195: How To Overcome Crippling Anxiety By Creating Coherence In Your Life with Dr. Mark Halpern
Dr. Mark Halpern is Dr. Brad Miller’s guest on Episode 195 of “The Beyond Adversity Podcast.”
Dr. Mark is a Chiropractor and a practitioner of HeartMath. He has been doing practices that help in strengthening our heart, mind, body, and spirit in order to become a better you.
He is also an author of the book “Coherence Revolution: Finding Flow on Your Journey to the Present Moment”. He overcame adversity in his life and became successful while defeating stress and anxiety. His journey was shared in this book.
The book is mainly all about overcoming the challenges in your life by creating harmony in your life. It aims to heal you emotionally, physically, and mentally.
In this episode, Dr. Mark shares with us how he achieved success despite the rough path he had to go through to get to the top. He will also be sharing the contents of his book.
Episode 195 of The Beyond Adversity Podcast is recommended for those who are fighting for their lives and are trying to survive by facing the problems that they encountered. This may enlighten you that all will be worth it in the end once you achieve the success you’ve always wanted.
“The Beyond Adversity Podcast with Dr. Brad Miller is published weekly with the mission of helping people “Grow Through What They Go Through” as they navigate adversity and discover their promised life of peace, prosperity, and purpose.
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Transcript
I have Dr. Mark Halpern is with us today. He has a book Coherence Revolution,
Dr. Brad Miller::which is about finding a flow in your life in order to create a vibrant emotional
Dr. Brad Miller::and physiological, mental harmony that can free up your life because so many
Dr. Brad Miller::of our lives have been derailed by circumstances and chaotics times. He has a
Dr. Brad Miller::great story to tell by his own story of overcoming adversity, and some great
Dr. Brad Miller::helps to us in his book called Coherence Revolution. Dr. Mark Halpern,
Dr. Brad Miller::welcome to Beyond Adversity.
Dr. Mark Halpern::Thank you for having me.
Dr. Brad Miller::It is indeed awesome to have you with us. And you are a Doctor of
Dr. Brad Miller::Chiropractic and have several other modalities of health, mind, and
Dr. Brad Miller::body rhythm that you are all about in your life. So you've had a life
Dr. Brad Miller::time in the health field helping others. And yet, even with all this education,
Dr. Brad Miller::and all the things that you've done to help others, it seems like you had
Dr. Brad Miller::some challenges in your life, particularly when the COVID crisis came
Dr. Brad Miller::crashing down on all of us a year or so ago. Let's hear a little bit about
Dr. Brad Miller::your story about how you had to face some crisis in your life and then
Dr. Brad Miller::how that may have led to this book here, Coherence Revolution.
Dr. Mark Halpern::Yeah, sure. Well, my journey really started as a teenager,
Dr. Mark Halpern::I mean, I think but before I was a teen, my life was fairly, I was just good.
Dr. Mark Halpern::There was nothing, I had no complaints. Everything seemed to be going
Dr. Mark Halpern::in a good direction. I was very happy child. But I would say as as most
Dr. Mark Halpern::teenagers do, when you hit 12, 13, 14, grade seven, grade eight, I just
Dr. Mark Halpern::started developing insecurities and you know, social insecurities.
Dr. Mark Halpern::And I think that the way I started to think I started to repeat these
Dr. Mark Halpern::patterns over and over and over again. And by the time I was 15,
Dr. Mark Halpern::and 16 years old, I had already practiced these negative thought
Dr. Mark Halpern::patterns, so many times that I had already created a pattern of
Dr. Mark Halpern::anxiety. And so I've really been experiencing anxiety, since we're
Dr. Mark Halpern::at the age of 14, or 15. It was so bad over my teens in my 20s and
Dr. Mark Halpern::my 30s, that it was really ever encompassing. And so I set out on a
Dr. Mark Halpern::journey to get rid of it. And I always had this vision that I would
Dr. Mark Halpern::find the answer. I would find the thing. I would find the person.
Dr. Mark Halpern::I would find the technique. Something that would finally solve it,
Dr. Mark Halpern::get rid of it, I move past it, and then just kind of go on living my
Dr. Mark Halpern::life without anxiety. But that's sort of not the way it worked. I
Dr. Mark Halpern::mean, I probably tried every therapist and energy healer, Western-based
Dr. Mark Halpern::approach and different talk therapies. Really, you name it, I've tried it all.
Dr. Mark Halpern::To some degree of success on and off, but nothing that was really permanent.
Dr. Mark Halpern::It was, you know, talk therapy was good, but it was more of a catharsis, I
Dr. Mark Halpern::would get it out. And I really realized that I wasn't just going to talk myself
Dr. Mark Halpern::out of my stress issues out of anxiety. And so over the years, I just tried
Dr. Mark Halpern::everything in anything. And I would say that I kind of came up with a
Dr. Mark Halpern::toolbox of things that would help me. Over the last five years, especially,
Dr. Mark Halpern::you know, I put all of that together. However, when COVID hit back in
Dr. Mark Halpern::March of 2020, I remember we had just finished a renovation of our clinic.
Dr. Mark Halpern::There's three chiropractors that I work with, or two others other than myself.
Dr. Mark Halpern::We've done a renewal of our clinic snd I remember it was March 15, we
Dr. Mark Halpern::were said, Okay, let's, we're going we're going to open the clinic after the
Dr. Mark Halpern::renovation. We went in and we were locked down by the government and
Dr. Mark Halpern::the government said go home, we don't know when you're coming back,
Dr. Mark Halpern::but all businesses have to shut. So I went home, like most people and
Dr. Mark Halpern::knowing my background of how I dealt with anxiety and how my triggers
Dr. Mark Halpern::worked, I knew that it wasn't going to work well for me to just sit there
Dr. Mark Halpern::for the next however long and wait for my demise, so to speak. I was
Dr. Mark Halpern::looking around and seeing everybody panicking, and I felt this is not
Dr. Mark Halpern::something I want to indulge in. So I started writing and I just treated
Dr. Mark Halpern::it like a job in the morning. I'd get up, I'd write and I'd have lunch.
Dr. Mark Halpern::I come back in the afternoon and I'd write and over about a two or
Dr. Mark Halpern::three month period while we were locked down, I wrote the book
Dr. Mark Halpern::Coherence Revolution. And then over the next several months, I put
Dr. Mark Halpern::together the six week online course which really follows the book
Dr. Mark Halpern::except that it dives deeper in and gives you time to practice and
Dr. Mark Halpern::learn how to do some of these techniques. But what it did was allow
Dr. Mark Halpern::me to essentially go through everything I had ever done. Every
Dr. Mark Halpern::protocol, every technique, every person I reviewed everything I read
Dr. Mark Halpern::books, I read notes, I you know, email people, and what I ended up
Dr. Mark Halpern::doing was just working thro ugh and figuring out exactly what did
Dr. Mark Halpern::work for me what didn't work for me and put together my own
Dr. Mark Halpern::personal life plan. And, you know, I tell people to live by a process
Dr. Mark Halpern::mindset rather than a destination mindset. And so what I did was
Dr. Mark Halpern::create my process. And so now, when I wake up every day, regardless
Dr. Mark Halpern::from if I have a trigger that causes anxiety or not, I follow the process
Dr. Mark Halpern::that I've set up. And it helps keep me into the state of coherence,
Dr. Mark Halpern::which is a state of balance, a state of rhythm. I have means I have
Dr. Mark Halpern::lots of tools in my toolbox, so to speak, to help change my emotional
Dr. Mark Halpern::state now. So that's really why I'm doing this, this promotional tours,
Dr. Mark Halpern::I believe that finally, I'm in a place that I can use my experience
Dr. Mark Halpern::and safe people that are suffering with anxiety and suffering
Dr. Mark Halpern::with stress and suffer with overwhelm. You know, I feel like now,
Dr. Mark Halpern::there are answers, and there's ways for people to live a completely
Dr. Mark Halpern::different life and transform the way they've been living.
Dr. Mark Halpern::And I think that I can I can help,
Dr. Brad Miller::Yes, well, there's some really interesting and dynamic processes
Dr. Brad Miller::that you explore in your book and what you're describing now.
Dr. Brad Miller::And just to be clear, during this time, you normally you've developed
Dr. Brad Miller::your clinic and so on. You would normally have been seeing patients
Dr. Brad Miller::or doing whatever you do as a chiropractor, and none of that was
Dr. Brad Miller::happening. So you had forced upon you this sabbatical, as it were,
Dr. Brad Miller::if you want to talk kind of an academic terms that you chose to do
Dr. Brad Miller::something with. And what I'm going with you with you here, Mark,
Dr. Brad Miller::is that a lot of people when the COVID hit, or when some crisis hits,
Dr. Brad Miller::instead of taking action, they shut it down.
Dr. Mark Halpern::They freeze.
Dr. Brad Miller::They freeze, they go into either a panic mode, or kind of a stoic mode
Dr. Brad Miller::or, you know, they collapse within themselves. And we like to be about,
Dr. Brad Miller::here's how you can do something about that. So you mentioned two
Dr. Brad Miller::or three things that I'm interested in the actions that you took, and
Dr. Brad Miller::let's break them down just a little bit. First of all, you read and you
Dr. Brad Miller::studied, and you wrote, so tell me a little bit about some of what
Dr. Brad Miller::you did with that, What did you read? When you were writing, what
Dr. Brad Miller::was this process about? I'm interested in the actions were there
Dr. Brad Miller::physical actions that you took to break this pattern that you were
Dr. Brad Miller::in? That could have been?
Dr. Mark Halpern::The first thing I did was, I went back and I started to read the
Dr. Mark Halpern::people that inspired me, the people that I knew it had a big
Dr. Mark Halpern::effect on me and some of the are: Dr. Bruce Lipton, who wrote a
Dr. Mark Halpern::book called The Biology of Belief. Dr. Dispenza, Joe Dispenza, who
Dr. Mark Halpern::wrote a whole bunch of books about the quantum field and
Dr. Mark Halpern::meditation and how the brain functions, HeartMath books, which
Dr. Mark Halpern::is about the way we breathe, and the way we use our emotional
Dr. Mark Halpern::response. And what I did, I read. When I read through a book,
Dr. Mark Halpern::I always put a fold over on pages that have impact on me. And
Dr. Mark Halpern::then the intention is to go back and read that page again. But
Dr. Mark Halpern::I've got a library full of books that I never went back and reread
Dr. Mark Halpern::any of them. So this time, I just went to all the books and went
Dr. Mark Halpern::to all those little folded over pages with the impactful things.
Dr. Mark Halpern::And I just read all the impactful things. And, you know, I didn't
Dr. Mark Halpern::know what my book was going to be, I just started writing my story.
Dr. Brad Miller::It's just, it wasn't even necessary, but unintentional book,
Dr. Brad Miller::in the sense, you helped me out here. We live in a digital book
Dr. Brad Miller::in terms of, hey, I'm a year from now I'm gonna has this book
Dr. Brad Miller::I'm gonna publish. It may have been more of a cathartic thing
Dr. Brad Miller::for you to have something to do with your time to relieve
Dr. Brad Miller::your stresses. Is there anything-
Dr. Mark Halpern::I knew that I could help people, and I knew that my story
Dr. Mark Halpern::could help people. But I didn't know in what capacity exactly.
Dr. Mark Halpern::And I knew I was certified in a technique called Heart Math.
Dr. Brad Miller::Okay.
Dr. Mark Halpern::And, you know, I'm sure we can talk a little bit about facts
Dr. Mark Halpern::has to do with the heart and coherence. But I learned how
Dr. Mark Halpern::to teach that. And so right away, I knew if the worst thing
Dr. Mark Halpern::happened that I could never go back and adjust someone,
Dr. Mark Halpern::never see people in person. I knew that I could teach HeartMath online,
Dr. Mark Halpern::I knew that I could help people in that way, and to deal with all
Dr. Mark Halpern::the stress that was happening. But I knew that, to do that, all
Dr. Mark Halpern::of the other things that come with it, whether it's create a
Dr. Mark Halpern::website, whether it's have educational materials, all of these things,
Dr. Mark Halpern::and I thought I'm not just gonna go online and teach Heart Math,
Dr. Mark Halpern::I want to give people an experience where they're learning more,
Dr. Mark Halpern::and they're being able to set up their life in a certain way.
Dr. Mark Halpern::And since I know that I had done that for myself over the
Dr. Mark Halpern::last decade or so, I wasn't exactly sure if it was going to be
Dr. Mark Halpern::a book if it was going to be just a guide. I wasn't sure but
Dr. Mark Halpern::I knew that I just wanted to start writing because I didn't
Dr. Mark Halpern::want to get bogged down in the process. I didn't want to
Dr. Mark Halpern::get bogged down and stuck at the starting line, so to speak.
Dr. Mark Halpern::So I literally just started writing from the day I was born.
Dr. Mark Halpern::This is my story. This is how my life unfolded. And these are
Dr. Mark Halpern::all the things that I've done to help myself and then these
Dr. Mark Halpern::are all the things I suggest other people do. And I just kept
Dr. Mark Halpern::writing. And eventually I realized, oh, wow, this actually
Dr. Mark Halpern::makes the front, middle and end sections of a book and I
Dr. Mark Halpern::can divide this out and I would say after about a month or so
Dr. Mark Halpern::of writing I realized I had book. And so then, there was a bit
Dr. Mark Halpern::of fortuitous luck and circumstance with Coherence Revolution.
Dr. Mark Halpern::I had gone online to better my skills at teaching Heart Math.
Dr. Mark Halpern::And so I saw a man online and he was he was offering to teach
Dr. Mark Halpern::people even if they were already certified, how to do Heart Math.
Dr. Mark Halpern::So I thought, why not learn from somebody who's been there before.
Dr. Mark Halpern::And so I took his course. And as I was doing the first three, four weeks,
Dr. Mark Halpern::I really resonated with him. And I decided to have a phone call with him.
Dr. Mark Halpern::And I phoned him. And it turns out his name was Bruce Cryer. And he
Dr. Mark Halpern::used to be the ex-CEO of HeartMath. But he had left the job for some
Dr. Mark Halpern::health reasons. And he wanted to kind of come back. And so all of a
Dr. Mark Halpern::sudden, we really resonated, I said, Okay, how would you like to come
Dr. Mark Halpern::on board. And so he came on board as my partner on Coherence
Dr. Mark Halpern::Revolution. And so then I started feeling well, there's a bit of momentum
Dr. Mark Halpern::here, I now have someone from a company that I've been doing, they're
Dr. Mark Halpern::using their products and reading their books for last decade or so.
Dr. Mark Halpern::I now the ex-CEO of this company is now on board as my partner.
Dr. Mark Halpern::So I feel like now we're really going somewhere.
Dr. Brad Miller::And it gives you a little fortuitous sense of an aha moment that
Dr. Brad Miller::there's some resonance
Dr. Mark Halpern::you got it
Dr. Brad Miller::came into play here. And that's probably one I want to talk
Dr. Brad Miller::to you about here for just a second here is, because coherence
Dr. Brad Miller::I've looked up the definition, the Wikipedia definition of it. and
Dr. Brad Miller::I think I got a handle on what I think you're after. But I'm interested,
Dr. Brad Miller::you know, you've mentioned here about heart mind mapping.
Dr. Brad Miller::And we know a part of what you're about is heart, spirit, mind,
Dr. Brad Miller::and body, all that connectivity, but tell us what you mean by
Dr. Brad Miller::coherence, particularly as you start to get into some of this
Dr. Brad Miller::esoteric area, that has to do with how we are becoming the
Dr. Brad Miller::flow part of things.
Dr. Mark Halpern::So coherence, to me is balance, coherence is being in sync.
Dr. Mark Halpern::But it can be in many different forms. So for instance, an athlete.
Dr. Mark Halpern::If an athlete says to I was in the zone. For that competition, I was
Dr. Mark Halpern::in the zone. What they're telling you is that all their cells, everything
Dr. Mark Halpern::was firing together. Their decision making was great. Their physical
Dr. Mark Halpern::body was in tune with their emotional state, and they were in their
Dr. Mark Halpern::optimal state, and they could perform at their best. You notice
Dr. Mark Halpern::when you walk into a room and there's a big party, there's someone
Dr. Mark Halpern::from across the room, that you just feel their energy, you wander
Dr. Mark Halpern::over and talk to them, you miss them. That's a resonance that's
Dr. Mark Halpern::a coherence between the two of you. And likely, there's also
Dr. Mark Halpern::people that are kind of pushing you away, because you feel
Dr. Mark Halpern::their energy isn't working with you. And so there's a value in
Dr. Mark Halpern::coherence and incoherence really. But when I talk about
Dr. Mark Halpern::physiological coherence, I'm talking about the way the brain
Dr. Mark Halpern::and the heart rhythm, get in sync with each other. And so the
Dr. Mark Halpern::hearts rhythm is the strongest rhythm of the body, it's about 40
Dr. Mark Halpern::times stronger electrically than the brains. And so if you can get
Dr. Mark Halpern::your heart rhythm into a coherent rhythm, which actually looks
Dr. Mark Halpern::like a sine wave. When you breathe in and breathe out, it kind
Dr. Mark Halpern::of goes into this nice sine wave. And when you get into that
Dr. Mark Halpern::physiological state, where you're increasing the length of your
Dr. Mark Halpern::breath, and you're really allowing your heart to get into a nice
Dr. Mark Halpern::rhythm, you start to stimulate the centers of the brain that have
Dr. Mark Halpern::to do with decision making: pain, sleep, you know, your immune
Dr. Mark Halpern::system. And so all of a sudden, you're starting to entrain your
Dr. Mark Halpern::brain to your heart rhythm, and then your digestive rhythm
Dr. Mark Halpern::comes along, and then your breathing rhythm comes along.
Dr. Mark Halpern::And the cells of your body are literally all functioning, healing,
Dr. Mark Halpern::and replicating as they should. And so this state of physiological
Dr. Mark Halpern::coherence is the most resilient state. It's the state where you
Dr. Mark Halpern::fight off disease, where you make better decisions, where you
Dr. Mark Halpern::sleep better, where you heal at your best. And so this is a state
Dr. Mark Halpern::that you want to be in as often as you possibly can.
Dr. Brad Miller::So stay that helps us to respond to the anxiety inducing events
Dr. Brad Miller::such as COVID, or other life crises that come along, which invariably
Dr. Brad Miller::do. So let's go look just a little bit deeper on this because I'm a real
Dr. Brad Miller::believer that in order to face adverse life conditions, we do have to
Dr. Brad Miller::make this connection that is beyond self, beyond our self. And I know
Dr. Brad Miller::you have a couple, a chapter two in your book about, basically about
Dr. Brad Miller::meditation and spirituality and about connecting to something greater
Dr. Brad Miller::than yourself. And so tell us a bit about that about how this connectivity,
Dr. Brad Miller::bit spiritual meditation, religion, anything else comes into play for her
Dr. Brad Miller::for someone to respond to adversity in their life and to get into flow
Dr. Brad Miller::as you talk about
Dr. Mark Halpern::Yeah. Well, you know, you know, it's interesting, from a spiritual
Dr. Mark Halpern::level and for just a philosophical let's say, I've always felt connected
Dr. Mark Halpern::to the world around me, you know, universal principles that you know,
Dr. Mark Halpern::the universe has your back you hear you have heard see heard that
Dr. Mark Halpern::before. But for me, it was always very much just a concept. But around
Dr. Mark Halpern::2016, when me my wife started to go to see Dr. Joe Dispenza, do his
Dr. Mark Halpern::workshops, he does a specific type of meditation, where he's guiding
Dr. Mark Halpern::you through different energy centers, and he's guiding you through
Dr. Mark Halpern::how you can move energy through your body. And when you're
Dr. Mark Halpern::doing this in a room with 1000 people, you start to feel the difference.
Dr. Mark Halpern::And I have seen things in that room, from people having out of body
Dr. Mark Halpern::experiences, and literally the universe, you know, energy coming through
Dr. Mark Halpern::a person. And I've seen it and witnessed it enough times, that you feel
Dr. Mark Halpern::connected to everybody in that room at a higher level, at a deeper level.
Dr. Mark Halpern::And then what Dr. Dispenza did is he brought those HeartMath people.
Dr. Mark Halpern::The people from that company, they did research on people's brains,
Dr. Mark Halpern::as we're in that state. So you have these electrodes on your head, and
Dr. Mark Halpern::you'd be in meditation to be measuring the changes that are occurring.
Dr. Mark Halpern::And they would measure your heart rate variability. And they did tests like,
Dr. Mark Halpern::you'd be with three other people that were practicing heart coherence. And
Dr. Mark Halpern::if their heart went into coherence, the fourth person in the experimenter
Dr. Mark Halpern::was doing nothing, their heart went into coherence, and you start to see
Dr. Mark Halpern::from a scientific standpoint, that the emotions that you feel are affecting
Dr. Mark Halpern::the person next to and so now you start to go, wow, I can see this scientifically,
Dr. Mark Halpern::I've always thought about it spiritually. And so once the spiritual meets the
Dr. Mark Halpern::science, I mean, now you've got power, you know, from my perspective, and
Dr. Mark Halpern::from what I've seen going to the workshop to Dr. Joe and some other people,
Dr. Mark Halpern::you know, I've always thought that maybe it's a lot simpler than we thought.
Dr. Mark Halpern::Because every religion on Earth, talks about love. Every planet on Earth
Dr. Mark Halpern::talks every religion or talks about how love can heal. And imagine if that
Dr. Mark Halpern::was the case, if just feeling these emotions of love, can actually change the
Dr. Mark Halpern::planet. And HeartMath had these researchers at different poles on around
Dr. Mark Halpern::the Earth, and they're measuring the electromagnetic field. And this
Dr. Mark Halpern::research actually started on September 11, 2001, when the planes hit
Dr. Mark Halpern::the building. What they noticed during that time is that there was a
Dr. Mark Halpern::blip in the Earth's electromagnetic field at the same frequency as
Dr. Mark Halpern::the human heart. And so what they started to do research on was,
Dr. Mark Halpern::Wow, there was enough people looking at their TV and their screens
Dr. Mark Halpern::with the feeling of grief that it actually changed the planet's
Dr. Mark Halpern::electromagnetic field. So now there's actually a - it's called the
Dr. Mark Halpern::Global Coherence Initiative, where they're trying to get enough
Dr. Mark Halpern::people to meditate with the feeling of love at one time, so that you
Dr. Mark Halpern::can actually change the Earth's electromagnetic field and perhaps
Dr. Mark Halpern::change the ozones to heal the oceans, heal the planet. And so for me,
Dr. Mark Halpern::it's been very inspiring that when you work on physiological coherence,
Dr. Mark Halpern::you're working on your own overwhelm your own stress, you're
Dr. Mark Halpern::optimizing your own body. You're also working with the people
Dr. Mark Halpern::next to you. And then you're also affecting the earth. And so it's
Dr. Mark Halpern::really a three stage process of connectivity to those around you.
Dr. Mark Halpern::Well, that's what's inspired me,
Dr. Brad Miller::I'm really interested, fascinated with what you're talking about here,
Dr. Brad Miller::Mark, because it seems to medicate me a positive sense of contagion,
Dr. Brad Miller::you know, like contagion that is healthy and vibrant and alive, as
Dr. Brad Miller::opposed to you know, we talked a little bit about the COVID crisis.
Dr. Brad Miller::And we know, you know, how that's an actual viral situation. And we
Dr. Brad Miller::know that in certain situations in politics and war and other things, you
Dr. Brad Miller::can have hatred and nasty stuff that can be spread to one to another.
Dr. Brad Miller::And what you're sharing here is his vibrance, the vibration that can
Dr. Brad Miller::be shared, but from one to another, but it really starts with individuals
Dr. Brad Miller::doesn't it, doesn't not. Making their decision to transform, you know,
Dr. Brad Miller::because if I've give you out my own experience, you know, I've spent
Dr. Brad Miller::40 years as a pastor and so I've spent a lot of time with people in
Dr. Brad Miller::hospitals and end of life situations and major health matters and
Dr. Brad Miller::spiritual matters and relationship matters. And that approach, that
Dr. Brad Miller::attitude towards a surgery, or to anything else makes a huge
Dr. Brad Miller::difference. And so you can call it prayer, you can call it spiritual life
Dr. Brad Miller::and call it meditation. Or you can call it deep breathing all of these
Dr. Brad Miller::things when people have some sort of a centered in their life. It makes
Dr. Brad Miller::a big difference. And one of the thought about it is, I come from a music
Dr. Brad Miller::background United taught a little bit about our rock'n'roll backgrounds
Dr. Brad Miller::a little bit as fans, but I'm an old as disc jockey, but I know there's some
Dr. Brad Miller::research out there that shows certain types of music helps people even
Dr. Brad Miller::in groups, their heartbeats and other thoughts are the fizzy physiological
Dr. Brad Miller::aspects to come into alignment or in harmony. That's part of what we're
Dr. Brad Miller::talking about here. Do you think there's anything to all that all this
Dr. Brad Miller::alignment this world alignment of flow?
Dr. Mark Halpern::Well, you know, it's funny. In my course, what I go through is each of the
Dr. Mark Halpern::senses. We go through touch, we go through taste, we go through smell,
Dr. Mark Halpern::we go through visual, we go through auditory. And one of the exercises I
Dr. Mark Halpern::do in the course, I think it's a week three or four, we wrap it up the senses,
Dr. Mark Halpern::by doing fingerpainting. In during the fingerpainting, I have 15 different
Dr. Mark Halpern::music tracks. From Rock and Roll to country to jazz to to these drummers
Dr. Mark Halpern::from Japan, there's 15 different tracks. And the idea is to find your flow.
Dr. Mark Halpern::And as I put groups through this exercise, the responses were actually
Dr. Mark Halpern::really fascinating because people's emotions changed and their drawings
Dr. Mark Halpern::in the way they used color change drastically based upon the music that
Dr. Mark Halpern::they were listening to, and the different sounds that they were hearing.
Dr. Mark Halpern::And people reporting, you know, they feel up, they feel down, they
Dr. Mark Halpern::feel irritated, all within this half hour of changing the music and the
Dr. Mark Halpern::color. So everything has a vibration to it, whether it's a color, whether
Dr. Mark Halpern::it's an object, everything vibrates. And so when you are in sync with that
Dr. Mark Halpern::vibration, you can use it to your advantage, if it's if it's vibrating against
Dr. Mark Halpern::something, something that turns you away, well, then you want to avoid it,
Dr. Mark Halpern::because it's it's depleting in nature. And that's one of the other things that
Dr. Mark Halpern::I talk about is finding out the things that renew you versus the things that
Dr. Mark Halpern::deplete you. And so as you go through the self inquiry around sounds, or
Dr. Mark Halpern::tastes, or whatever it is, you want to obviously if you find some type of
Dr. Mark Halpern::sound that stimulates a positive emotional response, you can then use that.
Dr. Mark Halpern::So the next time you're in a down state, you can play that music or listen
Dr. Mark Halpern::to that sound to help change your emotional state. And that's the whole
Dr. Mark Halpern::purpose of what the coherence revolution is all about is figuring out what
Dr. Mark Halpern::sounds do resonate with you and which sounds don't so that you can use
Dr. Mark Halpern::more of the ones that do and get rid of the ones that don't. And it's really
Dr. Mark Halpern::all about self-knowledge.
Dr. Brad Miller::And that taking that self knowledge and applying it is where
Dr. Brad Miller::I want to go next with you for a second year mark. And because
Dr. Brad Miller::they you know, if it's one thing to learn, we would talk about our
Dr. Brad Miller::Barrows. One thing to learn is when you need to read, it's even
Dr. Brad Miller::though you want to write about it, but how do you apply it to your
Dr. Brad Miller::life. And I think it goes to the cognitive part of this, how you implement
Dr. Brad Miller::it. And I'm talking here on out now about habits or practices or rituals
Dr. Brad Miller::or new ways of doing things or whatever it is new hobbies, for instance.
Dr. Brad Miller::Tell us a bit about how you did this from yourself and what you teach
Dr. Brad Miller::here for people to break, whatever, you know, there's patterns people
Dr. Brad Miller::go into, and they start to spiral down into depression and things like that.
Dr. Brad Miller::But what are some of the habits that people can pick up on to play
Dr. Brad Miller::in his cognitive piece of what you teach here.
Dr. Mark Halpern::So one of the most helpful things that I ever did for myself was part
Dr. Mark Halpern::one of this exercise, which is I created a DTS daily time schedule.
Dr. Mark Halpern::And what that means is I outlined what I would do from the time
Dr. Mark Halpern::I woke up to the time I went to bed, every everything is in there,
Dr. Mark Halpern::and I teach you to do it in a certain way. Because it left to your
Dr. Mark Halpern::own devices. People do all the things that take up, you know,
Dr. Mark Halpern::laundry, groceries, all the things that are just the stuff you're
Dr. Mark Halpern::supposed to fit in they they're too busy doing that they
Dr. Mark Halpern::don't get the all their stuff done
Dr. Brad Miller::Urgent but not important, you know?
Dr. Mark Halpern::Yes. So you put in everything you know, you put in your
Dr. Mark Halpern::work schedule, your sleep schedule, you put in your exercise,
Dr. Mark Halpern::you put everything in your schedule, from whether you want
Dr. Mark Halpern::social time, whether you want music, whether you want to go
Dr. Mark Halpern::out to a movie, you put these in your daily schedule. So you
Dr. Mark Halpern::should come up with a document that looks like Monday
Dr. Mark Halpern::through Friday, this is the way I live my life. But then what
Dr. Mark Halpern::you want to do on top of that is figure out what emotions you
Dr. Mark Halpern::want to feel at what times of the day. And so you can start to
Dr. Mark Halpern::say when I wake up this is the emotion I want to feel.
Dr. Brad Miller::all about your emotions. I love that keep keep going
Dr. Mark Halpern::Very impressive. because there's a reason for it. You know,
Dr. Mark Halpern::as a sidebar, the reason I'm intentional about the emotions I
Dr. Mark Halpern::feel now is because I was so unintentional for 30 years about
Dr. Mark Halpern::the mind racing that caused the anxiety that produce chemicals
Dr. Mark Halpern::that created anxiety, and I wasn't intentional. I just let the
Dr. Mark Halpern::thought process go because
Dr. Brad Miller::Given a voice, something's gonna come in there some outdoor
Dr. Brad Miller::outside stimulus is gonna come in there and bombard and try
Dr. Brad Miller::and there's plenty of that isn't there? Outdoor? That's right.
Dr. Mark Halpern::And so if you become intentional about the emotions that you
Dr. Mark Halpern::want to feel, and then you do the self inquiry to find out how can
Dr. Mark Halpern::I do that? If I smell a fragrance of orange in the morning,
Dr. Mark Halpern::does that wake me up? If I smell some other smell in the afternoon?
Dr. Mark Halpern::Does that relax me or taste or visual? Whatever it is. And so once you
Dr. Mark Halpern::have your toolbox about how to change your emotions, and you've
Dr. Mark Halpern::identified what emotions you want to feel at what time of the day,
Dr. Mark Halpern::you can start to practice the emotions of your dream life. And once
Dr. Mark Halpern::you start to practice the emotions of your dream life, the dream life
Dr. Mark Halpern::becomes more familiar to you. And if becomes more familiar to you
Dr. Mark Halpern::the likelihood of you achieving that dream life becomes much greater
Dr. Mark Halpern::because now you're already familiar with what it feels like. Right? So
Dr. Mark Halpern::it's important to identify how you want to feel. And then what are the
Dr. Mark Halpern::things that you can do to do it. And so I have a very, I have a very big
Dr. Mark Halpern::toolbox of things that if in any given moment, I'm not feeling the emotion,
Dr. Mark Halpern::I want to feel, how do I get there? And I now know, okay, boom, I'm gonna go.
Dr. Mark Halpern::Sometimes it's putting on a hat, you know, that hat makes me feel great.
Dr. Mark Halpern::Sometimes it's talking to a certain person, sometimes it's listening to music,
Dr. Mark Halpern::sometimes it's doing Heart Math, which is the breath work that I teach.
Dr. Mark Halpern::But no matter what it is for you, you have to know what your toolbox has.
Dr. Mark Halpern::And then you can practice. And as long as you're practicing the emotions
Dr. Mark Halpern::that you want to feel, they're just going to get easier and easier for you.
Dr. Brad Miller::So if you practice these things, you can in effect,
Dr. Brad Miller::by that the action switch your state from whatever
Dr. Brad Miller::you might have been in or might have been influenced by
Dr. Brad Miller::your stimuli. And to something that you have some control
Dr. Brad Miller::over or you set yourself in a direction, that's awesome.
Dr. Mark Halpern::It's one of the smartest statements ever made was fake it till you
Dr. Mark Halpern::make it, because fake it till you make it is really saying, Live as if you
Dr. Mark Halpern::are, and if you act as if long enough, you become more and more
Dr. Mark Halpern::familiar with it, and you start to be able to do it. And so whether
Dr. Mark Halpern::it's achieving an emotion or achieving a certain goal, or whatever
Dr. Mark Halpern::it is, acting as if means that you're already behaving as if it is.
Dr. Brad Miller::The act as if and the fake it 'til you make, I have a term I like to
Dr. Brad Miller::use for that type of thing is practice, you know, in simply to
Dr. Brad Miller::practice whatever it is if I want to learn to play guitar, I am just
Dr. Brad Miller::simply not going to be Jerry Garcia, the first time I pick up a guitar.
Dr. Brad Miller::I'm going to have to practice you know, hours and hours, and
Dr. Brad Miller::Gladwell 20,000 hour type of thing, whatever it is, you got to keep
Dr. Brad Miller::at it, and you're just going to suck at first, but you got to keep at it.
Dr. Brad Miller::And that's what I think I'm here, you say you're?
Dr. Mark Halpern::Well, yes, and but most people won't do that with an emotional state.
Dr. Mark Halpern::And you see, if you're let's say you're someone that suffers with anxiety,
Dr. Mark Halpern::or migraines are overwhelmed. And now you want to practice a
Dr. Mark Halpern::different anxiety state and you go, I can't feel a positive emotion,
Dr. Mark Halpern::I'm anxious right now. Well, no, the first time, you're probably not
Dr. Mark Halpern::going to be able to. But the fact is, is a simple thing, like going to
Dr. Mark Halpern::a mirror, and standing in front of the mirror and smiling. As soon
Dr. Mark Halpern::as you smile, it releases endorphins in your brain releases chemicals
Dr. Mark Halpern::that produce happiness. And so if you can, in that state of just being
Dr. Mark Halpern::miserable, if you can literally just get to a mirror, and smile, and just
Dr. Mark Halpern::smile a few times, it breaks the pattern. And so again, if you have
Dr. Mark Halpern::some of these tools, or some of these things that you know work
Dr. Mark Halpern::for you, you've got to go and do them. And the first time is not
Dr. Mark Halpern::going to be easy. And the second time will get a little easier.
Dr. Mark Halpern::And then it gets easier and easier. It's like anything, you practice
Dr. Mark Halpern::your emotional state. So you can become a master of your moment.
Dr. Brad Miller::Another part of the emotional state is how we, you got really
Dr. Brad Miller::big believer to send, you got to have your personal decisions,
Dr. Brad Miller::your quiet time, but whatever it is, you got to do it. You got to
Dr. Brad Miller::suck it up and do it little by little, but that's willpower. For
Dr. Brad Miller::instance, you got to be unsatisfied with your prior state in order
Dr. Brad Miller::to change to the new state. But the emotional piece, I believe,
Dr. Brad Miller::also has to do with other people or influences how community
Dr. Brad Miller::comes into play, you got personal practice, and you got
Dr. Brad Miller::community you got relationships. So let's talk a little bit about
Dr. Brad Miller::that right now in terms of the power of mentorship or relationships,
Dr. Brad Miller::our community, friends, family, others, to be encouraging to you or
Dr. Brad Miller::how your investment in others, those emotional states can be part
Dr. Brad Miller::of your own process of growth to find flow, let's talk about
Dr. Brad Miller::relationships in terms of this transformation.
Dr. Mark Halpern::So for me, there's been what you're talking about sort of affects me
Dr. Mark Halpern::in two different ways. One, when you are with someone, and you're
Dr. Mark Halpern::having a conversation, and you're there with them, being in the
Dr. Mark Halpern::moment, I don't feel a lot of anxiety. And most people when they're
Dr. Mark Halpern::actually in the moment when they're engaged in something, there is
Dr. Mark Halpern::no stress. It's when you're thinking about the future, you get anxiety,
Dr. Mark Halpern::you think about the past, you kind of get depressed. But if you're in
Dr. Mark Halpern::the moment, there isn't very much of that. So when I am with someone
Dr. Mark Halpern::who I resonate with, and I'm having a good conversation, I'm in that
Dr. Mark Halpern::moment. But it goes beyond that as well, especially for me as a
Dr. Mark Halpern::chiropractor, when I enter the room with one of my patients, even
Dr. Mark Halpern::if I'm anxious beforehand, as soon as I get in there with them. And
Dr. Mark Halpern::I'm of service to them. And my issue is not where my brain is
Dr. Mark Halpern::anymore. I'm thinking about how can I help them for the two
Dr. Mark Halpern::minutes, five minutes or ten minutes that I'm with that patient,
Dr. Mark Halpern::I don't feel anxiety. Because I am with them and I'm engaged
Dr. Mark Halpern::and I'm in the moment. And so for me using your community,
Dr. Mark Halpern::it is a reciprocal thing. I mean, my patients have helped me as
Dr. Mark Halpern::much as I've helped them. Simply because when I'm when with
Dr. Mark Halpern::them, I'm in the moment and I'm feeling my absolute best. I'm
Dr. Mark Halpern::feeling inspired. And I know that I'm giving that to them, and
Dr. Mark Halpern::they're able to walk out feeling that energy. So not only did I
Dr. Mark Halpern::help myself, but now I've helped them. And so I find, you know,
Dr. Mark Halpern::when you are around people that aren't, you know, that, that
Dr. Mark Halpern::you resonate with, obviously, I am also a big proponent of
Dr. Mark Halpern::avoiding people who you just trigger you all the time, I don't
Dr. Mark Halpern::care if they're your family, friends, or whoever they are, if they're
Dr. Mark Halpern::triggering you all the time, you need, you need some respite from
Dr. Mark Halpern::them, at least so that you're not triggered. But for the most part,
Dr. Mark Halpern::when I'm around people, and I can be in the moment with them
Dr. Mark Halpern::the connection that you are able to the given the receive, I believe
Dr. Mark Halpern::has saved me and my patients have saved me from a whole bunch
Dr. Mark Halpern::of suffering, because when I'm with them, I'm more about in
Dr. Mark Halpern::service, as opposed to what's wrong with me.
Dr. Brad Miller::Let's talk about it in service, then. Because Will you talk about
Dr. Brad Miller::how you know, we need to avoid the toxic relationships and
Dr. Brad Miller::have the encouraging relationships. And you've also prior about
Dr. Brad Miller::mentorships, or reading and other you know, seminars you've
Dr. Brad Miller::been to, and that type of thing. But now you have come up with
Dr. Brad Miller::your own book called the Coherence Revolution, you have your
Dr. Brad Miller::website, and you have your course you know, and various things
Dr. Brad Miller::you involved with, how was what you're working on now of
Dr. Brad Miller::service to others? Not everybody's gonna be able to come to
Dr. Brad Miller::your office to get an adjustment of chiropractic adjustment. But
Dr. Brad Miller::you have obviously now been motivated to share your thoughts
Dr. Brad Miller::with with the world says what that's about how you serve others?
Dr. Mark Halpern::Well, the book really goes into my story, it goes into some concepts
Dr. Mark Halpern::and some really important concepts about the words we use and
Dr. Mark Halpern::about the world around us, and about how to use our senses. And I
Dr. Mark Halpern::enjoyed the process of writing the book. But where I'm really energized
Dr. Mark Halpern::for is the the course, the reason being is I get to help people in real
Dr. Mark Halpern::time and teach them the techniques that HeartMath the breathwork
Dr. Mark Halpern::techniques. And by diving into each week, we'll go over different
Dr. Mark Halpern::senses, we go over nature, we talk about how to use the world
Dr. Mark Halpern::around you to create, essentially, by the end of the six weeks,
Dr. Mark Halpern::you want to be able to have your own life plan. And that DTS
Dr. Mark Halpern::that I was talking about that daily time schedule, that sort of
Dr. Mark Halpern::the thing that you're going to create for yourself. So at the end
Dr. Mark Halpern::of the six weeks, you have a game plan, you know what you're
Dr. Mark Halpern::going to be doing. And so really, it's about over a four to six
Dr. Mark Halpern::week period, you get to dive into your own life, you get support,
Dr. Mark Halpern::and you get to look at what music, what tastes, what sounds
Dr. Mark Halpern::How does nature help me? How can I use my breath? What
Dr. Mark Halpern::type of therapies? We talk about all the different things that
Dr. Mark Halpern::help me and some that didn't. And then I'm able to train
Dr. Mark Halpern::people how to use it for themselves. So a big part of the
Dr. Mark Halpern::online course is learning the HeartMath breathwork techniques,
Dr. Mark Halpern::as well as the Zoom breakout room. So for people who have
Dr. Mark Halpern::done Zoom, you know, breakout rooms are the side rooms where
Dr. Mark Halpern::you go in. And so what we do is break into different groups.
Dr. Mark Halpern::And we have people practicing different emotional states
Dr. Mark Halpern::practicing different responses, practicing how they would like
Dr. Mark Halpern::to respond in certain situations. So the idea is, we don't want to
Dr. Mark Halpern::just talk about it, this isn't just theory, we want you to start developing
Dr. Mark Halpern::the ability to practice the life that you want to lead. And so if you're
Dr. Mark Halpern::feeling overwhelmed, and you're frozen, the idea is to just start getting
Dr. Mark Halpern::some help to change the way that you're living everyday to be able to
Dr. Mark Halpern::change the lifestyle that you're living in. So the coherence revolution is
Dr. Mark Halpern::really, there is no one way of doing it. But the process everybody
Dr. Mark Halpern::has to go through in the same way, which is taking the time to dive
Dr. Mark Halpern::into each aspect of their life, and really be honest with themselves
Dr. Mark Halpern::about what works and what doesn't. So that at the end of the six
Dr. Mark Halpern::weeks, you have you almost have a manifesto of your own life that
Dr. Mark Halpern::you can that you will be able to practice and live by.
Dr. Brad Miller::And they can find that at your website coherencerevolution.com.
Dr. Brad Miller::And but let's hear now, you've mentioned this about how your
Dr. Brad Miller::course and your book and the people you've worked with personally,
Dr. Brad Miller::I'd like to hear a story now about a person or maybe a situation you've
Dr. Brad Miller::worked with. Were you seeing some of the concepts that you've taught
Dr. Brad Miller::to come to fruition? Were you seeing an actual life change, have
Dr. Brad Miller::somebody get towards a state of flow that you talk about?
Dr. Mark Halpern::Well, you know, it was interesting. I've got a whole bunch of patients
Dr. Mark Halpern::that I've put through this, this process as well. In the summer there was
Dr. Mark Halpern::a woman, she went through the process, she was probably a 35 year old
Dr. Mark Halpern::woman. She's still single, so she was on her own. But she just kept telling
Dr. Mark Halpern::me that she was overwhelmed. She's not getting anything done. Her life
Dr. Mark Halpern::is always busy. She doesn't have time for herself. And it's really hard for
Dr. Mark Halpern::her to move forward in life. She stuck. And so then after she went through
Dr. Mark Halpern::this process, you know, the first thing I teach people is don't make decisions
Dr. Mark Halpern::when you're in coherence make a decision when you're coherent. So, first
Dr. Mark Halpern::of all, as she learned this by At work, her ability to make the decisions
Dr. Mark Halpern::and not stay stuck changed, you know, she no longer felt stuck.
Dr. Mark Halpern::Because every time she felt that feeling, she would use the breath
Dr. Mark Halpern::work, she'd get unstuck. And then she'd make the decision that
Dr. Mark Halpern::she needed to make for the next day or the next decision she
Dr. Mark Halpern::needed to make. And then she reported back to me a couple
Dr. Mark Halpern::of weeks later, she had done her daily schedule. She know,
Dr. Mark Halpern::she made time to schedule time with her family, but she also
Dr. Mark Halpern::had time to get that part time job she wanted. And she also
Dr. Mark Halpern::was able to clean out her house. And so she was just really
Dr. Mark Halpern::excited that she got to get to things she never was able to
Dr. Mark Halpern::get to. And now this is only maybe four or five days ago, this
Dr. Mark Halpern::is about three months after her doing the course, she's now
Dr. Mark Halpern::just said to me, life is not the same, the way that she is able to
Dr. Mark Halpern::make her decisions. She's not doing it from a place of
Dr. Mark Halpern::overwhelm anymore. And so she's been able to get a lot
Dr. Mark Halpern::more done, because when she's not an overwhelmed, there's
Dr. Mark Halpern::a lot of things that she enjoys. So for her, it was all about
Dr. Mark Halpern::breaking the cycle of feeling overwhelmed, yes. Right.
Dr. Mark Halpern::Whereas I had I had a guy who was in his late 40s, real a
Dr. Mark Halpern::personality electrician, you know, not, I wouldn't say he
Dr. Mark Halpern::lived his life by a heart centered approach. But he was a
Dr. Mark Halpern::very lovable guy. But he was all business. And he came in
Dr. Mark Halpern::and he was the least likely person to take my course. But,
Dr. Mark Halpern::you know, I actually asked him I recommended and he said,
Dr. Mark Halpern::You know what, I'm going to take you up on that. So he took
Dr. Mark Halpern::the course. And for him, he came in after the first two weeks,
Dr. Mark Halpern::and he said, You know what the most important thing I've
Dr. Mark Halpern::learned from your course is how to listen. Because now I'm able
Dr. Mark Halpern::to listen to my employees, and the ability of us to move forward.
Dr. Mark Halpern::And in our business, we've gotten past some roadblocks, because
Dr. Mark Halpern::I'm actually listening to what the employees have said. And I think
Dr. Mark Halpern::I'm gonna go to therapy with my wife, because I think I now
Dr. Mark Halpern::understand what she's been asking me. And this is a guy that
Dr. Mark Halpern::never would have considered. So what I'm seeing, I guess, in
Dr. Mark Halpern::general, is people breaking their pattern of that's not the way
Dr. Mark Halpern::I am ever heard people say that, Oh, that doesn't work doesn't
Dr. Mark Halpern::work for me. It's not for me. And whenever someone says,
Dr. Mark Halpern::oh, that doesn't work for me, I always say, but how is what
Dr. Mark Halpern::you're currently doing?
Dr. Brad Miller::How's that working for you?
Dr. Mark Halpern::Yeah and so what I'm seeing is people breaking their patterns.
Dr. Mark Halpern::And that's really the most important thing for me, if I can help
Dr. Mark Halpern::people, break down their old patterns and help create new ones,
Dr. Mark Halpern::I think I've done my job with them.
Dr. Brad Miller::And that is absolutely how people break through and get Beyond
Dr. Brad Miller::Adversities we like to say here and to come on to a better life.
Dr. Brad Miller::So people want to get a hold of you or connect you to where
Dr. Brad Miller::we are and send folks to be connected to Dr. Mark. And well,
Dr. Mark Halpern::For your audience what I wanted to do, I think this is probably
Dr. Mark Halpern::going to come out after the holidays, the website that are the
Dr. Mark Halpern::least the page, I want you to go to www.coherencerevolution.com/2022.
Dr. Mark Halpern::And when you go to that page, you'll be able to get a free ebook.
Dr. Mark Halpern::So if anybody just wants to read read the eBook that's there for you
Dr. Mark Halpern::won't cost you anything. But there's also a code if you do want to sign
Dr. Mark Halpern::up for the course the six week course there's a 50% off code. So feel
Dr. Mark Halpern::free to use it. If you have any questions you can always reach out to
Dr. Mark Halpern::me my email is on the website, coherencerevolution.com But if you go
Dr. Mark Halpern::to forward slash 2022, you'll be able to get the free ebook and a 50%
Dr. Mark Halpern::off discount.
Dr. Brad Miller::Well thank you for that we'll put connections to all that links to
Dr. Brad Miller::everything the website coherence revolution and the the code 2022
Dr. Brad Miller::and all the other connections to your work at our website, drbradmiller.com.
Dr. Brad Miller::So people get connected to your good work and it's been an honor to have
Dr. Brad Miller::you with us. He is the author of Coherence Revolution: Finding flow in your
Dr. Brad Miller::journey to your present moment, helping you find harmony in your life.
Dr. Brad Miller::Our guest today on Beyond Adversity, Dr. Mark Halpern, thank you.