you can say kudos to me and
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communicate with me through the app. But what that also says is
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Brad, if you didn't do your morning routine, Oh, I got to
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get mine done because Nelson gets it done. And what we found
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is you're 95% more likely to follow through and do the things
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that you said you're going to do if you have that success partner
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who's there in the trenches with you, helping you and supporting
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you to see it through to the end, and you're also there for
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them. So it's that mutual benefit of you guys are in those
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trenches together working towards those goals.
Brad Miller:So it holds you accountable and builds community
Brad Miller:builds a important personal relationship. It's not just some
Brad Miller:sort of a paper planner or electronic Gizmo. I mean, it
Brad Miller:involves an app on your phone. I know but but it involves people
Brad Miller:to read what I wanted to get with you I I just have a real
Brad Miller:belief that powerful relay ships are what fuel life change, you
Brad Miller:know, we have to be given some emotional up, you know emotional
Brad Miller:energy that comes from relationships. And just like you
Brad Miller:to say more about that either in your own personal life, you know
Brad Miller:how that was impactful to get you to where you got, you know,
Brad Miller:you, you mentioned some really challenging negative
Brad Miller:relationships that you had to overcome. But I think for a lot
Brad Miller:of us, we can be fueled by positive relationships and
Brad Miller:Nandan. Any more you want to say about how that is implemented,
Brad Miller:then in your program?
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Yeah, I mean, I think you look at
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anybody that you look at and feel like they're successful.
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And I guarantee you, they, they didn't do it alone, none of us
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do it alone, we always have that support network, those people
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who are encouraging us, those mentors that are kind of showing
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us the way, but I'll tell you, when when I was young, I didn't
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have a lot of mentors or a lot of positive role models. And the
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one thing that I did was, I didn't really know where I
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wanted to go. But I knew absolutely where I didn't want
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to end up. And I kind of did the things that I needed to do to
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get away from that. So if you feel like you don't have those
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positive role models in your life, start making those
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choices, to get away from where you want to be. And I think a
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lot of people get hung up on that, because they don't have
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that positive role model in their lives, they really don't
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have that person to look at and try to mirror their their
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movements and their actions. But just make those those actions
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and those choices to get away from what you know, you don't
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want to do. But But in our program, yes, we have a
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community that you're going to be like the people that you hang
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out with, I mean, there's been all kinds of studies about that,
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that your incomes going to be the average of the five people
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that you hang out with your mental abilities are going to be
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the the five people that you spend the most time with. So
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community is so important. And you need to get into that good
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community that shares the same values and the same standards
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and the same, you know, aspirations that you have. And
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what you find is that community, kind of the tide raises all
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ships, when you get in that right community, and you start
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surrounding yourself with like minded people, what you'll find
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is that energizes you and gives you those emotions that you need
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to get through those tough days. So I would absolutely stress
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that everybody find a community, wherever that is, whether it's
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in person, you know, which is a tough thing to do now with the
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pandemic. But you know, there's tons of online communities. I
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mean, we have our community at I got smarter, and Nelson
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Tressler. And just huge benefits from that, and I couldn't stress
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it enough. You
Brad Miller:know, the part of that process of building
Brad Miller:community is, you know, there's the interpersonal ones that you
Brad Miller:mentioned, which are important. And sometimes that can be family
Brad Miller:or other communities, you could be even, you know, the guys you
Brad Miller:play basketball with at the Y or whatever, this kind of thing.
Brad Miller:But it also can even be, I believe, even virtually not only
Brad Miller:through Facebook groups, that kind of thing, but even through
Brad Miller:great books, and through things like that, and through tape
Brad Miller:programs, and maybe a program such as yours, where you can
Brad Miller:start to be inspired by the work of others and speak into your
Brad Miller:life. And I just think it's important that we build these
Brad Miller:relationships, and implement them. And that's what I want to
Brad Miller:talk to you about now is the implementation part of it.
Brad Miller:Because I think as you mentioned here, Nelson, that is a part
Brad Miller:that is a unique approach that you have, in many ways to many
Brad Miller:other kind of life planning or processes that you know, there's
Brad Miller:lots of goal setting type of books and processes there. I've
Brad Miller:been through much of myself, and as well as apparently you have
Brad Miller:as you've been developing. Let's talk about the implementation
Brad Miller:piece. And what I told you about is, you mentioned a morning
Brad Miller:routine and an evening routine and how the accountability
Brad Miller:piece, let's talk about discipline, about habits about
Brad Miller:the cognitive piece, how you imprint this on yourself,
Brad Miller:because what we do know, my own experience and others is that
Brad Miller:oftentimes we talk about goal setting and things like that.
Brad Miller:And we are able to go with it for a while, but then it gets
Brad Miller:hard and it drops off. Tell me what, tell me about the
Brad Miller:disciplines, habits, processes procedure, the cognitive part
Brad Miller:about your program about what you believe.
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Yeah, so the first part of our program we
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call our self assessment, and that's about getting crystal
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clear on really what you want in life. And I think that's one of
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the major issues when people fail with their goals. And, and
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we're not talking we're talking 95% of people fail at their
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goals within the first couple months. So if you feel like you
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haven't done well with goals, you're not alone and that's why
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I saw I need for, you know, this program I got smarter. But we,
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we become crystal clear on what we want, we also become crystal
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clear on what we're going to have to do to achieve that goal.
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And a lot of people think that they want to be wealthy. But
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what they realize is that they're not willing to either,
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you know, sacrifice their relationships, if it's going to
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take that sacrifice their health, if it's going to take
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that. So we make sure one you know what you you want, and then
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to you understand the price that you're going to have to pay for
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that. And then there's a lot of things that we've baked into our
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program to help you every single goal that we have has a self
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imposed positive reward, as well as a self imposed negative
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consequence that you're going to do whether or not you meet that
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goal, and your your success partner can help you stay
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accountable to that. But a lot of our minds, we either run
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towards pleasure, or we run away from fears or discomfort. So
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we've built that into the program. And, you know, it can
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be fun things like you know, what if if I'm not able to get
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to my target, wait, I'm going to dress up in a leotard and sing,
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you know, girls want to have fun on my Facebook page and post it,
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you know, so there's things like that, we also go as far as
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allowing your success partner to jump in there and put in and
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also a negative consequence, if you are not able to reach it.
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And you might be willing to kind of let yourself down and say,
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You know what, I'll just get on YouTube and saying, you know, I
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don't want to do it, but, but if I'm, if I'm willing to put my
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neck on the line that you're going to meet this, chances are,
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you're going to do everything that you can to make sure that I
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don't have to follow through with my consequence. So we've
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baked those things into it. I think another problem with a lot
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of programs out there is they have annual thinking, they want
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to set a goal for what you're going to do next year or five
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years from now. And our minds don't wrap around those things.
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There's not that sense of urgency. And then we've all just
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got through 2020, we all know how much the world can change in
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a year or a few months. So what we've done in I got smarter is
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we have huge goals, goals that are going to take years and five
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years and 10 years. But what we do is we break every goal down
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into a 30 day sprint. And we work on those goals in small
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bite sized pieces. And then we we evaluate and then we readjust
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every 30 days. And your mind really knows what it needs to do
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to hit that goal in 30 days from now. And if something comes up,
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in our program, people aren't throwing up their hands and
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giving up until next New Year's, they they're looking at that 30
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day sprint, they've either done well, or they haven't done well.
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But then you have that option to evaluate. And then you have
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that, you know that responsibility to kind of
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readjust and go at it again without losing months or even
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years at a time.
Brad Miller:Yeah, there's I think he made some really
Brad Miller:interesting points there. And I just kind of thinking about some
Brad Miller:phrases that I've kind of used my own life. And one of them is
Brad Miller:the Christmas planning panic, which he recalls Christmas rolls
Brad Miller:around. And you realize you have some panic in your life about
Brad Miller:several areas. Sometimes it's about I haven't done my
Brad Miller:Christmas shopping or whatever, that kind of stuff, it also has
Brad Miller:to do with I just haven't accomplished what I thought I
Brad Miller:would and you try to get it all done. And you know, the last
Brad Miller:party super just doesn't work that way. Because you've let
Brad Miller:things go too much. And that's goes to the other piece of
Brad Miller:things that is you, as I've sometimes termed it, the
Brad Miller:Comfortably Numb club, where you just kind of stay stuck. And
Brad Miller:you're just kind of numb and you just kind of zone out whether
Brad Miller:it's watching TV or internet or whatever. And you don't take the
Brad Miller:action and you have live with regret and remorse and all those
Brad Miller:things and, and too many people are stuck there. And I think
Brad Miller:this past year 2020 we had a lot of folks who were found
Brad Miller:themselves in this pandemic situation where all of a sudden
Brad Miller:your life hit them like a ton of bricks. Some people responded by
Brad Miller:saying Okay, I'm going to take this time and do something with
Brad Miller:it. Other people just were kind of just kind of shocked into
Brad Miller:numbness again. And what I'm hearing you say here is there's
Brad Miller:practices and processes that you can implement with your program
Brad Miller:that can help us to do that. And I'd like to see talk to you now
Brad Miller:for distributor to about the evidence of that. What I mean by
Brad Miller:that is you've got this just your program six months to
Brad Miller:success, the I got smarter app, and your your book. So that
Brad Miller:means that you've probably got some new people who have
Brad Miller:impacted in your programs and that is like to hear a little
Brad Miller:bit about either success or a story or stories about some of
Brad Miller:the folks who have implemented your process and how it made
Brad Miller:some difference to them. Do you have a good story for us?
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Oh yeah. Yeah, there, there was a
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gentleman who joined our program. He had been unemployed
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for maybe nine, maybe 10 months. And this was, this wasn't this
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year, this was the previous years, struggled, was depressed,
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you know, just was not in a good place really in any area of his
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life, and joined our program, got the support came to the
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community, really dug in for the first time, and determined what
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he wanted with his life want, what he wanted with his goals,
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and was able to, you know, within, within three months, he
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found like his dream job, he had lost like 15 or 20 pounds, the
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relationships that, you know, at his family level, were better
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than they had been in, you know, a decade. And all that was is he
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just started to live life with focus again. And what he
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realized was, again, you know, with my book, he wasn't a victim
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of his circumstances he was, he was a product of the choices
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that he started to make. And what he started to do was, as
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he, as he kind of got through the program, and every day that
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he put behind him, he started to build up that momentum. And he
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started to believe in himself. And he started to realize that
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he was in control. And I think a lot of times people, they feel
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like, the reason that life is hard for them has been because
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of outside forces. And as soon as we start assigning our
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problems, our issues, our happiness, to outside forces, we
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give away all that control, because there's nothing that we
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can do if we're assigning it to other people, places or things.
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And as soon as he took responsibility for his happiness
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for his goals, and for his life, and he realized that he was in
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charge, that's when he started to build that momentum. And, you
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know, it's been over a year now, and his life is drastically
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different. And his health is better than it's been in two
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decades, his relationships are better than they've been in a
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long time. And he's, you know, still working at a job that he
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loves and loves to go to every day. Awesome. Awesome. That's
Brad Miller:good. Great to hear. And that raised me around
Brad Miller:to what I wanted us to focus in now on the folks who may be
Brad Miller:listening to our voices here today. And you know, target of
Brad Miller:what beyond adversity about is about helping people who have
Brad Miller:experienced some adverse conditions and help them to come
Brad Miller:out a better place I like to call it peace, prosperity and
Brad Miller:purpose. But you provide us some tools and resources, of course,
Brad Miller:and book and so on. So what are people going to find? Let's say
Brad Miller:there is someone who's kind of stuck, or they're in that numb
Brad Miller:place. And they've heard your story now, what are they going
Brad Miller:to find it your websites and on your app that they can apply to
Brad Miller:their life?
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Yeah, I think you know, my book, the
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unlucky sperm club, you're, you're not a victim of your
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circumstances, but a product of your choices, I think that's a
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great place to start. Because I think that kind of jerks a lot
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of people out of that victim mindset that they're stuck in.
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And they realize that there's people who are out there and
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very hard situations that figure out a way to do it. So I think,
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you know, the book is going to give you some inspiration, some
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motivation. And then the program and the app I got smarter is
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going to give you that plan that's going to give you that
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program, it's going to give you that the knowledge and the
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support, and the tools to finally follow through with what
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you know you need to do in order to accomplish your goals. And in
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that community will encourage you to stick with it. Because
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success is not an event. And I think a lot of people feel like
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you know, if I just make it here, everything's going to be
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better. Success is not an event. It's a journey. And in fact,
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success is a journey that never ends, we're always should be
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striving to become that better version of ourselves. Because in
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our program, the AI stands for the individual, you know, that
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person staring back at you in the mirror every single day.
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Everything in your life will you know reflect what type of person
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you are, what type of choices you're making, and what type of
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person you're becoming. And we start with that and everything
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kind of funnels to that person. That's what we're constantly
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working on. Because the only way that you're going to achieve
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those goals is that you're going to become the person who can
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achieve those goals. So we're always working on that person,
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that individual Awesome.
Brad Miller:Well, you've heard it here now folks. The good
Brad Miller:people have DB audit versity audience that and Elsa Trusler
Brad Miller:has some things to offer to you and you can find him at I got
Brad Miller:smarter, calm, that's the app and six months To success.com
Brad Miller:and it's been our pleasure here today on beyond adversity to