157. What To Do When You Don’t Feel Like a Human with the author of “Blue Sky Morning” and “The Too Tall Giraffe” Christine Maier
Author Christian Maier is on a mission to help people gain clarity on how to turn their obstacles into opportunities and understand their beauty, purpose, and power.
She does this through the power of guiding people to clarify and tell their personal story transforming perceived weaknesses into strengths.
In Episode 157 of The Beyond Adversity Podcast Christine talks to Dr. Brad Miller about her own story of overcoming adversity to achieve success as an author and public speaker.
Christine was born with a cleft lip and palate and had over 25 surgeries; her first at four months old. Christine not only looked different growing up, but she also struggled with her speech, and too often, missed school for surgeries and treatments. A learning disability added to her challenges and her small size made her a last-round pick in the elementary school kickball draft.
Tired of hearing stories about what people can’t achieve, Christine is now passionate about guiding you through changing your thinking and turning obstacles into opportunities.
With twenty years of experience in the NYPD Christine has seen some of the best and worst of life and achieved the following milestones:
- Patrol in Manhattan
- 9/11 rescue worker
- Instructor at the Police Academy
- Recipient of the Eliot H. Lumbard Scholarship
- Promoted to Sergeant in 2007
- Member of the planning team and speaker at the National Homeland Security Conference
- Manager of 35 amazing individuals coordinating emergency response
Christine earned her Bachelor’s Degree from the Pennsylvania State University and her Master’s Degree from the University at Albany.
She enjoys exploring her passion for travel, history, photography, reading, and creating community.
Christine has turned to write fiction, speaking, and coaching to respond to the question found posted in social media “why people sometimes do not feel human.”
Her book “Blue Sky Morning” addresses the life of a woman whose idyllic life was suddenly devastated by an automobile crash and her road to recovery. Her children’s book “The Too Tall Giraffe” helps children to discover that their strength resides in their differences.
Christine has a flair for finding adventure and the ability to ignore those who tell her how to live life, Christine is living a life without limits. You might find her at a movie premiere, cage diving in South Africa, visiting the Great Pyramids in Egypt, or climbing volcanoes in the Galapagos Islands.
She indeed is driven To Turn Obstacles Into Opportunities!
Dr. Brad Miller’s interview with Christine Maire on Episode 157 of The Beyond Adversity Podcast is a must-listen for the person looking for practical tools and a story guide to help you tell your personal transformational story.
The Mission of The Beyond Adversity Podcast with Dr. Brad Miller is to help people navigate personal adversity and achieve a life of peace, prosperity, and purpose. The Podcast is published weekly by Dr. Brad Miller at www.DrBradMiller.com
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Transcript
We have Christine Meier who's with us here. She is
Brad Miller:the author of blue sky, morning and the up upcoming book, the
Brad Miller:children's book too tall giraffe. She is has a great
Brad Miller:story to tell and a great author in terms of her story where she
Brad Miller:has overcome some great adversity in her life. Some
Brad Miller:physical problems, she had many surgeries as a child, some
Brad Miller:issues regarding speech, she splits her time as a police
Brad Miller:officer in the New York Police Department. But right now she is
Brad Miller:all about helping you in your life, to gain clarity in your
Brad Miller:life to help you to discover opportunities and to understand
Brad Miller:what she calls your beauty, purpose and power. So it's my
Brad Miller:privilege to welcome to our podcast today. gUc Chris Humira.
Brad Miller:Chrissy Welcome. Hi, how are you today, Brad? Well, I'm also this
Brad Miller:so good to have you. With us here on beyond adversity, you've
Brad Miller:got quite a story to tell. And you've got a book out that has
Brad Miller:to do with how to tell a story about how someone else who
Brad Miller:overcome some adversity, but let's hear about your life and
Brad Miller:your situation. How did a person go from being having some
Brad Miller:difficulties with their physical health growing up, become
Brad Miller:involved with the New York Police Department, and now be a
Brad Miller:person who's helpful to other people gain clarity in their
Brad Miller:life? Tell us a little bit about your story.
Christine Maier:Alright, well, as you alluded to, I was born
Christine Maier:with a cleft lip and palate, I had my first surgery when I was
Christine Maier:four months old. Over the course of my life, I've had 25
Christine Maier:surgeries just for the cleft lip and palate, most of those as a
Christine Maier:child, I kind of grew up just overcoming adversity, it wasn't
Christine Maier:a choice. Or at least it didn't feel like it was just, here's
Christine Maier:life, just do it. And so I just did it. So I think that really
Christine Maier:helps me when I was also a small, scrawny kid in school.
Christine Maier:Because when you have a cleft lip, you often have feeding
Christine Maier:issues. So you know, the growth chart is a little bit can be
Christine Maier:different. And I also had a learning disability, I had a lot
Christine Maier:of things not going for me as a child. But I think that I always
Christine Maier:just saw it as is just one more thing to overcome, prove
Christine Maier:everybody else wrong. You know, whether I realized it or not,
Christine Maier:that was kind of always what I was doing and thinking.
Brad Miller:So you dealt with any pushback on your life, by
Brad Miller:pushing back yourself. What I'm getting at is, I dealt with this
Brad Miller:feature, edit myself growing up and felt a little bit, you know,
Brad Miller:put down by others and that kind of thing, as well. And there is
Brad Miller:challenges that we have children and other whether it's in
Brad Miller:childhood with other children or adults, who give us a hard time,
Brad Miller:but you just chose to push back. It sounds like is that the case?
Christine Maier:Yeah. And I think I also quickly learned to
Christine Maier:celebrate the things that were different about me, instead of
Christine Maier:looking to be the same as everybody else. I can remember
Christine Maier:in third grade, I was playing kickball, you know, I wasn't a
Christine Maier:great player, I kicked the ball, the pitcher gets and throws it
Christine Maier:at me and it goes over my head. In that moment. I thought he
Christine Maier:missed me because I'm sure he missed me because I'm little I
Christine Maier:was like, so that's, that's my power. My power isn't my size
Christine Maier:and big, my powers my size and being small. And so little
Christine Maier:things like that make it easier to overcome every other
Christine Maier:obstacle.
Brad Miller:Well, that's awesome. Because I think you
Brad Miller:probably know and working with people, a lot of people take the
Brad Miller:opposite approach, you know, they would feel you throw the,
Brad Miller:you know, they would feel short, they would feel inadequate, this
Brad Miller:type of thing. And so I know a part of what you're about is
Brad Miller:helping people to change their mindset and to change from
Brad Miller:seeing themselves to being somebody lesser than to
Brad Miller:something, you know, beautiful and powerful and that kind of
Brad Miller:thing. So he ended up somehow he ended up in the New York Police
Brad Miller:Department. Tell us a bit about how that happened. And what was
Brad Miller:you you mentioned, or I understand, you know, there you
Brad Miller:had some both some great experiences and some really
Brad Miller:challenging experiences, as were you an actual police officer. Is
Brad Miller:that what you work? Yeah, I
Christine Maier:was a police officer. And then I got promoted
Christine Maier:to sergeant and I retired as a sergeant after 20 years.
Brad Miller:But tell us a bit about your experiences in new
Brad Miller:york police department.
Christine Maier:Yeah, so um, you know, I feel like sometimes
Christine Maier:when the candidate end up there, but I took a test. I was a
Christine Maier:criminal justice major at Penn State. I took the test. I got
Christine Maier:called around when I was graduating. So it seemed like a
Christine Maier:natural step to take. It wasn't always easy, but it was often
Christine Maier:very fun. Very interesting. See, you know, have that front road
Christine Maier:to life. But there were hard times. I mean, you know, not
Christine Maier:everybody has a great life going on. You know, there's a lot of
Christine Maier:people in domestic violence situations, people getting
Christine Maier:arrested because they're, they don't have money. They're just
Christine Maier:desperate. And they don't have the resources so they're
Christine Maier:resorting to criminal activity. So there's things like that
Christine Maier:they're really hard and can be hard to deal with. That's a
Christine Maier:police officer. Death when you're with somebody and they
Christine Maier:find out their loved one guts guide, those are hard moments.
Christine Maier:Sure. There's also New York City, there's so much going on,
Christine Maier:there's so much celebration going on, too. So that's the
Christine Maier:flip side where you can see the joy in people at a parade, or a
Christine Maier:celebration for something.
Brad Miller:You were serving as a police officer during the time
Brad Miller:of the 911 disaster. Is that is that the case? And yeah, I was a
Brad Miller:rookie cop. Wow. So tell us a little bit about how you
Brad Miller:experienced that. You know, we talked about this whole podcast
Brad Miller:about overcoming adversity that was a natural, you know, a
Brad Miller:national disaster, but certainly a focused one in New York City.
Brad Miller:So tell us what how you experienced that.
Christine Maier:I was lucky in that I was off that day. So I
Christine Maier:was at home in bed. But obviously I went into work that
Christine Maier:day, I feel like that first month, it was like this bubble
Christine Maier:of just work. And just taking care of work. That was the first
Christine Maier:priority, I would, you know, come home, I would sleep for a
Christine Maier:couple hours, I was living with my parents at the time, my
Christine Maier:mother would give me food, wash my clothes, like, but everything
Christine Maier:was work. And once you step back from it, you know, after about
Christine Maier:maybe two months, you start to realize that you have to be part
Christine Maier:of the world. That's when, you know, the stress and anxiety and
Christine Maier:the depression starts to kick in with it. There was a couple
Christine Maier:months that were really rough to sort of deal with that, you
Christine Maier:know, I wasn't I wasn't working. So I wasn't impacted, you know,
Christine Maier:physically by it also dealing with, you know, all the people
Christine Maier:who were working and weren't impacted by it. And then, you
Christine Maier:know, people thinking you're a hero, and you're like, I just do
Christine Maier:my job that, you know, that's what I signed up for it. It was
Christine Maier:never a thought in my mind on 911 that I wouldn't be going
Christine Maier:into work. It was just when and where and how do I how do I do
Christine Maier:that? You know, there's a lot of interesting, conflicting things.
Christine Maier:And it takes a while to sort of get to that other side of it.
Brad Miller:And then in that process, then you witnessed a
Brad Miller:lot of things and you were part of it yourself. And part of what
Brad Miller:I want to try to unpack with you Chrissy is how you have unpacked
Brad Miller:these various challenges that you've had, and how you maybe
Brad Miller:seen others doing it as well, your story as one of overcome
Brad Miller:adversity as a youngster and and growing up and now as a police
Brad Miller:officer. So how did you end up transitioning from a police
Brad Miller:officer to what you do now, as a writer and as an advocate for
Brad Miller:others?
Christine Maier:I think I had a moment when I realized that, you
Christine Maier:know, my job is good. I enjoyed it. But there was something more
Christine Maier:out there. And I didn't know what it was. And so I started
Christine Maier:working on goals for the next year. In that process, I
Christine Maier:realized I actually during that process, somebody had posted
Christine Maier:something on social media about not feeling like a human. That's
Christine Maier:kind of the gist of it. It really hit me because even
Christine Maier:through all of the diversity I'd been through there, you know,
Christine Maier:there have been, it wasn't always easy. I never didn't feel
Christine Maier:like a human. I'd never hit that low point. I really wanted to
Christine Maier:explore how that happens. And how do we rebuild from it. And
Christine Maier:that was what started me it was writing my book blue sky
Christine Maier:morning. But I want to write it from a different perspective,
Christine Maier:because I didn't want it to be somebody who had dealt with
Christine Maier:adversity. Before I wanted somebody who hadn't dealt with
Christine Maier:it before. Yes, and it all of a sudden falls in their lap. So
Christine Maier:the idea is that this character has a pretty good life. And then
Christine Maier:and then the car accident just changes it. And she's got to
Christine Maier:find her way back to herself again.
Brad Miller:Whether we kind of live in a world where tragedy
Brad Miller:and adversity can have happened to us. And suddenly, you know,
Brad Miller:for instance, you know, the whole pandemic situation
Brad Miller:happened to everybody all at once, no matter if your life was
Brad Miller:calling greater going crummy at the time, all of a sudden, you
Brad Miller:had to adjust. Certainly people in New York City when 911
Brad Miller:happened, those planes crashed and worse DC. You had to, you
Brad Miller:know, adjust to that in my own life. Just not too long ago, my
Brad Miller:own personal secretary was killed in a car accident. So
Brad Miller:I've had to deal with that church has to do with that. And
Brad Miller:me personally and her family, of course, the suddenness of that
Brad Miller:happening. So let's talk for a minute about how you had this
Brad Miller:moment when you wanted to be you I think he termed it how to be
Brad Miller:human or the human aspect here. So you had to make a decision
Brad Miller:then to do something about that. What did you do? What I forget
Brad Miller:how you phrased exactly but, you know, how did you choose? What
Brad Miller:actions Did you take to move from whatever that feeling of
Brad Miller:less than human or not human or whatever it was to being human?
Brad Miller:What kind of things did you do?
Christine Maier:Part of it is recognizing what's going on. I
Christine Maier:think a lot of people they Don't feel like they're human or
Christine Maier:whatever feeling they have. And they don't even know it. They
Christine Maier:just, they just don't feel right. Once they recognize it,
Christine Maier:that is really the first step. Because from there, you can
Christine Maier:unpack it, you can find out what story is creating that and
Christine Maier:create a new story in the future. That's a simple way to
Christine Maier:do it. But that's really what the process is. But if you don't
Christine Maier:know what's going on, you can't take that first step recognize.
Christine Maier:Yeah, and I think I know, in the last year, at my job I had, I
Christine Maier:was having a tough time, every day, I would just say, there's a
Christine Maier:lesson here, you don't know what it is, and you don't care what
Christine Maier:it is today. But there's a lesson in one day, you're going
Christine Maier:to know what it is, it just took the sting off of it a little
Christine Maier:bit, and it told me that it's going to be okay, even though
Christine Maier:you don't know what the problem is, you will. And you don't know
Christine Maier:the solution as you will.
Brad Miller:So hear you say at least two things here. One is to
Brad Miller:have your antenna up your awareness have to recognize that
Brad Miller:there's an issue here and I got to either do something about it
Brad Miller:or, or choose to live with it. And then the notice the
Brad Miller:blessings, notice the gratitude, notice the learning that takes
Brad Miller:place, even the midst of difficult times. And I think a
Brad Miller:lot of folks have experienced adversity as a learning
Brad Miller:experience if they choose to, and to come out to a better
Brad Miller:place. So that's awesome. That that that you did that. It
Brad Miller:sounds like writing was a part of that process for you as well
Brad Miller:was that a part of what you did is what else to kind of process
Brad Miller:things
Christine Maier:I did I i've i've journaled on and off for
Christine Maier:years. And so I think writing is kind of a natural progression of
Christine Maier:that, because it's just, I write fiction. So I'm creating a story
Christine Maier:out of somebody else's journal, what's in their head, to give
Christine Maier:insight to other people.
Brad Miller:Because you emphasize that you are a story
Brad Miller:guide. So when you say you're a story guide, what does that
Brad Miller:mean? You try to help people unpack their story is to help me
Brad Miller:understand what you love to do there.
Christine Maier:Yeah, so it's understanding their story
Christine Maier:unpacking their story, because there's a story of every story.
Christine Maier:You know, if you're not, you know, if you feel like you're
Christine Maier:ugly, there's somebody who in the past, he probably told you,
Christine Maier:you were ugly, in one way or another. You know, that didn't,
Christine Maier:you don't just come up with that on your own out of thin air
Christine Maier:there, there's something there. So once you unpack that, you can
Christine Maier:redefine it, you can redefine it into beauty in your own terms,
Christine Maier:because beauty is not just the outside of us, it's the inside
Christine Maier:of us. It's the our souls, it's our heart. It's our intentions.
Christine Maier:One person's definition is not everybody's definition, the more
Christine Maier:we love ourselves, and others, the more that we see the beauty
Christine Maier:in them,
Brad Miller:but beauty and and just physical beauty as an
Brad Miller:attribute is very for the exterior, external is very
Brad Miller:subjective. But the internal, it can be, you know, objective, you
Brad Miller:can make it your your own, you can claim your own beauty and
Brad Miller:your own clarity about your own your own life. So that's
Brad Miller:awesome. So appreciate that. So part of what you help others in
Brad Miller:is helping to pack their story and recognize things. Are there
Brad Miller:any exercises or any ways that you help people to do that?
Brad Miller:Because that's what I'm getting at. Here. Christy is so many
Brad Miller:people are kind of numb, they're kind of cocooned or they're kind
Brad Miller:of in that pattern. They're on a they're in a you know, they're
Brad Miller:just punching the time clock, so to speak, and getting through
Brad Miller:day to day. How can you help people then to gain clarity,
Brad Miller:gain awareness? How can you do that?
Christine Maier:Yeah, it can be as easy as listing down all of
Christine Maier:those stories, and you don't have to write the whole story,
Christine Maier:but I would call it a label. Just listing them down. And even
Christine Maier:coming back to that list two days later, you're going to add
Christine Maier:more things to it. That's where the awareness comes in. And
Christine Maier:that's that first piece of it, it's actually acknowledging
Christine Maier:them, it's the writing them down, you know, reinforces it in
Christine Maier:your brain. That's the first thing that I usually do with
Christine Maier:people.
Brad Miller:That's awesome. So write it down, make a list
Brad Miller:label. So I'd love that the way you use that terminology there
Brad Miller:and how that's a real tool to use how labels can sometimes be
Brad Miller:considered, you know, sometimes can be sidered a negative thing
Brad Miller:even know what the label is, but if we re label ourselves, so to
Brad Miller:speak, is what I'm hearing. Hearing. Yeah.
Christine Maier:Yeah, because every label has a negative side
Christine Maier:and a positive side. So you know, the next thing would be
Christine Maier:finding finding the positive event.
Brad Miller:So we're talking about being cognizant of kind of
Brad Miller:working on your inner life, you know, as helping that and how
Brad Miller:that you can translate that into how that is expressed to to
Brad Miller:other people. And the inner life has to do with all kinds of
Brad Miller:things, is there any way that you either personally, or
Brad Miller:advocate some connection to something greater than yourself,
Brad Miller:it might be spiritual life, it might be journaling it might be,
Brad Miller:meditation is along along this line and how you try to center
Brad Miller:yourself to think about some power beyond yourself that helps
Brad Miller:to energize you.
Christine Maier:Yeah, I'm a believer, I was raised Catholic.
Christine Maier:So I'm an I know, like, Christian is a little bit
Christine Maier:different, and the beliefs and there's some differences in
Christine Maier:religion, but it all comes down to God. And he is our guiding
Christine Maier:light, every time that I've ever questioned what I was doing, or
Christine Maier:where I was going. Somewhere in some way, there's, there's been
Christine Maier:gotten a message from God telling me that I'm on the right
Christine Maier:track, or maybe I'm not on the right track, everybody hears
Christine Maier:that message in a different way. It's just being receptive when
Christine Maier:you're listening. Because there's times when we're, we're
Christine Maier:looking for that message. And that's when God's gonna send it
Christine Maier:when we're, you know, having a good time and you know, kind of
Christine Maier:things are lighter, he may not be there in that same way. But
Christine Maier:when we're doing that deep work, I think that's when he appears
Christine Maier:and tells us, you know, which way we should be going and
Christine Maier:pushes us in the right direction. For connected with
Christine Maier:him, Well, on
Brad Miller:that deep worker, as you call it, is where we
Brad Miller:sometimes get what some people call, maybe call it a calling or
Brad Miller:holy discontent. I've also heard a call that you know, that, that
Brad Miller:sense of unrest that you have to do, you got to do something
Brad Miller:different. And it has to come from someplace, and we have to
Brad Miller:pay attention to it. I think I love what you said earlier about
Brad Miller:paying attention and about noticing things and I think, a
Brad Miller:part of the inner life drawing on a spiritual power that helps
Brad Miller:us to do that if we pay attention, but also what, and
Brad Miller:I'm a believer as well, and that, that the spiritual message
Brad Miller:then gives us power to do what we have to do, because on our
Brad Miller:own account, it's tough. It's tough to do on our own. Would
Brad Miller:you agree with that?
Christine Maier:Definitely. Because there are times when I
Christine Maier:i've been like, you know what, this books really hard to write?
Christine Maier:Yes, I could go be watching Netflix, but the the those times
Christine Maier:when I feel connected, and I know that God's telling me this
Christine Maier:is the right path. Those are the times when you know, when I'm
Christine Maier:like that, that's great. I'm like, No, this is my purpose.
Christine Maier:This is why I'm here.
Brad Miller:What are the part of this I believe Chrissy is the
Brad Miller:emotional component, you know, we you've mentioned, we've
Brad Miller:talked a little bit about, you know, taking some action, you
Brad Miller:know, listening, learning, writing some things down and
Brad Miller:then listening to the spiritual component. But the emotional
Brad Miller:component, how is how we relate to other people, and you mention
Brad Miller:a little bit about that growing up, but how do you think
Brad Miller:relationships good, bad or otherwise something personal, or
Brad Miller:sometimes maybe mentorship, sometimes even books or
Brad Miller:conferences, that type of thing? How does building relationships,
Brad Miller:especially loving, caring relationships? How does that
Brad Miller:fuel you? How does that help you to keep moving this whole
Brad Miller:process, accountability or otherwise,
Christine Maier:I'm one of those people who could kind of,
Christine Maier:you know, pandemic didn't affect me that much. I'm like, I can
Christine Maier:sit in my apartment all the time, and do just take care of
Christine Maier:things on my own. But I've also realized the more in community
Christine Maier:with other people, the more I accomplish, not just in terms
Christine Maier:of, you know, a task list. But the more I accomplish with
Christine Maier:people in general, the more people that I can reach even in
Christine Maier:our solitude, and people who like that, that can feel great
Christine Maier:at times, but we have to be in the world, because that's where
Christine Maier:change happens. I think even for people who are a little bit
Christine Maier:scared of that all that interaction, that emotional
Christine Maier:attachment to people. It's still where the magic happens.
Brad Miller:There are people who are extroverted introverts
Brad Miller:and most people are somewhere in between. And yet, many people
Brad Miller:who are introverted, you know, my wife is this way, she talks
Brad Miller:about how she's an introvert for the most part, but she takes her
Brad Miller:sustenance and her power from her solitude, but then has to,
Brad Miller:you know, be in connection with others as well in order to share
Brad Miller:that and to interact with that and where other people may an
Brad Miller:extrovert may find their power, their energy from you know,
Brad Miller:party and all the time or whatever who would be but I
Brad Miller:think we have a responsibility and an opportunity, as you said
Brad Miller:to be in community. And that's where life happens. You know,
Brad Miller:you know, we weed or solitude, we need life to happen and
Brad Miller:especially when we feel if we are feel loved and receive love.
Brad Miller:That's an emotional, Jazz's up. So is there anybody any 80
Brad Miller:people in your life that you have accountability to, or have
Brad Miller:some relationship with yet help you keep this creative juices
Brad Miller:going at this type of thing.
Christine Maier:Yeah, well, I obviously have my family who
Christine Maier:isn't, you know, in this kind of space, they're like, okay, Chris
Christine Maier:is writing a book. Yeah, Chris, he's doing whatever crazy thing
Christine Maier:Christine wants to do. And they're supportive of it, but
Christine Maier:it's not their thing. And that's fine. But I have some great
Christine Maier:friends actually, around the world that I've met, you know,
Christine Maier:through the internet through traveling, they give me
Christine Maier:perspective of the world. And they remind me of why things are
Christine Maier:important and why it's important to continue. But I also have,
Christine Maier:you know, most important masterminds, where I'm working
Christine Maier:with people who are in a more similar place, and, you know,
Christine Maier:with businesses and books, and all these pieces that are
Brad Miller:more like minded people with similar trajectories
Brad Miller:in life, this type of thing. Yeah,
Christine Maier:yeah. And they're the ones who I think,
Christine Maier:keep me on track, when I'm like, when the squirrel comes by, and
Christine Maier:I'm trying to write my book, they helped me get out helped me
Christine Maier:get focused back on what's important. And so it's good to
Christine Maier:have these different types of people in your life.
Brad Miller:And of course, it seems to me you're looking to
Brad Miller:make a contribution in other people's life and people you've
Brad Miller:worked with, through your website, the Christine Meier
Brad Miller:calm. And we'll give that out here, again, a little bit here,
Brad Miller:but you're reaching out to people. So that's awesome. Let's
Brad Miller:talk for a minute, Chrissy about disciplines and habits and
Brad Miller:rituals and practices. You've already mentioned a couple of
Brad Miller:those about journaling, for instance, let's talk about any
Brad Miller:ways that you have had found, I like to think of this kind of
Brad Miller:the cognitive part, you know, the place the application part,
Brad Miller:we take all the swirling stuff in our brain in our mind, and,
Brad Miller:and we apply it we make it happen, you know, we do it. Tell
Brad Miller:us about any routines, habits, practices, disciplines you may
Brad Miller:have in your life that you find helpful that might be helpful to
Brad Miller:other people.
Christine Maier:You know, one of the things that I I've done
Christine Maier:as an adult, when lint comes every year, is I give up
Christine Maier:something, you know, at first I was doing it for God. And then I
Christine Maier:realized that this is actually an opportunity for me to give up
Christine Maier:something to better my life, which is serving God. And so
Christine Maier:this year, I actually I've been having trouble sleeping, and I
Christine Maier:keep saying, you know, I'm going to go to bed early, I'm going to
Christine Maier:know all these great habits I'm going to do and I don't actually
Christine Maier:do any of them. And I actually set up one where I don't touch
Christine Maier:my phone at night, which was something that I I had to do
Christine Maier:with my job. Before I retired, I had to keep an eye on my phone.
Christine Maier:So it's a bad habit that I had to break. And I amazing how you
Christine Maier:just set a time periods 40 days, and it's already changing my
Christine Maier:sleeping.
Brad Miller:Well, that's awesome. And then afford, yeah,
Brad Miller:I'm sorry.
Christine Maier:So sometimes it's just setting a goal for a
Christine Maier:period of time and following it. And that can just change your
Christine Maier:life.
Brad Miller:I love the 40 day analogy of the Latin period. And
Brad Miller:because there's a lot of studies Krissy and you probably know
Brad Miller:about this, but if you commit, you know, try to crank up your
Brad Miller:willpower for that 40 days, for instance, then something that
Brad Miller:you that you do during your willpower period, then can
Brad Miller:eventually become an ingrained habit. So we'll call it 21 days
Brad Miller:and other things like this. But 40 days is basically a six week
Brad Miller:period or five or six week period course in the Christian
Brad Miller:Lenten year, it is six weeks almost credit your six weeks. If
Brad Miller:you're able to do something for around that amount of time, it
Brad Miller:can be pumped a part of your life and transfer transformative
Brad Miller:like you said, it's not just a spiritual, you know, God Jesus
Brad Miller:thing, it is a personal transformation thing.
Christine Maier:Yeah, and every time I've done it the results
Christine Maier:that lasted well past the 40 days.
Brad Miller:Yes, yes. And so yeah, that's I think that's kind
Brad Miller:of the point, you know, the 40 day fast or whatever it would be
Brad Miller:helps him build a habit and you've mentioned basically when
Brad Miller:you put your phone away that's a form of fasting you know, the
Brad Miller:way I like to look at you know, you have excluded yourself from
Brad Miller:some habit or pleasure in life and replaced with something
Brad Miller:better in this case sleep so yeah, that's awesome. And when
Brad Miller:you work with other people on your website, the Christine
Brad Miller:Meier calm when people come to you, Chrissy What are they
Brad Miller:looking for? Where are they at? And what are you able to offer
Brad Miller:to them? What can people find when they come to you
Christine Maier:often they want to change their mindset they
Christine Maier:know that they have too much negative thoughts and they're
Christine Maier:not accomplishing what they want to you know, that's the most
Christine Maier:common thing that I'm that I'm seeing that are the common
Christine Maier:thread no matter what they say. They're coming to me for you
Christine Maier:know for that it's it's daily, small, daily practices. is what
Christine Maier:I start them off with. And it could be reading a book, it
Christine Maier:could be journaling. Everybody needs something slightly
Christine Maier:different because everybody has a different style and a
Christine Maier:different need and a different way to connect with themselves.
Christine Maier:It's taking a small task every day that changes that mindset.
Christine Maier:It takes time. But it's that dedication to it. And that's why
Christine Maier:you start with something small.
Brad Miller:Well, let's let's let's go with that for a second.
Brad Miller:Let's talk about maybe a person or situation you have worked
Brad Miller:with where you've seen someone you've worked with been able to
Brad Miller:do that to achieve some success. Can you just tell us a story
Brad Miller:about somebody you may have worked with, you know, to give
Brad Miller:you names, of course, this type of thing. But any situation may
Brad Miller:work, we've seen this transformation take place.
Christine Maier:Yeah, I've been working with somebody for quite
Christine Maier:a while who really, they've got a lot going on seeing her
Christine Maier:recognize it and seeing her kind of getting rid of the toxic
Christine Maier:things in her life and taking a stand with them. It's been
Christine Maier:rewarding to see her reap the rewards from it and reap that
Christine Maier:reward being freedom. It doesn't make everything else pretty, you
Christine Maier:know, when we hit one, we're in tough times, we have to go
Christine Maier:through the tough times the freedom that comes out of it.
Christine Maier:She feels it every day, even though she's you know, still
Christine Maier:walking that road and going through, you know, the desert,
Brad Miller:so to speak. Well, as you say, on your on your
Brad Miller:website, you'd like to help people become beautiful and
Brad Miller:fearless. And free. And you mentioned that. And so that's an
Brad Miller:awesome sentiment there. And, and I believe it's the
Brad Miller:sentiment, basically, of your book, blue sky morning. And
Brad Miller:that's a fictional work. I understand. And then, but it
Brad Miller:really says a lot about these concepts we've been talking
Brad Miller:about today, doesn't it?
Christine Maier:Yes, it's a it's all in there in little bits
Christine Maier:and pieces. As you know, Emily goes traveling around the world,
Christine Maier:all these lessons pop up in different ways and places,
Christine Maier:people
Brad Miller:and your book is available on Amazon and other
Brad Miller:places like that. And then your upcoming book is The about the
Brad Miller:giraffe the two tall giraffe. Give us just give us a snippet
Brad Miller:about that book.
Christine Maier:Yeah, so better direct named Savannah, who
Christine Maier:starts going to a new school, where she is, as the title would
Christine Maier:make you Yes, too tall for the other kids because she's
Christine Maier:different. They're kind of scared of her and they don't
Christine Maier:want to play with her. They don't want to work with her. And
Christine Maier:then one day, she has the opportunity to help them. And
Christine Maier:I'm not going to tell you what happens. But at the end,
Christine Maier:everybody realizes the value that Savannah brings to their
Christine Maier:school in their community. They celebrate her differences.
Brad Miller:Yes. So there'll be a lesson varying that. And so we
Brad Miller:look forward to that. So your website is Christy v. Christine.
Brad Miller:Meier calm. What do people want to find if they go there?
Christine Maier:They're gonna find my books there. I do some
Christine Maier:coaching there, you'll find out information about that. I have a
Christine Maier:resource on there right now called the focus journal that's
Christine Maier:going to help with that mindset, that small daily task every day
Christine Maier:you can that's a free download. I have some a lots more stuff
Christine Maier:coming with the two tall giraffe as I get ready to ramp it up
Christine Maier:coming out this summer.
Brad Miller:Awesome. We'll look forward to hearing more about
Brad Miller:that dad. It's just been a pleasure to have you with this
Brad Miller:great story that you had to tell about this transition you made
Brad Miller:in your life from childhood through working with the police.
Brad Miller:It now making just a real effort to be helpful to people
Brad Miller:especially helping them and I love your toy, you put it to
Brad Miller:become beautiful, fearless and free. So our has been a pleasure
Brad Miller:to have you with us today. Our guest today on beyond adversity.
Brad Miller:Christine Meyer from the Christine meier.com