161:The Formula for Continual Expansion into Your Own Greatness with Sherry Stirling Fernandez the Author of “Life Mastery: Personal Progression Toward an Infinite Potential”

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The Formula for Continual Expansion into Your Own Greatness with Sherry Stirling Fernandez the Author of “Life Mastery: Personal Progression Toward an Infinite Potential”

Sherry talks to Brad about growing up in difficult home life and having many adversities to face in her young adult years. To overcome the circumstances she threw herself into a program of study and.

This eventually led her to have success in her marriage and her business life and to develop her process which she calls the progression towards Infinite potential And achieving life mastery

Her process contains eight points of development for people wanting to make progress towards their potential. One of the more important points with the implementation of a task sheet included places to physically make checkmarks to indicate the achievement of certain daily tasks which would lead to self-improvement.

This is an important episode for the person seeking a pragmatic and practical process to implement to achieve self-improvement and life mastery.

The Beyond Adversity Podcast with Dr. Brad Miller is published weekly to help people to navigate adverse life events and to achieve a life of peace prosperity and purpose. self-improvement.

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Transcript
Brad Miller:

Dr. Brad Miller here on beyond adversity. This

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is the podcast where we help you to advance navigate through

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adverse conditions in your life, and to emerge to a place of

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peace, prosperity and purpose. We love to talk to authors and

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leaders and teachers who have had a story to tell about how

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they have had advanced in one way or another, navigated

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through adverse conditions in their life and have had success

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and a process to do so that you can learn from our author, guest

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today, he is a Sherry Sterling finance. And she is the author

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of life, mastery, personal progression towards an infinite

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potential. It's her first book, and she's going to tell talk to

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us today and share with her about her story, which is a rags

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to riches story with her husband, Ken, they went through

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and found success in their life, and through their business

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adventures, and but most, especially through the process

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that they call the Life Mastery process, which came after their

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study of principles of success, and practicing those principles.

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And that's what she teaches. And that's the focus of the areas

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that she's going to share with us hear about today. And she is,

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has the Life Mastery as a process of contentment, progress

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and happiness. And she's going to be helpful to us today. So we

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Welcome to Beyond add versity. You Sherry Sterling in finance.

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Thanks for having me. It's good to have you here with us today.

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Sherry, on the podcast, you say that this is a kind of a rags to

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riches story. And I know that in your story, not only in building

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a business, and did your print, tell us about a little bit, but

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also on growing up? Did you've had a few challenges in your

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life before you kind of emerge to some success? And can you

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just share with a little bit about your story, how you

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evolved from growing up and so on, and through some of the

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challenges that you have faced some adversities you may have

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faced it and where you're at right now. Just a little bit

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about Sherry.

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

And well, thank you. I yeah, I

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didn't, I guess I didn't really think about my background is

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having adversity Exactly. But I tell you the details, you say,

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Well, that sounds like diversity. But my parents were

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divorced, we did the number of marriages kind of thing. That

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same with the abusive stepfather that kind of stuff, did have

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some years of stability might go a little bit older, but I just

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was a little wild. A lot of my problems I created for myself,

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got myself in some drinking and partying and that kind of thing.

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And then when I finally settled down and baby and first and then

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met my husband and we we got married, I realized I wanted

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things I wanted everything I wanted rich spiritual life, I

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wanted a fabulous marriage, I'm not married. And now here I was

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married someone the best marriage I could have been I

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want to do things and travel problem was we were just barely

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surviving. We were like, not very, pretty good on the table,

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we were just

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broke. And so I had to figure out in the course of wasted my

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education years, because we were partying that early 70s, you

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know, on young people on the road, lots of pot and drinking

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and parties and you know, drugs and stuff like that, and just

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wasted those years, I might have gotten a degree or done

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something or some experience of build up some money. So those

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were gone. So I thought how am I going to get from here to now

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I've got two babies, how am I going to get from here I placed

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the poverty to some place that I want to go. So I started reading

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the books and I started with them vigors books at the top.

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And I started thinking of ways to grow and applying things,

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principles that I knew and that I learned my husband was the

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same listening to the great mentors of those days, you know,

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the zig ziglar and Jim Rohn Of course, and, and Brian Tracy and

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reading the books and and applying the principles and

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refining them. And then I began teaching them and started

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mentoring people myself. And then COVID hit and I wrote a

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book. And that's kind of how I got married here but really

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great marvelous life found success and all the things I

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teach in rich spiritual life, great marriage, lots of money in

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the bank, well educated I was able to hit all the high points

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and be with us when could you kind of came to the school of

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hard knocks a little bit through the process. You're talking

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there. And you learned a lot because you invested a lot in

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your personal education after having some challenges in your

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life to overcome growing up and choices. We all make choices.

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But then you made some choices to change. That's what I want to

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talk to you about a little bit cherries, some of the choices

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that you made for to change when you think were some of the

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specific choices. I like to call them bold actions or actions

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that we take that you took

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To transform because you know, as well as I

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do, that there's a lot of people who went through similar

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experiences when they were young, in your case in the in

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the 70s, through all that process you're talking about

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there, who still, you know, are still stuck there, right?

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They're still stuck that that kind of life and lifestyle, and

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make a difference how old you are, people can still stay stuck

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you chose not to. And so what I'm really fascinated about, by

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better story, Sherry, is what you did, what were some of the

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actions that you took, what were some of the things that really

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broke the mold in your life, to get you to where you're at

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today?

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I liked the way he asked the

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question, what did I do? What were the things that I did,

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because that requires doing things you can want want want,

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but you have to actually do something as what you do every

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day. It wasn't instantaneous. Obviously, it took quite a few

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years before things started to come together for us financially

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from other things get a little quicker. But what did I do?

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First of all, the lifestyle I had to living was extremely

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disciplined, right. And that's a very disciplined party. Don't

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much of yourself. So I had to start with some disciplines. And

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I nobody taught me this particular thing, I just, I just

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continued child's chart. And I thought that works for children

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work for me. So I made a little chart for myself, that was like

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a, like, we call tracking sheets now. But I listed the habits I

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wanted, which were just some basic ones I wanted to pray

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every day, I wanted to read the scriptures every day. And I

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wanted to write my journal every day. This is why I started with

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just those three. So I made this little tracking sheet or little

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chart on a three by five card I had in my kitchen. And I would

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check it if I did the thing that I was supposed to do every day,

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I would get a check. And I didn't close the blank. And I

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didn't like the blades, I didn't want my friends or family to see

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me having any blank. So I use my pride a little bit. And it

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works, you know to time I develop those three habits. And

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then I added Did

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you have this like posted somewhere and you're

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posted on my kitchen cabinet where we

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had quite a few people go home in those days and friends and

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family and younger siblings. And it served a little bit as I used

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that as that nobody ever said a word about that. But I just

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thought nobody's gonna see a spot on my chart. Without that

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check.

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You held yourself accountable, in a sense to the

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other people just by just by having it out in public,

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I just did my ego I guess it's a

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little bit of a countability partner their size and start

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exercising every single day. And now my I still do that. I don't

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have to put prayer on it. For example, some of these things,

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they don't put any marks like there's such habits, but I still

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track that 10 things a day, how much water I drink and my

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workouts, let me qualify to be a certain kind of workout. They

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don't add that to the check mark. Yeah, I still do that. And

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so that's probably the crux of my training program is you got

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to do something. And you have to Peter Drucker said if it's not

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measured, it's not managed. And so you've got to you've got to

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measure what you're doing, by the way to be a gold yourself

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accountable those tracking sheets way I give away free

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leads on my website, you can get those in one to try it out for

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yourself. But they weren't my clients I'll run into I'm, I've

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taught this years ago, milsim still doing that, and make a

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difference in that one thing. There's other skills I teach,

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but that one skill to track your day habits. It's all about daily

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habits. It's just all about daily habits.

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Yeah, that accountability to yourself of

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the literally putting up pencil to paper makes a difference,

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doesn't it? There's something to be said about the actual

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physical act and the check mark, and so on about accomplishment.

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And you use You said you didn't want to see any blank spaces on

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that. And even you know, today I and

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I, as I've taught this over the years, nobody does know,

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everybody sounds like such a maybe childish thing, but

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nobody, nobody likes to get that check. And nobody likes empty

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spaces. And so when I teach this, I teach them do it exactly

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that way you get a check if you did it with an empty space that

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you didn't tell the ego or it's our brain, whatever it is,

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doesn't like empty spaces and, and nobody wants to go into

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space on their little chart.

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Well, we're all wired up a little differently. I

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know that sometimes when I'm a teacher and a pastor and

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sometimes I do outlines for messages, which fill in the

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blank type of things. And if sometimes if I somehow forget or

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misstate something, so that one blank is not filled in. I hear

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from it from some people, you know, because they can't stand

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it tonight have that blank filled in that you have it's

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awesome that you have this action that you've taken and and

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I think it's very relevant to if you want to change in your life,

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you got to be very intentional life is just going to slip by if

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you just say I will let that go all charges, something you know

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tomorrow or let it go or whatever it is. We have to take

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action and fulfill those actions and that that's commendable.

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Most people just let life happen.

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Right? Like you say they just you just let life happen. But I

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said taking action and doing something but statistically, we

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think about three to 5% of people actually design their own

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lives. And you can see how that happens. You just do the same

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things every day every day and you're going to change one of

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these days, but you don't do anything in one day. Your

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whole premise of this podcast. In the work I do

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about getting beyond adversity, adversity is those things that

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happen in our life such as what you've already mentioned, here

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it can be, you know, it can be depression or death of the

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family or disease or financial issues, anything, it can get us

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stuck. In order to get out of that we have to take action and

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to do something about it. And I also believe, you know, share

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that we need, that's kind of the physical part, if you will, for

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instance, to exercise when I go workout in the mornings, I gotta

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get my car driving to the gym. So that's my kind of my impetus

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there. But there's also a little more to it, I believe. And I'd

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like to speak a little bit you mentioned already in your

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comments earlier, any connection to a higher power or something

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beyond yourself a spiritual thing or a meditative process?

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Anything that kind of goes to the inner life, about your

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transformative process?

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Yeah, absolutely. And I deeply

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spiritual and religious. And I will also say that when I

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started to that same period of life as I one thing that when

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you start to pray, and I felt like that was fundamental self,

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yeah, you know, if I can call it a higher power, and help me get

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through these things, it makes all the difference in the world

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in I like, I was reading a book, Ryan Holiday, and he said, if

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our bodies were all of a sudden, went numb, we'd be so long we're

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going to die could we be trying to fix that they said, for a lot

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of us are spirits, and we're not even concerned, a successful

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life needs to be spiritual, physical, with educational, we

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have been rounded, and all those things and I, I just, it's a

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spiritual that brings so much of the depth, the beauty, the help

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the support, I if it has to be spiritual, too. And when I work

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with clients, I don't care where they're at spiritually, but they

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have to do something in the spiritual realm and and

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physical, all eight areas of Life Mastery. And when those the

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spiritual can be go for a walk in the woods, and that's all

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you've got or meditated. That's all you've got. But yeah, that

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spiritual part is just critically important.

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You got the end, these are all inner integrated

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one to another, I believe. And you are you can do the physical

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things you said such as your check mark system, your tracking

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system included a spiritual element did that to recall

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correct? Yeah,

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first thing I put on there was, I had

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always, even though I had done this very wild child and not

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religious, and I was raised with to handle a lot of religion in

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my community, but not my family. Even at that, because when my

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parents were first divorced, when I was seven, I was the

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oldest of these four little girls, and my mother was not

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well prepared to take care of horrible girls. And I needed

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that family to go back together. So I started praying, I didn't

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know how I learned to do that. I started praying as a little

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girl, I did that all my life, I'd come back from party, you

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know, whatever, I'll get on my knees and pray. So that wasn't

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much of an issue. I know. It's a weird thing. But that's how it

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was. But the morning prayer when you wanted to have a habit of

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morning prayer. So that was the first thing that went on my

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chart, so that in daily scripture reading, and then a

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journal, and then exercise and then over the years, more and

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more and more and more things. And that still makes money. Some

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of those things still make my my list every day, not the praying,

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but the scriptural study, and that kind of thing. I still do

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that every day.

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That's awesome. And I believe that, you know, part

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of this process of life transformation means we got to

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be very cognizant of all these various areas of physical part

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part that has to do with our spiritual life. And, and there's

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also emotional elements. And you've already mentioned some,

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you know, family members has some some folks in your life

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that I know that your husband, our partners, in many ways, but

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let's let's talk about emotions, I believe are kind of fuel that

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helps us to change, I believe that spiritual life is the power

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part, that's the source of the power, and that the fuel that

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keeps us going, is emotions. Let's talk about loving

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relationships, either in your life, or you, perhaps your

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husband or other people that have been a part of your team,

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to help you transform, and then how you're able to translate

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that to other people, how you share that with other people.

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Let's talk about the emotional elements relationships,

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happen, just don't have the longest

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chapter in my book, how to be on relationships, and they're

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critically important for so many reasons, that it's our

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relationships that we enjoy that we enjoy life, and we, the

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people that we enjoy, that's all really important, but they also

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important that we kind of bump up against each other and learn

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some things about ourselves. I'm always amazed at how brilliant I

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am before I actually interact with people. But yeah, the

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satisfaction of a good relationship, a good marriage

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relationship. Well, I get all the credit for Life Mastery. My

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husband, I did this together. I couldn't have done it without

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him. He was an integral part of the learning process. And we

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work together and we bet at odds it would have been much more

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difficult. I am who I am, I'm sure I would have pushed hard to

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be the best I can be anyway, but how if somebody, a partner, and

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a close relationship, and we have a really, really marvelous,

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remarkable people, much About time, how close we are, we

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really had this very close relationship and I wouldn't

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wanted to do it, I just don't think it could have done it as

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well. And I wouldn't want to do it by myself. And then I have

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him as to reflect back to me when I'm off, off target, you

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know, and I missed the mark a little bit into target through I

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just, yeah, the relationships, really, at the end of the day,

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most of our happiness is comes from relationships, if not with

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God, it's our husband or wife or children, or friends. That's

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where all of the joy and happiness comes from, like not

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having a bunch of money in the bank,

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crowood you got, as you mentioned, it's cool when

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you're able to iterate those things in such a way that you

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were able to work through a process and have success on all

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those areas. That's what everybody wants, really, you

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know, everybody wants to have success in their life, and they

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get kind of put up in a ditch, sometimes by one bad first life

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happens, and life happens, you know, but the check marks and so

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on, that's part of that accountability that way, but our

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relationships can be help us hold us accountable to when we

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have affirming loving relationships, that to help hold

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us accountable both marriages you mentioned and you're also

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accountable to your clients, I know and that type of thing that

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you work with, and you develop rapport and relationships that

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way it's so it's not just an interchange of you know, just as

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not an exchange of money or anything else like that. It's

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interchange of life.

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I'm 65 my kids are like 31 to 45 and

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six, seven. And they're still really the reason I get out of

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bed in the morning because I've got to show them how to live

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right. I can't just, they're not my home, I need to show them how

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it how you live when you're 65 I need to show them how you grow

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how to grow old well. And same thing with my clients, my

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clients are looking to my life. So it does hold me accountable.

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I can't, I can't if I have any. I just won't check my check my

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tracking sheet today I can do that. Because I've got people on

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teaching that to be hypocrite. So yeah, those people that we

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love are cannibal to myself a lot too. And a lot of reasons I

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want to change my life because I had these two at that time,

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little girls. I wanted them to have everything I wanted to be

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the best mother I could be I didn't want to leave them at

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risk. And so that was one of my reasons for wanting to teach to

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Yeah, changing and being candid with those people.

Brad Miller:

Yeah, that's a those those are the most

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important people to us most of the time you know, we sometimes

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we have unfortunate experiences so you mentioned some forge

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experiences growing up in that type of thing, but still, you

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know, families family and if we can be a influencer upon our

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family members, I have three adult children, myself and two

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grandchildren and I certainly think about that a lot.

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Especially my two grandchildren are very young I think about

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influence on them right now more justifies more than anything

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else. These days in terms of people who are close to violence

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How about process a little bit your books about process and and

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one of the things I love to be aware of is things like

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discipline. So I think you have to think and act with

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discipline, in order to really get things accomplished. You've

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already mentioned that in several ways. But I know your

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your book is about mastery, you've talked about life.

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mastery and mastery means you practice you got to practice

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something mastered I know you're in the physical fitness world

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you don't get don't get better at aspect of physical fitness by

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just doing it once a month or so you got to keep adding tests

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What about your process about your program of helping people

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to get better because you call it a progression?

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

First of all this is say about that is

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I'm just totally just flabbergasted amazed, just in

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awe of human potential. Just that's what kind of Jazz's me up

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and watching people change. It's just everything I just think is

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awesome. But my one of the things that's unique about Life

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Mastery is they do they do include how the last sections on

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how I when I was reading the books, and look, I kept thinking

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alongside have to do something, something to get down motivated,

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but then say, Well tell me what to do and how to do it. What to

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do, I could probably work out which again, but how to do it, I

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needed somebody to tell me how. So that's one of the things

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unique about Life Mastery. And I teach, I teach several skills.

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One is to have a mission statement. One is to have

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governing values. So there's some things like that have a big

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dreams list. But as far as hardcore progression things that

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teach three things, one is the tracking sheet that I mentioned,

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which is about the things that you do the things that are

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measurable, I don't believe in SMART goals, you know, this the

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specific measurable What is it attainable, relevant and

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

actionable release I don't believe in bout for my belly

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bigger than that. For action steps that need to be those

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things. So things that we do, I say put so much money in the

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bank every week I work out every day I drink so much water you

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

just certainly things that we actually do I need in my fit

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

something in my field. I pray those kind of specific habits

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

tracking sheet that's all about the tracking sheet but sometimes

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we want things that are not that are very valuable but they're

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not tracking All right in that way. And so the second system

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that I teach with the kind of goals kind of goes like, if I

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have a goal to mileage everybody I have about this, if I have a

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

goal to be a good listener, how am I going to measure that?

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Like, hey, listen, good today, one isn't that one person pretty

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good at being not that other person so good, you can't really

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measure that. So to be a good listener, to be kind to speak

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well of other people to laugh easily, things like that, that

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

you can't measure daily, written affirmations. And it's the balm

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for who you are, who you're trying to change. And this is

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how I discovered that happiness comes from personal progression.

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That's what that's what makes us happy, going towards that

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infinite potential. So it's through affirmations, I actually

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learned that because progress comes so fast. And that works

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like this, you write down the affirmations that already

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exists, and that I know a lot of people do this in the mirror and

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

they say things that I got that is not as effective as this, I

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

promise you, if you have a, I get my planner or notebook. And

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every day you write and you never miss, I am happy or I am

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competent, or I laugh easily. Or lately, I picked up a sticky

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thing. From john a couple one of his books. He said My life is

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dope, which is insane. You know, I thought on the 65 year old

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

woman I like my life is dope. So put that in my affirmations just

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

for fun, my life is dope. Daily, affirmations have changed who I

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am.

Brad Miller:

30 is a certain number that you use when you

Brad Miller:

write out your affirmations. Do you just kind of make sure you

Brad Miller:

write out one? Or do you do?

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

Maybe Maybe I like to have my clients

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

have at least six or six to 12. And they're together enough to

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make you feel like it's worth your time. You write it from

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memory every day, once you thought what really good, strong

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verbiage. Same every day, you'll change it a little over time,

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obviously. But basically write the same thing every day in

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preferably in the same order. And you just write it everyday

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first thing in the day, I like to also pray over him because

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

that's why I won't but every day I write the same thing I've been

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writing, I opened up my frame like so this is very serious

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

child, very serious. I don't have very much I do. We're

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

talking about mathematics with some affirmations. But I've been

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probably 10 years I've been writing I laugh easily. And

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

often things like that the things that I want to be unkind

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

in though you can do all kinds of things like that. And they

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

make a difference. You have to really want it, you have to do

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it every day. And you have to actually write it doesn't work

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to just look in the mirror and say, Gosh, I'm great, that's

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fine. But it's not really going to affect you like writing down

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a serious, powerful, well worded,

Brad Miller:

and that's a that's an awesome thing to do. I know

Brad Miller:

that getting better every day reminds me of one of the mentors

Brad Miller:

I have in terms of my background is pastors guy named john

Brad Miller:

Wesley, who founded a religious group called the Methodist and,

Brad Miller:

and yeah, he talked about perfection. And a lot of people

Brad Miller:

thought he meant you know, try to be perfect. Now he thought

Brad Miller:

about going on to perfection. Perfection isn't heaven. But the

Brad Miller:

idea is we get better every day. It's not about an arrogant thing

Brad Miller:

is I'm perfect, but I'm calling on to perfection, you got

Brad Miller:

something to shoot for, to get better. And I love what you're

Brad Miller:

sharing, sharing there about the affirmation. And that mission

Brad Miller:

statement information, I think is so important because it

Brad Miller:

grounds us and our values that and then kind of sets the tone,

Brad Miller:

then if you do it first thing in the morning, you're mentioning

Brad Miller:

there, then it sets the tone for the rest of the day. And that's

Brad Miller:

an awesome thing there. Let's talk for a minute Sherry about

Brad Miller:

some of the people you are influencing now, your book is

Brad Miller:

something your way your your writing, flowing to people Life

Brad Miller:

Mastery, personal progression towards infinite potential. But

Brad Miller:

you've also had a business that helps influence people in their

Brad Miller:

physical health, you've had clients that you're working with

Brad Miller:

taking your Life Mastery, tell us about what you're offering to

Brad Miller:

people through your book and through your, your clients who

Brad Miller:

teach you what kinds of things are people going to get? If they

Brad Miller:

connect up with you in one of these ways?

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

I think the main thing is like I

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

was saying before that tools, you know, first of all, some

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understanding motivation to know that it is how to be happy is

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progressing. Everyday, like you said, we're not going to get

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there, which is a good news of this life. Good news is just

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something to do some areas to work on itj areas. And I think

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that that will surprise a few people is aviaries is the

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obvious many that I learned a while back, I realized

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something's missing. And I've added character for the working

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

on our character, lifestyle, because we're working towards

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

kind of life. So there's eight areas to work from there are is

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

and then the tools to do it. And one of the tools that I offer on

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

my website as well as a personal assessment. I'd like to say this

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

about and then the tools I just talked about how to do tracking

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

and how the affirmations also there's another tool for

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

tracking goals called satisfaction checklist. It's in

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the book. Those are all available, the assessments

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available on the web on the website, as well as the tracking

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sheet. The one thing I'd like to say about is a lot of people in

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this genre in this industry are younger people who have writing

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

a book to build a career on, I did not do that. And then

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

they'll they'll only teach a little bit because they got to

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

buy another book so they can continue speaking and teaching

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

whenever I'm independently wealthy. I don't need to work. I

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

Do you love staying in the personal development realm, I

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

love working with people, but on my own time schedule. So when I

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

wrote this book, I didn't think, Oh, this is going to lead me on

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to great things, I really want to make a difference in people's

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

lives. I want to leave people with something nice when I have

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

all this information in my head, and I'm not getting any younger.

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

And I thought how can I get this out to more people. And so the

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

book is really, really involved sincerely, my heart both

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inspired out to source greater than myself and written

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deliberately with the intent solely to make a difference in

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somebody else's life. So the books available I do do some

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work in but not very much. I do about two to four people at the

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

most because I have down to doing too many wore me out we

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

are working on a mentoring program now with some young

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

people been in my program are developing a mentoring program.

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

So that's gonna hopefully launch in the fall, but that will be

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

their business. I don't know that. Exactly.

Brad Miller:

I love the fact that you're Yeah, hey, you have

Brad Miller:

a very clear cognizance, Sherry about your motivations and where

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you're coming from on this, and how you're choosing to see this

Brad Miller:

as a gift to be helpful to others, rather than just a

Brad Miller:

vehicle or resource to serve your own needs and that type of

Brad Miller:

thing. And that that's awesome. process. Let's just talk for a

Brad Miller:

minute about the results of that. And then we'll well kind

Brad Miller:

of bring this thing around for a landing year. What I mean by the

Brad Miller:

results, it sounds like you've been working with some people

Brad Miller:

you mentioned some group people there, tell us a story. You want

Brad Miller:

to get names, of course, but story about a person who you've

Brad Miller:

worked with who you have seen transformation, some change in

Brad Miller:

their life, to go from wherever they were at whatever situation

Brad Miller:

right to something better.

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

Oh, there's so many that one comes

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

right to mind, because now I'm working with him. He was here

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

when we first got on the call leading as we have a meeting.

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

But we're together, he worked with me for 14 months. And he

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

just bought the big ideas. Most of my clients are

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

entrepreneurially minded. So they're trying to have all these

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

big ideas and turn them down. But he is falling in love with

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

his program he carries around his tracking sheets everywhere

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

and his affirmations everywhere. And to watch him go from sort of

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

listening. It's kind of like a disciplined, young adult, to

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

just like a man, it's just been such a fun process to watch. He

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

got hold of these disciplines, to move from one discipline to

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

pulling his life together overcoming some bad habits,

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

establishing some good habits. It's just been a joy to watch.

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

Mostly I don't work with people who are meat counseling, right?

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

I'm working with people that are doing good, they want to do

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

better. And he is just, it's been just fun to watch him. I

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

spoke out a couple of weeks ago in front of a group of realtors,

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

and he was there just helped me want to be there for some

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reason. So I had him. I just talked about what nasty and and

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

he sold the show that one of the women afterwards that we were

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

you mentioned me. He's mentoring but I said just tell him Yeah,

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

totally. Yes. So he's just, it's been so fun and brings such joy

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

to me to watch him make changes. I can go to all clients, they

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

always just just they always just tell me that just great.

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

But

Brad Miller:

from my perspective, sure. That's what

Brad Miller:

it's really all about. When you see life transformation happen,

Brad Miller:

it's just nothing better. I mean, nothing better than that.

Brad Miller:

And that's what Jazz's me up. So reason I'm loving to be around

Brad Miller:

my grandchildren these days, one is three and one is about nine

Brad Miller:

or 10 months old. You see those dramatic physical and verbal

Brad Miller:

changes and all that kind of thing. It's just so exciting.

Brad Miller:

But it's also exciting when you see when you work with someone,

Brad Miller:

and they're kind of stuck at life, I call it you know, the

Brad Miller:

kind of that malaise of mediocrity and when you get

Brad Miller:

stuck in those, when adverse when life happens when a when a

Brad Miller:

COVID crisis happens or the things and some people get

Brad Miller:

stuck, and somebody will find a way to move through it. And

Brad Miller:

people like you are helping people move through it. And when

Brad Miller:

you see that happen to know from the people who I coach and work

Brad Miller:

with when I see it happened when you see a life change happen.

Brad Miller:

And people move through adversity you try to call a life

Brad Miller:

of peace, prosperity and purpose man, there's just nothing better

Brad Miller:

and you got some good stuff here in your book. And just to

Brad Miller:

clarify that tell people how they can get to tell people how

Brad Miller:

they can get the book and get connected with you

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

on my master hinfo calm I'm really

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

easy to find emailed me there are some on Facebook and all the

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

usual always willing to contact you back at this point I can do

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

that the book is available on Amazon mt Life Mastery, a

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

personal progression towards a potential by Sheree Sterling

Sherry Stirling Fernandez:

pregnant. And there's also the free downloads on the website.

Brad Miller:

Lots of great resources there. And it's all

Brad Miller:

you'll find it all Life Mastery info calm that is. Sherry's

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website. You will also put connections and links at our

Brad Miller:

website, Dr. Brad miller.com. To as we always like to provide

Brad Miller:

resources from authors and leaders and teachers who are all

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about helping you to transform your life. So it's been our

Brad Miller:

guest our pleasure Today you're on the beyond diversity podcast

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to have a great leader and mentor who can be helpful to

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your life. Her name is Sherry Sterling finance and her She is

Brad Miller:

the author of Life Mastery, personal progression towards the

Brad Miller:

infinite potential. Thank you for being our guest today on the

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